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The new law in michigan for 3 dui's, over the entire life of u r drivers license, is MANDATORY 5 yrs loss of license. My girlfriend is going through this and had to take an apt. near the hospital so she could walk to work. Lives too far for her SO to drive her everyday. Stays all week near the hospital and goes home on the weekends.
On the other hand, I have to say that drunk driving isn't the only stupid and deadly behavior out there.
One of my very dear friend buried his 2 cousins (father and son!) last week-end. Those of you living in Michigan might have heard of that horror story as well.... they were going to the store to buy the kids running shoes. 2 ******** drag-racing in pick up trucks came onto their small car at 90 mph- One of the pick up trucks T-boned the sedan, killing the dad, his son, while the step son survived but was severely injured (the news report broken ribs and leg, but the family is talking about liver lac, TBI etc...)
Since I rarely watch TV or even listen to the radio, I was unaware of the atrocity until my friend called me on the day of his young cousin's funeral (his dad was buried the following day). Whether alcohol was or not involved will never be known. The "people" whom hit the little sedan were apparently healthy enough to quickly get out of the (stolen) truck and run off! The other truck just vanished at high speed.
I am sometime so ashamed to be of the same race as those whom perpetuate those acts: humans! We are definitely not all created equals (some are missing a brain and a heart!)
Even though those "events" try my faith, I would be grateful if you could keep those 3 innocents in your prayers! The poor kid surviving the accident will need a lot of resilience to recover from his injuries, and his family is already scared about the medical fees piling up.
I am hoping that since the kid is a minor (13 y.o) , the bill will be covered by the state? I honestly don't know much about those regulations, but maybe those of you working in Peds would know more? Your insight would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
B-
Thank you rn/writer.
I really appreciate your words and your kindness.
I will transmit your thoughts to my friend and his family.
Whatever happens to the "drivers"....I can not pretend to understand the grand scheme of "higher forces"....i can only hope and even pray, that somewhere, somehow, it could have some sort of sense....
The blessing resides in the kindness of some people...like the kindness you extended to us...
Thank you.
B-
Each hour Bolling delayed submitting to the tests impaired the accuracy of the readings, but prosecutors say that won't hurt their case against the officer. Experts can accurately estimate his blood-alcohol content at the time of the crash, they said.
Bolling, 39, appeared in Cook County court Tuesday, four days after he was charged with aggravated DUI, reckless homicide and leaving the scene of a crash early Friday that killed Trenton Booker. He is being held in lieu of $2 million bail.
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the sheer arrogance and hypocrisy to the responses in this message are astounding. how many of you can honestly say that, at NO TIME in your life, you havent had more than 2 drinks and driven, even once? Driving intoxicated is not acceptable, nor should it be, but people make mistakes. i can only hope this girl gets help and can move on.
I'll bite and admit that I have done this, being the "most sober" of the available drivers. Was it stupid? You know it. It is by the grace of God that no one was hurt. And I'm mad at myself for doing it...it's something I'd never tell my parents I did because I am ashamed. If I would have been pulled over, I would have deserved any sentence handed to me, even though it could have been a "mistake." But thank goodness the horror of realizing what I did is bad enough...and the horror of realizing what I could have done is much, much worse. I'm scared straight, trust me.
Even though I've allowed myself to be in a precarious situation, I still feel no sympathy. If I had been arrested, I wouldn't want any sympathy. I don't think my attitude is hypocritical and it sure as heck isn't arrogant.
If someone can't stay sober to drive, I don't think I want them managing my care. I also would prefer not to be friends with someone like that who had such disregard for others lives' that they think their right to be drunk supercedes the rights of others to be safe. If someone hasn't learned after making the same mistake three times, I wouldn't want them as my nurse. That old adage "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results" seem applicable in this scenario.
I had a close friend who nearly died thanks to a drunk driver. He now has numerous metal plates, internal fixations, and nearly constant pain. He went through a major depression after he was unable to do his job and provide for his family. He had to relearn how to walk and speak due to his neuro injuries. I'm sure he WISHES he could be lucky enough to ride a bike to work. I think your "friend" should have to look him in the eye, and his children, and his wife, and tell them that she is sorry that his life is ruined, but that is the one who is truly suffering because she has to ride a bike. Boo hoo. A thousand tiny violons begin to play!
You have a right to get really drunk. You have a right to pickle your liver and ruin your life. You DON'T have a right to ruin someone else's.
i personally haven't drank anything alcoholic in about 5 years. i don't because a. it supports my sober alcoholic husband, and b. i never really liked it all that much, and only drank a glass of wine a couple of times a year anyway.
i've been through the driving the alcoholic hubby to work for a year after he lost his driver's license, not fun, but if he hadn't i don't think he'd be sober today (combination of a number of things.) he rode his little pale baby blue moped to aa meetings for that year, but he learned humility.
that statistic quoted about the number of times driving drunk before caught is probably a bit low from my experience with my husband. i don't excuse him for the things he's done in the past, nor do i excuse my enabling of him. i know better now, and i also know i can't live with him in active alcoholism should that situation happen again.
Originally Posted by 81FSUseminole
"the sheer arrogance and hypocrisy to the responses in this message are astounding. how many of you can honestly say that, at NO TIME in your life, you havent had more than 2 drinks and driven, even once? Driving intoxicated is not acceptable, nor should it be, but people make mistakes. i can only hope this girl gets help and can move on."
Even when I was drinking I can safely say that I have NEVER had even one drink and then driven any kind of vehicle. It just isn't acceptable as far as I am concerned. Of course that flies in the face of much american thinking on this subject. Even one drink impacts one's ability to drive safely.
the sheer arrogance and hypocrisy to the responses in this message are astounding. how many of you can honestly say that, at NO TIME in your life, you havent had more than 2 drinks and driven, even once? Driving intoxicated is not acceptable, nor should it be, but people make mistakes. i can only hope this girl gets help and can move on.in response to the post of "how bout 1DUI=5 yr loss of license". are you serious? hopefully you never find yourself on the wrong side of the law. we'll see if you like an extreme punishment for a first offense. until you walk in someone else's skin, dont judge.
I can forgive someone an error in judgement. However, is it really arrogant and judgemental to suggest that the streets of MI are safer with the op's friend walking to work after THREE DUI's? If you think so, then count me in.
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