Fat Lpn Student

Nursing Students LPN/LVN Students

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Yes I know... Just let it go. But after school is over - long 8 hour days and your main worry should be about books and studying I have one extra load. Dreading the next day of school.

Why did I think fellow nursing students would be better than average everyday people? They are not, in fact probally worse, yes I'am fat not a "little" fat, I weigh 300 pounds. I'am treated with disgust by the other students and the 2 teachers. When classes first started this quarter and this is my first quarter of nursing classes, no one would sit by me, it was really embarassing. I've made "friends" in all my prereq classes no problem and those classrooms were one fourth the size of this room. About a week and a half went by and I decided to seek out somebody to sit by, just having a conversation with a few of the people in the room. I now sit with a group of 3 girls that seem to include me fairly well, but not at first. I felt the usual "fat" person disease routine but after several days of acting like a human, they decided I must be... human that is.

Today something happened that has been bothering me, I really don't look for problems and usually brush off the rudest of comments, but one of my teachers is always talking to me in a demeanor way. And it not just her way of talking, I watch how she talks to others and she doesn't act that way. She encourages us to ask questions or add anything we would like to lecture at any time, for the first time I did today... not really trusting her because of the way she is with me. After I said my little story she made a comment "Now that was hardly wasting our time about." People share everything and anything and she has never said that to anybody else. I'am so use to it that I don't have a tear to shed for my own raw emotion to protect my insides anymore. I've been beaten down so bad that there isn't too many words or statements that could get me. But I have to admit sitting here tonight trying to do some reading for class, I'am not enthused as usual, she did kick me down a bit. A nursing teacher, somebody that I'am trying so hard to respect for her insight and knowledge rip out some of them feelings all overweight people feel when judged so harshly. Yes I could go on a diet, I did not get fat by overeating, I was sick for a period of 2 years and bedridden, few pounds already on a few more here and there, I've had a hard time getting well. Now I am healthy, except for the weight and I almost died but I survived the odds.

Why can't they see a person inside of me?:cry::crying2::angryfire:madface:

Specializes in LTC, rehab, medical review.
and don't you wish some of these people would keep their big "trap" shut! :twocents:

lol! that would make life a lot easier ;)

~missy

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Im so sorry you have to deal with such negative and inconsiderate people. Try and stay focused on school. Don't wast you're precious energy on negativeness. Instead use your energy to focus on school. Know that the mean and cruel things that your instructor and classmates put out will return to them it's called Karma!=)

These tough times won't last for long and you will be a better and stronger person, having survived through it, once the class is over.

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Specializes in CNA, SPN, LPN.

And to think they teach us during school policies on discrimination.

Patients can not be discriminated against, but students CAN!:nono:

NINA

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This should make you want to study harder each night. If your teacher and fellow classmates are treating you like an outsider, it seems that they are wanting you to drop out and/or fail. Get the best grades in the class! Show them what you are capable of THEN they will have no choice but to respect you because you showed them all!

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Specializes in LPN Student.

I honestly don't have much to say, I just wanted to let you know that not all people are the same and I for one view a person for who they are not what they look like.

If it continues with this teacher it may be wise to pull her aside and ask her why your stories are wasteful but others are not, or possibly just ask her if she has a problem you based on her actions towards you. If this gets you no where, then move up the chain in finding someone to figure out what the problem is with the teacher.

Hang in there, and remember your their for one reason and one reason only, not to make friends but to better yourself. Obviously these types of people will not be quality nurses.

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OMG that is sooo rude! what school do u go to, how are they going to deal with patients of all differeant colors,sizes,and illnesses if they can't even give u simple respect! some people have no and i mean no home training!

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Be very, very careful. Some instructors target students for elimination. This may be the case here. She is not very wise because her attitude toward you is showing. You might find yourself the brunt of a very real effort to get you out of the program. Put up with it, don't let her get you down, don't lose your cool. Put your guard up and keep it there so you can get through the program.

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I see the person inside of you, a lot of your fellow nurses-to-be on this site see the person inside you, and your family and loved ones, they see you for the truly remarkable human being you really are! I just want to give you a huge hug right now and a shoulder to cry on; I wish I could be there to help you through this. I don't understand and probably never will understand why people act the way they do?!! If I were in your class, I'd be your best friend. You said you have no tears left to shed, but I'm crying for you. We're all God's children ( I'm not overly religious or anything, just making a point) and I'll never understand why people can not make that correlation and treat each other as we'd like to be treated. I know you want to put on a brave face in front of your teacher and the other students, but I think you should take your instructor aside and ask her if you're doing something wrong and you have a feeling she has taken a dislike towards you (even though you know why she is acting in a crude manner) and let her know that nursing school is stressful enough, and ask her if it's because of your weight? Explain to her about your health complications and that you may be heavier than you used to be, but more than anything you're just thankful to be alive. If she's a Christian, and lets face it, most people claim to be, then she'll feel like a complete idiot and hypocrit for treating you this way. You may not want to approach her about this, but having one less person treating you like your less than ideal is worth a little piece of mind. I sincerely hope things get better for, and we're all here if you need us.

Sincerely,

KaseyP

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I am sorry that you have this challange in addition to the normal nursing school problems. I am hair folicly challanged, and understand how it feels to be on the outside of things. One of my classmates in my nutrition class is about your size. She is one of my best friends. She is very smart and always greets me with a smile. She is ahead of me in the program and gives me many pointers. I will miss her when she graduates in a few weeks.

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A lot of good posts on here. Im overweight too. I used to be thin, but have really packed it on the last few years.

Physically I feel terrible, I dont know how I would even make it thru the program in the terrible shape I am in.

Do any of you worry about being able to do your job at your current weight? I feel like crap, and drop about 30 lbs right now to get down to a reasonable weight I can live with.

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A lot of good posts on here. Im overweight too. I used to be thin, but have really packed it on the last few years.

Physically I feel terrible, I dont know how I would even make it thru the program in the terrible shape I am in.

Do any of you worry about being able to do your job at your current weight? I feel like crap, and drop about 30 lbs right now to get down to a reasonable weight I can live with.

I can tell you from experience you need to get going with getting this under control now because the longer you wait, the more difficult it will be. Also, even the most physically easy job is made more difficult by the weight problem. Patients and patient families may even comment and you will find yourself becoming self conscious and uncomfortable. It is better to avoid if possible. Good luck with starting and maintaining an effective weight control program.

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Caliotter3, :smokin:

Is it just me or are you a tad bit too insensitive to MERRIECNA's plight? I couldn't disagree with you more. I mean, talk about kicking someone when they're down! Lets all commiserate for a few moments shall we in the hopes of a small dose of enlightenment!! We're all different; we come in many shapes and sizes. And although the majority of the population would like to shed a few pounds, desensitization of conscience and disregard for the feelings of another is simply unacceptable!! And when & how did we become such a superficial society that we can no longer see or care to get to know the strengths and moral fiber of an individual?? I mean, come on, we all know right from wrong, or at least we should! Bottom line: weight does not define a man, a man is defined by his character! As individuals, if we are not able to demonstrate empathy and sympathy for others, then I just guess we're all on our way to going to hell in a hand basket!! NO...the instructor is wrong and her classmates are complete and utter morons! But hey, that's okay..... You know what they say about karma!!

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