So I'm a young, single, heterosexual male nurse, and I'm well aware that I'm somewhat of a minority, as most nurses are female, and the ones that aren't, are often gay (yes, I know that is just a silly stereotype, and there's nothing wrong with being gay, but that's beside my point).
Thing is, I'm not even remotely feminine- I have a beard, I listen to heavy metal, I climb mountains, I work out, etcetera. But I get paranoid that most people probably perceive me as a little "girly" or "possibly homosexual", when I talk about being a nurse. I feel especially insecure about my masculinity when I'm walking home wearing my uniform past some heavy set dudes doing roadworks or construction or something "manly". Sometimes, I've even lied about studying nursing at uni- I've sometimes said I'm studying engineering, to seem more masculine.
I'm not ashamed of being a nurse- I'm damn proud! But I feel a little insecure due to the silly non-masculine stereotypes associated with my career choice. I'm also single and looking for a girlfriend, but I sense that women might think I'm gay, or unmanly, due to my profession. Maybe I'm just being paranoid.
Anyway, my main question is- ladies, do you find male nurses attractive? Do you like the idea of a man taking care of you? Or does it seem unmanly and unattractive?
Dude, you're not even allowed to say manly any more.
Not sure of your background, but it's not uncommon for male nurses to be perceived as feminine or gay. It's old and mostly incorrect, but it persists.
As you've learned here, one thing women, and especially nurses, seem to hate is insecurity and lack of confidence. Whether working or dating, if you don't own who you are and what you're doing, you'll get eaten alive or left behind.
I know this isn't relevant to the post, but... Thank you for not giving this guy the third degree! After I responded to this person's thread, I read a few other responses from people (I assume) are female.
They seemed more intent on being condescending and judgmental rather than actually respond back with an answer that may help or clarify this person's problem.
I think I read about 5 posts in a row before someone actually said something non-judgmental and helpful.
Sorry all you other negative users! It seems like a lot of people take things too personally, want to jump down people's throats when given the chance, and are overly patronizing.
I thought nursing was about providing sincere care and teamwork in the work place! This guy let it be public his insecurities, and everyone just tore him apart! OMG.
Absolutely male nurses are attractive. As far as Im concerned, way more attractive than a doctor, for example. As a nurse, I would love to have a partner/boyfriend/husband to be a nurse. Way more comfortable for me and a source of pride we can share in our profession. Obviously, a male nurse would be most understanding about work issues and we could mutually support one another through our careers.
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I know this isn't relevant to the post, but... Thank you for not giving this guy the third degree! After I responded to this person's thread, I read a few other responses from people (I assume) are female.
They seemed more intent on being condescending and judgmental rather than actually respond back with an answer that may help or clarify this person's problem.
I think I read about 5 posts in a row before someone actually said something non-judgmental and helpful.
Sorry all you other negative users! It seems like a lot of people take things too personally, want to jump down people's throats when given the chance, and are overly patronizing.
I thought nursing was about providing sincere care and teamwork in the work place! This guy let it be public his insecurities, and everyone just tore him apart! OMG.
Please don't take offense to this post, either!
You write an offensive post and then end by saying "please don't take offense to this post, either!" as if that renders it somehow LESS offensive. Nurses are humans. We are not "about providing sincere care and teamwork" when we're posting on the internet.
Reread the first post. Maybe you can understand, after reading the last paragraph, why some nurses might feel somewhat negative about this guy.
Anyway, my main question is- ladies, do you find male nurses attractive? Do you like the idea of a man taking care of you? Or does it seem unmanly and unattractive?
Don't be foolish man. I'm a male nurse, and I've gotten more than my share of interest. Both appropriate and inappropriate. I married a beautiful and brilliant woman with a master's degree in psych. I'm intelligent, athletic, and well groomed. I have a bank account, nice car, land, and a future. If you think a woman will trade those options for a sweaty lunk swinging a hammer, get real. Most have poor hygiene, bad dental care, and not a pot to piss in. Granted there are tradesmen that are everything that I listed myself to be, but as a quotient these traits are MUCH more common among male nurses. If you are in shape and handsome, you've climbed the basic bar. The important test for women after those are met is someone that can be a partner in building a life.Only foolish women want a fixer-upper that is a financial black hole. They want a man that can pull his own weight. Both in the bedroom and in his ability to bring home the proverbial bacon. Trust me my dude.. white collar is what women want by and large. Not struggling members of the working poor.
I have no problem whatsoever with having a male nurse taking care of me. I also know a lot of women who date or are married to male nurses... Many more guys are entering nursing now due to the fact that it is such a versatile career and pays decently. Good luck and may the woman of your dreams come your way!
What one woman funds attractive differs from the next woman, from aan, from the GLBT community members, from everyone else. Each person is unique. You chose an honorable profession that shows yore smart, compassionate and trustworthy. What's not to like?
. He was straight, fiction or no. Don't worry about how you come across. Preconceived ideas reflect on them...not you.
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Dude, you're not even allowed to say manly any more.
Not sure of your background, but it's not uncommon for male nurses to be perceived as feminine or gay. It's old and mostly incorrect, but it persists.
As you've learned here, one thing women, and especially nurses, seem to hate is insecurity and lack of confidence. Whether working or dating, if you don't own who you are and what you're doing, you'll get eaten alive or left behind.