Do you still hold doors for women?

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I still hold doors for women. I once held the door for the female students after class was over. Boy, that took a long time!

Funny this came up. I was in class yesterday and as I went to leave, some older "gentleman" was trying to come in the door that you should be exiting from (you know the rule, two doors to enter/exit, you use the one to the right). Anyway as I pushed it open (you could not see the man he was standing off to the side of the door) he was pulling it open, I stopped to allow him to walk through as I held the door and he came in like a bull talking about "you wanted EQUAL RIGHTS and to be a FEMINIST, hold your own damn door!" My mouth hit the floor, I was holding the door open for him to enter, not expecting him to hold it for me and allow me to pass. The younger gentleman I had been walking and chatting with (18-20 yrs old) looked at the man and said "I hope no one ever talks to your WIFE or DAUGHTERS that way when they are coming through a door!"

I'll chalk it up to the older man was having a bad day..a really bad day..and took it out on me...ughhhh

That is awful. What a jerk.

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I would feel like a douche if I didn't hold the door and there was someone behind me

Yeah me too but I also feel like a douche when a women gives me a weird look for it. I can't help it. Either I'm one helluva creepy fella or she is an Amazonian warrior.

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Of course, but then again, I hold doors for anyone behind me. Regardless of it being appreciated, I still do it...and have taught my children to do it.

However, I also have a door-holding story from college (BGSU in OH). While walking to class, I entered a dorm to take a shortcut towards my class. I opened the door, noticed a woman behind me, and let her pass through before me. She stopped, then berated me for 'implying that she's a member of a weaker gender' then stepped through. I stood there, dumbfounded, at what I thought was helpful act. That is the only time that's ever happened, I'm guessing because everyone else isn't accusing me of having such a dark agenda.

-Drew

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Absolutely, My Daddy would come out of the grave and kick my ass if I didnt. Its just the right thing to do. I do get some strange and bewildered looks from some females esp. the younger ones whose boyfriends,etc. dont have a clue how you treat a woman.

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Specializes in ER,Surgical ICU,Neuro ICU, OR.

Holding the door specifically for a woman implies that they are fragile and tender and all that crap. Well as far as I know women can be worse jerks than men so I would hold the door for politeness but sometimes I see some guys who run to hold the door for the women. In those moments I laugh inside:lol2:

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like others, i hold the during for anyone if the timing is right.

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Specializes in Emergency, Critical Care, Trauma.
(BGSU in OH).

-Drew

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Yes, I am familiar with that song....I was also in the Falcon Marching Band, as a sousaphone player, and even know the 'rude' words to Aye Zig. =)

-Drew

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Well, it kinda depends on the situation, or setting . . .

In a business context, usually not--if only because the general perception is that women present, in that setting, often view themselves as fully the equal of anyone else present, and I can open my own door, thank you very much.

In the context of most of these responses, sure--common courtesy, taught by my parents.

Now, your ambulance pulls up in front of the local nursing home, on a lights-and-siren response; you & your partner hustle to get the stretcher off the box, the backboard & a C-collar, the Med. bag, Trauma bag, O2, etc., & are approaching the door. A young lady in CNA-type uniform breezes out the door, seeing you, and doesn't bother to hold it for you. Not that big a deal, by any means, but sure woulda been helpful.

Did someone say smth about 'common courtesy'?

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yes sadly I do. but it gets me brownie points

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Definitely hold the door open for women. There are a few women that give me attitude for one reason or another, but most of them say "thank you". Either way it is not possible for me to not hold the door open for a woman.

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I enjoy doing the opposite most of the time. Even when I am in a line of people exiting a room I will shut the door just so the person behind me has to open it. I used to lock it as well but I got into trouble for it, so now I just go with a shut. It gets interesting when the person behind you tries to prevent you from shutting it, but I'll always win that tug of war match.

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