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If you assault someone and it's not work related can or will they pull your nursing license? For example, a husband cheats on his wife so his wife (who is a nurse) hunts down his girlfriend, throws a heavy chain through her windshield, drags her out by her hair and uses her face for a punching bag and (possibly) goes to jail over it.
Could she get in trouble with the BON over that?
Please, they entered a mutual relationship. Relationship break ups and divorces happen all the time. Not everyone turns to violence when theyre on the recieving end.
As far as feeling like using someone as a human punching bag, feeling and doing are two different things. I've been shot and stabbed and thanks to the govt and the military I've even ended human lives. But in the civilian world I've never used someone as a human punching bag because of the actions of another.
I personally don't think she should lose her license. Remember until you've walked a mile in someone shoes, don't judge. If my husband was cheating I'd probably get a double wammy and kick his and the GF's asses. No I don't promote violence, but what I do outside of work is my business, not the BON. If I'm a good nurse and do my job and my patients are well taken care of that is all that should matter. I'm a nurse and human not Mother Mary. She kicked someone's butt because that was what was appropriate at the time. Now let's all sit back and think what would I do if I were in the same boat? Also have you listened to the other posts from motorcyclemama, it's sounds like she'd had enough. For all the one's of us that live our perfect life in our perfect world, continue to judge, but for the rest of us who are not perfect, console and hope for the best for whomever this person may be. Judging one for a single act of rage that does not affect work ethics or performance is not a reason to lose a license that whoever they are worked so hard for. I don't recall signing a contract that said must be perfect and never make a mistake while being a nurse. JMO, now let the bashing begin.
Would you feel the same way if it was a Police Officer or other public safety personnel who assaulted and knowlingly and intentionally caused injury to another through assault? Unfortunately certain people because of their job are expected to avoid certain legal issues and healthcare workers and assualt is one of those.
but i don't care who you are.no one has the right to use another as a punching bag.
Hey! I said "feel like" using someone as a punching bag!
But I do think there are times in life where one must use physical force, ie; protecting yourself, family, or those who can't protect themselves.
and still, you don't seek justice through violent acts.we're supposed to be a civilization.
I agree with you, but I don't think we would be much of a civilization had we not used violence in some cases.
Not trying to be argumentative, but I just think there are times when you can't let people walk all over you. If I had to kick my hubby's butt to keep his harmful habits away from my children, by golly, I'd do it. (Actually I'm kind of a weakling so I'd probably have my dad do it, but you get the picture...)
No man (or woman) is worth destroying your life over! I agree with the posters that say the fault lies primarily with the husband-no one made him do what he did & the choice was his alone. An act of temporary insanity can be understood; but, what I hear is an all consuming rage that is eating away at the OP. When this occurs, they won because she thinks of nothing else but them and what was done to her. Best to go on with your life without even the thought of them & you will probably see that they do to each other what was done to you. When you no longer give them something they can share their energy on (which probably is directed at getting you), they will turn on each other-there has to be a lot of repressed guilt that is bound to surface when the emotions die down. Wish them well and be glad you no longer have that sorry excuse for a human being as your husband. :icon_hug:
You also have to take into consideration the population she works with. Not saying the OP doesnt have a right to be angry and hurt, but the statement of putting a chain through the windshield and pulling someone through it to use as a punching bad mixed with her specialties of geriatrics and home health I would never hire her or let her near those populations again. Someone who can do such an act and then go work with a population that can't defend themselves is a bad mix.
You know, it's possible the woman could be creative and a bit deviant. She could piss in the husband's listerine, accidentally get some mold on the husband's toothbrush... none of it intentional of course. The cheating dog of a husband wouldn't have to know anything about it. Heck, he could even have some hamburger helper with canned dog food in it for good measure.
Also, a divorce would enable the woman to not have to lose her assets in order to put the dog's psychotic father in a nursing home.
I'm not sure about the legal ramifications. I know what the BON (in most states) But I also know of a nurse charged with wanton endangerment with a fire arm (while intoxicated on misc meds taken from hospital) and she not only retains her licence, but her job at said hospital. (With no restrictions, no rehab) And while the majority of staff are in shock that this is person is allowed to practice, the powers that be seem to be content with having someone to fill a staffing hole!
At this point, I firmly believe that you must intentionally kill the CEO's little sister to lose your job or your license
If you assault someone and it's not work related can or will they pull your nursing license? For example, a husband cheats on his wife so his wife (who is a nurse) hunts down his girlfriend, throws a heavy chain through her windshield, drags her out by her hair and uses her face for a punching bag and (possibly) goes to jail over it.Could she get in trouble with the BON over that?
Without condoning either chickening out or going ape (mandatory politically correct disclaimer), another way to phrase that question might be--even if they threw the book at her and did their worst, would she still glow with satisfaction over a job well done?
PS, seems to me that if a person is already using humor to deal with things, they're going to be OK. What amazes me is how some folks can instantly presume the worst and immediately shift into rescue mode. Thanks for sharing your refreshing style!
leslie :-D
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juuuust lovely.
of course, most can sympathize with the rage and betrayal.
but i don't care who you are.
no one has the right to use another as a punching bag.
i can only imagine the rage felt, when a loved one is murdered, raped, kidnapped.
and still, you don't seek justice through violent acts.
we're supposed to be a civilization.
why am i even explaining this???
leslie