Hi! This is my first post. I am new here. seeing all the posts about bullying comforts me a lot.
I also currently left a job because if a charge nurse who bullied me. I have been a nurse for 6 years. I have loved the job and the workplace before. I was even part of the committees. There is this charge nurse who doesn't like me and ignores what I say. I tried being cross trained to a more specialized area a year before I quit. I even organized the the cross training process and worked with. The director of the service line ( group of different departments) was amazed by my organization skills. When I did not perform as well as expected in my cross training( it was only for 3 weeks, and in the process I had a back injury) when I returned to my floor, the bullying began. She wrote me up anonymously, The management said I had weak follow through and punished me by not giving me critical patients without my knowledge. When I asked the nurse manager about this, and I asked what are the points I missed and how I can improve on, all she said was she cannot remember the exact moment I did something wrong because it was so long ago. And to improve, she just said, "just wow us". When I asked the other charge nurse who I thought was a friend what I should do, all she said was I should shadow another nurse and she said "some of us are born with critical thinking skills, but some people like you, well, you have to learn them. I was so upset I had anxiety, insomnia, I was irritable with my family...I am also in school for degree in a good nursing school, so I know I'm super stupid right? Two doctors told me I was their favorite nurse to work with. My manager said everyone likes me. I had an above average level in my team player skills in my last evaluation. It was awful.
I started looking for jobs and I got two offers by two hospitals. I quit last month. Now, I start in my new job. I'm happy I left, but I'm sad at the same time because I will miss some good people. And I am scared I'm going to be bullied all over again. I am now so scared I plan to duck my head and just do my job and go home on my new job rather than try to get more proactive.
Sorry for such a long post. I am so glad there is a place to express our feelings and to be encouraged to try harder again and not give up.
The problem with nursing is that most of them are women and women are awful towards women or young gay men that are trying to succeed, if you are mediocre and kiss their asses they will like you, if you stand out they will hate you and make you feel miserable. The nursing profession needs to be more diversified and stop with the bullying, we need to stand up and address this issue, is something serious that is tearing lives apart.
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56 minutes ago, pepitohonguito87 said:
The problem with nursing is that most of them are women and women are awful towards women or young gay men that are trying to succeed, if you are mediocre and kiss their asses they will like you, if you stand out they will hate you and make you feel miserable. The nursing profession needs to be more diversified and stop with the bullying, we need to stand up and address this issue, is something serious that is tearing lives apart.
Oh for pity's sake. You drag up an ancient post to espouse a self-serving misogynist viewpoint. There is no more bullying in nursing than there is in the general population, and nurses have no interest in making others feel miserable, fail, or anything else. That you proclaim such a viewpoint says far more about you than it does about all of these other people with whom you apparently are not able to get along.
Learn to develop positive workplace relationships. I'm sure you will feel far less miserable, and the issue won't be "tearing your life apart."
There is no more bullying in nursing than there is in the general population, and nurses have no interest in making others feel miserable, fail, or anything else.
So just because there's bullying in other fields it is okay to ignore bullying in nursing? Maybe you don't have that interest but other nurses do. Just because you are a woman doesn't mean that you are flawless and if somebody is criticizing certain patterns of conduct doesn't mean that I hate women or I want them dead, so use another excuse to victimize yourself. Ladies love drama and no matter what there's always feuds among them. I know that gentlemen can be just as bad, but women bring that to another level.
women are awful towards women or young gay men that are trying to succeed, if you are mediocre and kiss their asses they will like you, if you stand out they will hate you and make you feel miserable.
That's a really broad brush you are using to paint an entire gender. It's also extremely inaccurate and offensive to boot. Not sure you'd appreciate it if the tables were turned. BTW...I don't give a rat's patootie if someone stands out. Good for them.
The problem with nursing is that most of them are women and women are awful towards women or young gay men that are trying to succeed, if you are mediocre and kiss their asses they will like you, if you stand out they will hate you and make you feel miserable. The nursing profession needs to be more diversified and stop with the bullying, we need to stand up and address this issue, is something serious that is tearing lives apart.
Your very first post and you decide to resurrect this thread. Only two posts and both are in this thread. The whole premise of you bringing this thread back to life is to stir conflict.
That's a really broad brush you are using to paint an entire gender. It's also extremely inaccurate and offensive to boot. Not sure you'd appreciate it if the tables were turned. BTW...I don't give a rat's patootie if someone stands out. Good for them.
It is as broad as saying that men or women that accuse other women of being problematic and drama queens are misogynistic or sexist like if finding mean girls that start drama at work is like finding a needle in a haystack, please...There are even psychological studies about this subject and you are all acting like Oh My God is so irrational, it never happens.
I found this thread on google because I am also one of those people that had to leave my work due to girls drama. Nobody is forcing you to read this or answer me so if you find it stupid don't waste your time on me.
I found this thread on google because I am also one of those people that had to leave my work due to girls drama. Nobody is forcing you to read this or answer me so if you find it stupid don't waste your time on me.
I don't believe you because your writing gives you away. By the very first post I recognized similarities to another poster. Having said that, you're pathetic and miserable. I'm going to gladly honor your request and block you. Bye.
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haha, saw this thread was from 2 years ago, but idc, had to put my two cents in ^_^