So we recently admitted a male patient who identifies himself as female. We don't get many patients like her. A nurse in particular let's his political views get in the way of work and has been calling this patient "it".
Now, let's fast forward to the dilemma. During medication pass, he addressed the patient as "it" out loud and other staff and patients started laughing; next thing you know, we had a behavioral emergency on our hands.
I filled out an incident report because several other nurses and I have spoken to this nurse prior to the event happening. One nurse even brought it up the chain of command. Not only is it unprofessional but it's endangering the safety of others - clearly, it's one of her triggers. Has anyone ever dealt with this type of conduct?
Okay, let's not go crazy here. While I would never dehumanize a patient by calling them "it" that in no way should indicate that parents actively denying basic biological facts and confusing their children by raising them "gender neutral" is in any way acceptable.
Using the grammatically correct, "patient states she has burning pain in her right hip," instead of the tortured, grammatically incorrect plural-as-singular "their" in the name of promoting fictitious genderlessness in no way reflects a lack of education and training.
After the decades of fighting to get women's needs taken seriously and recognized as different by the health care world, now you want us to go back to pretending there are no differences between the genders? I can't keep up with this spinning top.
Being compassionate to a person who presents with a certain challenge does not mean anyone embraces any certain agenda.
I think it's wiser to counsel the offending nurse. I disagree with firing someone immediately over a mistake like this. After all, societal acceptance of this is quite new.
This nurse needs education and a strong warning. Just sacking someone on the spot, without giving a chance at remediation is wrong, in my opinion.
Isn't that wha nursing school was for? To make sure they know how to care for patients and NOT treat them like this? They should already know. There is no excuse. It is mental abuse. If they smacked a patient in the face would we be asking for remediation or taking their license away?
Every day at work truly is a series of moral decisions.
Well, hopefully you're making your professional decisions based on ethics, and not on your own personal morals. Things get dicey when personal morals aren't kept in check by codes of ethics.
Okay, let's not go crazy here. While I would never dehumanize a patient by calling them "it" that in no way should indicate that parents actively denying basic biological facts and confusing their children by raising them "gender neutral" is in any way acceptable.
Using the grammatically correct, "patient states she has burning pain in her right hip," instead of the tortured, grammatically incorrect plural-as-singular "their" in the name of promoting fictitious genderlessness in no way reflects a lack of education and training.
After the decades of fighting to get women's needs taken seriously and recognized as different by the health care world, now you want us to go back to pretending there are no differences between the genders? I can't keep up with this spinning top.
Being compassionate to a person who presents with a certain challenge does not mean anyone embraces any certain agenda.
I don't believe in "gender neutral" from the get go, but loosening traditional stereotypes is just fine with me.
Raise the kid best you can, and if, at puberty the kid starts identifying another way, try to support them, see what's going on, be there for them.
I don't believe in "gender neutral" from the get go, but loosening traditional stereotypes is just fine with me.
Raise the kid best you can, and if, at puberty the kid starts identifying another way, try to support them, see what's going on, be there for them.
Some things just are.
I don't disagree with that at all, and since I've managed to raise a daughter who's leaving for college this summer to become an aerospace engineer, clearly I'm not chaining my girls to the kitchen. But I have no patience with the absolutely radical ideology that gender doesn't matter at all, or is a fictional construct.
newboy, what did it say on her wristband? What was the name? I would go by that while checking meds. Oftentimes the patient will say call me "cheeseball".
For the posters saying it is a choice, what person would choose this? Being TG is NOT a choice.
I may have misunderstood your point but elective surgery is most certainly a choice. No one is kidnapping you and forcing you to have your bits and pieces revised. Cancer is not a choice. Big difference.
I may have misunderstood your point but elective surgery is most certainly a choice. No one is kidnapping you and forcing you to have your bits and pieces revised. Cancer is not a choice. Big difference.
No, I mean being a boy in a girl's body. Psychologically, I don't think anyone would choose this "lifestyle".
I'm not basing this on anything scientific. I should have said "In my opinion"!
I'm all for gender specific pronouns, actually. It's the assumption that there are only two "real" genders that's wrongheaded.
And being TG is not just some twisted body mod fad either. Anyone who truly believes that really does have homework to do.
Our respective socio-political viewpoints are irrelevant, frankly. The issue is how to advocate for those patients who are not cisgendered. Without a reasonably accurate knowledge base, I can't imagine a way to do that effectively. This is why I suggested a research paper for the OP's coworker.
What is happening now is that there are many "gender neutral" pronouns out there and people are picking their favorite and using it. For instance rapper Angel Haze goes by "they" which is difficult because it sounds plural. This is a problem in English because we don't have a set of gender-neutral singular pronouns for people.
Here's a link with a list of Preferred Gender Pronouns for those who are interested.
Some people need to learn how to open their hearts before opening their mouths. I've dealt with gays, lesbians, transgender patients, and am very swift, direct to anyone who discriminates. This is clearly out of bounds, and professionally unacceptable.
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Okay, let's not go crazy here. While I would never dehumanize a patient by calling them "it" that in no way should indicate that parents actively denying basic biological facts and confusing their children by raising them "gender neutral" is in any way acceptable.
Using the grammatically correct, "patient states she has burning pain in her right hip," instead of the tortured, grammatically incorrect plural-as-singular "their" in the name of promoting fictitious genderlessness in no way reflects a lack of education and training.
After the decades of fighting to get women's needs taken seriously and recognized as different by the health care world, now you want us to go back to pretending there are no differences between the genders? I can't keep up with this spinning top.
Being compassionate to a person who presents with a certain challenge does not mean anyone embraces any certain agenda.