Just wondering, I am in a clinical group for the summer for clinical 3 days. There is a clique of girls in this clinical group. I went into the break room at the end of clinical and one of them was hitting my bag. My bag is a trendy bag which a lot of ppl carry. When I saw the girl hitting it I picked up the bag and said "That's mine" then sat at the table. The girl said "Oh I thought it was Kate's" (Kate is her friend who is in the click and has a bag similar to mine, since it is a trendy bag. Kate was standing there however.
I am worried about the safety of my personal possessions at this time since I have clinical with this group 3 days a week (its only the third week of school). Should
I let this slide or bring it up to the course coordinator? I am graduating next semester and don't want to make any waves. But, there is palpable tension between me and this group, so I don't want to let it go then have it blow up.
...you have a ton of comments on here; so I am not so sure my two cents will be beneficial, but here it is.
You remind me a lot of myself, back in the day. Therefore, I will tell you a story about myself. Take it as you please. Hopefully, it will benefit you. I was *that* girl who didn't get along with other people very well. All the cliques had something against me; I did nothing but complain constantly; the world was against me, etc. There I was, going about my business and I had no clue what everyone had against me. I was overly sarcastic and extremely blunt. That, mixed with a poor attitude, it's no wonder nobody wanted to be my friend.
Then, I decided I did truly care for people and wanted to become a nurse. I came onto this board looking for advice and what it meant to be a nurse. Well, my attitude regarding life followed my tone. I got my butt handed to me a number of times, like you are now. I started to hate the idea of nursing because I didn't want to work with this culture. A number of people pointed out my attitude and what they called "immaturity" on this site. I hated them. Then, I started to wonder if I could be the problem. My normal was to point out problems with others and hide behind my sarcasm. I was so scared to be myself bc being the sarcastic, hardcore b***h was easier and less scary. So, what did I do?
I started to look inside myself so I could be the best possible person I could be. I realized I had a lot of flaws. Then, I spent the next year just trying to become more positive. If something bad happened, I would ask myself one simple question: "What can I do, right now, to make this better?" or, "What about this situation have a learned?" That helped me a lot. After practicing this and looking at what I am grateful for daily, I can honestly say I am happier than I have ever been. Bonus: People genuinely like me now! I am involved in volunteer work, but mostly doing things on my own time. I was behind the scenes for about 6 months before I met the other members of the group. Now, people are always telling me what great things they have heard about me or how much everyone says how great I am...
I'll give you an example of sh*t hitting the fan and I was able to come out a better person. I was accepted into a wonderful nursing program, after having to put it on hold for the military. (Husband is active duty army) Then, right before I was about to purchase books, I find out that we have to move states. This means I have to put school off ANOTHER semester and re-apply to a school in a state I have never been to; and the school is extremely competitive. Also, my GPA dropped bc hubs deployed and I chose to focus on my kids more than school, thinking I was already good to go for NS. Old me would have wasted SO MUCH energy complaining about the army, moving, transferring schools, etc. You name it, I would have complained about it until everyone stopped listening. There's a good chance I would have said eff it. Instead, new me (I like to think more along the lines of real me) decided to say, "Okay, what I can do to make this better and what are the benefits?" I was able to take a semester off school and spend more time with my kids and prepare for my husband coming home. Now, I am also able to go to a school that is cheaper, has a higher NCLEX pass rate, and one more semester of clinicals. I could go on, but you get the point.
I am telling you this, and it's a little personal for me, because I am hoping you (and everyone else) can look inside yourselves and admit the faults. Once you do, it may be something you can improve on and be a happier you. I didn't even realize how negative I was! I hate to admit it, but the directness of the nurses on here really helped me see my attitude for what it was. Now, I can see just how beautiful life can be! Also, a lot of women old me would have stayed away from are some of my very best friends. They've taught me so much! Mostly, I have learned true compassion.
Perhaps that "stupid girl" you are referring to has some huge struggles in her home life or maybe she has a learning disability she is too embarrassed to tell anyone about. There was a girl in my micro class who was taking it for the second time with a nursing class she was taking for the second time. She is gorgeous, long legs, athletic, etc. Anyways, I kind of blew her off as young and dumb. Then, I met her in my (and her) favorite coffee shop. I had just taken the lab test and she was studying. I sat down and asked if she'd like some help. We had mutual friends. Ends up, she is dyslexic! Her and I are like soul sisters and she is incredibly bright. Lesson learned.
Anyways, sorry for the novel. I just wanted to share with you what I have learned by being the old me and the benefits of discovering the real me. I sincerely wish you the best of luck. Admitting you need to improve part of your personality is not easy, I know that from experience. But, you can do it if you feel you need to!
Thank you so much for sharing this! I think in this fast-paced, competitive world we live in now it is so easy to become jaded & negative. I too have had struggles with negativity because that's what I was exposed to constantly because my mom IS Negative Nancy. It took a lot of self - evaluation and soul searching to realize that she may have planted the seed, but I was the one that was feeding the plant with continued negativity & anger. We could all use a little more happy I think!
Thank you so much for sharing this! I think in this fast-paced, competitive world we live in now it is so easy to become jaded & negative. I too have had struggles with negativity because that's what I was exposed to constantly because my mom IS Negative Nancy. It took a lot of self - evaluation and soul searching to realize that she may have planted the seed, but I was the one that was feeding the plant with continued negativity & anger. We could all use a little more happy I think!
I, too, grew up with a Negative Nancy - to the extreme!! Some days are harder than others, but it has been getting easier with time!!
I, too, grew up with a Negative Nancy - to the extreme!! Some days are harder than others, but it has been getting easier with time!!
I hear ya!!!! I have a saying that some people are "the glass is half full or the glass is half empty"...but my mom is "the glass is broken, contents spilled on the floor, and has now stained & ruined the carpet". That might sound a little harsh, but honestly that's about what it is like.
I hear ya!!!! I have a saying that some people are "the glass is half full or the glass is half empty"...but my mom is "the glass is broken, contents spilled on the floor, and has now stained & ruined the carpet". That might sound a little harsh, but honestly that's about what it is like.
I'm still pre-nursing and will be 30 once I begin nursing school. Now I'm nervous...is it really going to be like this?! If so, I might as well just quit now & follow a different career path.
Don't worry! This has to be an exception! I am in my forties and really enjoy my classmates (ranging from ages 19-50) and as far as I can tell they like me too. I don't know of any kind of dysfunction like this among any of my classmates. I feel especially warmly toward the classmates with whom I have shared clinical experiences.
You guys are horrible! LOL I will say, curiosity got the best of me and I looked back at OP's other threads. If she saw me in person, I am sure she wouldn't even hear my opinion or advice. She'd be too busy trying to figure out when I got out of prison because I have a full sleeve tattoo.
Dear OP,
I truly hope you are able to see how wonderful people can be! Just because they are different than you, doesn't mean they are not worth your respect or compassion. Good luck to you.
You guys are horrible! LOL I will say, curiosity got the best of me and I looked back at OP's other threads. If she saw me in person, I am sure she wouldn't even hear my opinion or advice. She'd be too busy trying to figure out when I got out of prison because I have a full sleeve tattoo.
Dear OP,
I truly hope you are able to see how wonderful people can be! Just because they are different than you, doesn't mean they are not worth your respect or compassion. Good luck to you.
How does your tattoo play into nursing? I have 5 tattoos (none visible in scrubs) but of course want more. I was just curious how that has worked for you in nursing, if you always have to wear long sleeves to cover them or what. What type facility do you work in also?
CajunShrimp84
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Thank you so much for sharing this! I think in this fast-paced, competitive world we live in now it is so easy to become jaded & negative. I too have had struggles with negativity because that's what I was exposed to constantly because my mom IS Negative Nancy. It took a lot of self - evaluation and soul searching to realize that she may have planted the seed, but I was the one that was feeding the plant with continued negativity & anger. We could all use a little more happy I think!