Can Anyone Help Me Out? (Looking for a specific post)

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on a day when i was feeling particularly raw and beaten down, i read a post that i really needed to read. i've just posted the following in another thread, but it occurs to me that this might be a better way to find the poster and the post i'm looking for.

someone wrote on here once (and i wish i'd cut it and pasted it to my journal then because i cannot find it again) that people who are cool, calm and organized are often seen by families as being cold and lacking in compassion. they're happier with the "rainbows and cuddly bunnies" nurse who is clueless and disorganized because they see her as having more compassion and therefore being the better nurse.

people say they want the truth, that they want a nurse who can be honest, direct and straightforward. they don't really want that at all; they can't handle it. they want someone to be nice and make them feel better.

there was more, and it was more eloquently stated. if you wrote that post or if you know who did and can point me in that direction, please do. i read that post exactly when i needed to read that, and i've regretted ever since that i didn't tell that poster thank you.

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"Hear, hear!!! I can't say how tired I am of the "bambi and butterflies and happy dolphin music" stereotype of "compassionate nursing". I disagree with the definition of compassion as sympathy ... I'd use the word empathy.

Real compassion comes from a deep understanding of "there but for the grace of God go I". Striving for compassion while at the same time keeping proper boundaries is one of the greatest challenges of nursing. It's not accomplished overnight.

Then, there's the sheer arrogance of anyone presuming to dictate how I'm allowed to feel."

posted by heron on May 03, 2011

Is that what you are looking for? Here is a link to the thread.

https://allnurses.com/nursing-articles/compassion-dirty-word-558943.html

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Specializes in CDI Supervisor; Formerly NICU.

Jess breaking out the Google-Foo with a quickness! Good job.

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Google is your friend.

I am the Google queen!

But....it may not even be what she's looking for.

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nah ah...google hates me:D

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
"hear, hear!!! i can't say how tired i am of the "bambi and butterflies and happy dolphin music" stereotype of "compassionate nursing". i disagree with the definition of compassion as sympathy ... i'd use the word empathy.

real compassion comes from a deep understanding of "there but for the grace of god go i". striving for compassion while at the same time keeping proper boundaries is one of the greatest challenges of nursing. it's not accomplished overnight.

then, there's the sheer arrogance of anyone presuming to dictate how i'm allowed to feel."

posted by heron on may 03, 2011

is that what you are looking for? here is a link to the thread.

https://allnurses.com/nursing-articles/compassion-dirty-word-558943.html

that was a great post and a good thread -- i enjoyed re-reading it. but it wasn't exactly what i was looking for. thanks for the memories, though. (by the way -- fabulous article that started the thread, don't you agree?)

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I think what you are looking for might be in the "happy policy" thread

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if that helps at all :)

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
i think what you are looking for might be in the "happy policy" thread

there's a lot of great stuff in there . . . but not the post i was thinking of. thank you, though.

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These two threads come to mind

https://allnurses.com/nursing-news/xbox-addict-dies-598323.html

or

https://allnurses.com/general-nursing-discussion/you-are-angel-604183.html

maybe??

If you find it, would you be so kind as to let me know?

I think I would like that post also. I find many of your posts heartwarming, intelligent, witty, and I tend to agree with many of them.

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
these two threads come to mind

https://allnurses.com/nursing-news/xbox-addict-dies-598323.html

or

https://allnurses.com/general-nursing-discussion/you-are-angel-604183.html

maybe??

if you find it, would you be so kind as to let me know?

i think i would like that post also. i find many of your posts heartwarming, intelligent, witty, and i tend to agree with many of them.

thanks so much -- both interesting threads that i enjoyed reading, even though i missed them the first time around. but not the post i was looking for. and thanks for the compliments, too. you are clearly a person of taste and discernment!

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Specializes in ER.

Was this in the last two weeks Ruby?

Here's my guess.

https://allnurses.com/general-nursing-discussion/patients-perception-your-632657.html

Oh, never mind I see you are looking for that post even back then. Good luck.

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