Cliques

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Hello, I keep hearing about how cliques are in the hospital setting and it is making me nervous. I graduate w/BSN in Aug. 2012 and getting ready to join the work force. I never fit into cliques in high school or grade school or nursing school for that matter. Any advice on how to either be a graceful outcast or fit into a clique? Ugh. Dreading this. BTW, I'm in my 50's, older nurse if that makes a difference.

Thank you,

elle

Specializes in Forensic Psych.
I think if you look for it, you are going to find it. Whether that's people to get along with or people not to get along with.

I definitely agree with this. Those self-fulfilling prophecies will get you every time!!

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Specializes in Med Surg - Renal.
Any advice on how to either be a graceful outcast or fit into a clique?

Yes. Do your job the best you can. Fit into the clique of good RNs who try their best.

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Specializes in Critical Care; Cardiac; Professional Development.
so you're saying that when people are rude to certain person, certain person deserved it b/c they looked for it? Might be a little more too it than that, but thanks for you input, interesting perspective.

What a bizarre and defensive way to twist my words. I truly am baffled that the word "deserve" was even remotely interpreted in what I wrote and it kind of proves my point. What I am referring to is the theory that happiness or happy people tend to gravitate toward one another. If you go in expecting to be ill treated or to find rudeness, of course you are going to notice it and find it. Your radar will be up and you will be sensitive to any downturned mouth you see whether it has anything to do with you or not. If you go in looking to be liked and well recieved, chances are you are going to notice it when you are. What we look for, we tend to find.

I am a older nurse - 41 years of age to be exact. I fully believe that happiness in life is a matter of choice. If you are a happy person, you are going to attract other happy people. If you are happy person all the way to the inside chances are you aren't going to be too concerned with what Betty and Jill are whispering about over in the corner. In fact, chances are you aren't even going to notice it. Put out confident vibes that you are happy and likeable and it is amazing what happens - people percieve you as happy and likeable. Are there miserable people who will seek to bring that down? Sure. How much weight you give them is up to you. They aren't the majority, at least not in the world I occupy. If you are busy being the friend to others that you want to have yourself, you probably aren't going to worry too much about this. You'll be too busy getting your work done and helping others do the same. And when you A - do your job and B - help others do their job...guess what? People tend to be pretty okay with you.

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Specializes in Emergent pre-hospital care as a medic.
Do a good job. Be nice to everyone. Don't run your mouth.

^^ absolutely this!

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Oh, I see what you're saying, yes, that makes sense. It radiates in your attitude, absolutely. People can sense it.

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I agree!!! So practical and so smart.

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Not.done.yet,

ok, ok. I understand what you are saying. You're absolutely right. It's not easy being judged or having biases formed about you, but thick skin, good attitude and filtering the incoming vibes, words, etc is the mark of a positive person. If you let it get to you and show it, it's going to happen even more.

Elle

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ok, thank you, good advice. I have a feeling I will be a good RN, I just need to polish my skills re: leadership and communication.

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Specializes in Med-Surg.

oh, i wouldn't worry about it too much if i were you.

remember, this isn't high school anymore! :saint:

however, there are "cliques" but in a good way! usually they are just a group of people who know each other better than others and have been working together for awhile. as long as you're friendly and don't talk about others behind their backs you will be welcomed! (:

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Thank you Hay Nars RN, I kind of thought so and was hoping so, it's hard to see what's outside of nursing school.

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The best advice possible for any new nurse is to avoid all the catty gossip. (and there's a lot of it!)

Remember this verse:

If wisdom's ways you wisely seek, five things observe with care:

TO whom you speak

OF whom you speak

and HOW and WHEN and WHERE

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Brandon, this is good. I printed this actually. Going to have it tattooed on my hip. lol!

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