I'm in my psych rotation right now and there is a male classmate that is making me (female) feel increasingly uncomfortable. I had been getting strange vibes from him ever since 1st semester, but had nothing concrete to back up my vibes till yesterday.
We were in a meeting with the activities director for the facility we are at to discuss what to expect when going out in the community with the clients. The activities director mentioned there are some clients who like to strip their clothes off and run around naked. Upon hearing this, my classmate (male) pointed to me and said in a monotone voice, "yeah, she likes to do that too." I didn't find this funny and thought what he said was bizarre since I have barely interacted with this person. I felt very uncomfortable the rest of the day having to be around him, but really didn't start to think about how strange it was till the activities director came up to me and another student (female) and said something seems "off" with my classmate (male) because of some of the things he's overheard him say throughout the day including what he said in the meeting that morning.
What do you think of this? Do you think I should tell an instructor about it? I'm thinking I might want to for future clinicals because I feel like if I get stuck in a clinical group with him again, it's going to have a negative affect on me.
I had an issue with a classmate last year, let's call him Steve (not his real name). In Chemistry lab, Steve had this habit of telling my lab group the answers as we were trying to do our experiments. I asked him not to do that because in order to learn, I need to perform the experiment and come up with the answers myself. Well, this set him off. He walked by my chair and kicked the back of it while I was sitting there doing my work. I blew it off until he approached my lab partner and whispered in his ear "what's wrong with her? What a *****." Well, my lab partner and I are friends, so he immediately told me what Steve said. I approached Steve and asked him that if he has an issue to talk to me about it and not call me names while talking to someone else. He flipped out and shouted "don't come near me! I don't want to talk to you! Don't come anywhere near me!", like I was going to beat him up or something!! This is a grown man, mind you. I highly doubt I (a female) would be able to take down any grown man, much less had any inclination to. Well, after class, I pulled my professor aside and told him the entire situation. My lab partner was there as well to vouch for me and inform the prof what Steve had said to him. I told my prof that if this doesn't resolve, I will inform the campus security and possibly call the police. For all I knew, this guy was insane and could follow me to my car and attack me! My prof must have said something to Steve about the situation because I never had another problem with him. I ignored him and he did the same, which was fine by me.
To the OP, it's not worth assuming he was making a bad joke or is a social idiot. Tell your professor!! God forbide, this dude is a creep and decides to act on his impulses. You don't want to be the recipient of that or have him turn his attention on a new person. Nip this in the bud immediately. You don't need to press charges, but informing your professor will not only document what happened, but hopefully the prof will say something to this guy about his behavior.
You know you have to choose your battles. It really seems like he is just being a wise ass. I would just tell him firmly "cut the s_ _t !!!" and take it as a rude compliment then if you need you can add " Speak to me like that again and I'll report it. He'll get the drift..... I wouldn't report it just yet..... even a jerk has probally spent a lot of time studying. But then again you could ask him if will speak like that around pericare time with his female patients.....That responce would be enough to straighten him out or have him thrown out....you be the judge good luck good nite.:coollook::coollook:
My classmate was talked to and so far he is staying away from me. He still seems odd to me though. Today he announced to the class that he was a "loose cannon with a troubled past." Im assuming he was trying to be humorous, but is this appropriate to say in front of 20 of your fellow classmates and instructors?
Apparently, the school is making all the semesters have a conference on professionalism. I am wondering if what happened w/ him played any role in this.
My classmate was talked to and so far he is staying away from me. He still seems odd to me though. Today he announced to the class that he was a "loose cannon with a troubled past." Im assuming he was trying to be humorous, but is this appropriate to say in front of 20 of your fellow classmates and instructors?
Apparently, the school is making all the semesters have a conference on professionalism. I am wondering if what happened w/ him played any role in this.
*&^%$#@!!. I got yelled at the last time I cussed on AN, so that's the best I can do in response to this.
Please be careful around this guy! Like, really careful. If he's really as off as you think he is, I'd be tempted to go back to whatever instructor you spoke to the first time and mention the "loose cannon" bit. This just sets off all sorts of alarm bells to me ... Somebody needs to keep a very close eye on this one.
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Well, **** !! I've just been the recipient of the line of asterisks to know that:imdbb:
aqua-- I think the professionalism conference is related to it so they don't appear to be singling that guy out-- and maybe they think it was normal-for-guy flirting, or shyness or smart-*** , but most women can rely on their intuition in such matters-- how many times have we heard after the fact that someone (male or female) creeped out their peers, yet no one intervened in time to nip it in the bud.
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I had an issue with a classmate last year, let's call him Steve (not his real name). In Chemistry lab, Steve had this habit of telling my lab group the answers as we were trying to do our experiments. I asked him not to do that because in order to learn, I need to perform the experiment and come up with the answers myself. Well, this set him off. He walked by my chair and kicked the back of it while I was sitting there doing my work. I blew it off until he approached my lab partner and whispered in his ear "what's wrong with her? What a *****." Well, my lab partner and I are friends, so he immediately told me what Steve said. I approached Steve and asked him that if he has an issue to talk to me about it and not call me names while talking to someone else. He flipped out and shouted "don't come near me! I don't want to talk to you! Don't come anywhere near me!", like I was going to beat him up or something!! This is a grown man, mind you. I highly doubt I (a female) would be able to take down any grown man, much less had any inclination to. Well, after class, I pulled my professor aside and told him the entire situation. My lab partner was there as well to vouch for me and inform the prof what Steve had said to him. I told my prof that if this doesn't resolve, I will inform the campus security and possibly call the police. For all I knew, this guy was insane and could follow me to my car and attack me! My prof must have said something to Steve about the situation because I never had another problem with him. I ignored him and he did the same, which was fine by me.
To the OP, it's not worth assuming he was making a bad joke or is a social idiot. Tell your professor!! God forbide, this dude is a creep and decides to act on his impulses. You don't want to be the recipient of that or have him turn his attention on a new person. Nip this in the bud immediately. You don't need to press charges, but informing your professor will not only document what happened, but hopefully the prof will say something to this guy about his behavior.