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My boyfriend and I have been together three years and we we have been living together for over a year. He left me out of no where while I was dealing with my own parents divorce. Now I'm dealing with losing my apartment with we got together and losing him. I am extremely heartbroken and I'm falling apart, and I start classes in two weeks. He claims he doesn't want this anymore when not long ago he wanted me in his life forever. Has anyone ever experienced this and does anyone have any tips on getting through this during school... He was my main support system and my best friend. He's been there for me since I started school and we were even planning on getting married. He threw everything away so easily and it's really hard to except. I know a lot of people go through this, but right now it seems impossible to handle this much pain and take these hard classes at the same time.

So I just found out today that he left me to be with someone else. He hid it from me and I had to find out from a friend... he just ditched our life together and started a new one with someone else. At least it all makes sense now, but I still can't believe he did that after everything we've been through together. Why does the thought of him being with another women make everything so much worse? I feel so worthless and replaceable. We had a home together and he claimed he was committed and in love and happy with me and he just left and moved on. Now I understand how he seemed to move on so quickly and why it seemed like he didn't care, it's because he had another girl making him feel good about himself so he felt he could treat me as badly as he wanted. Makes me sick :(

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So I just found out today that he left me to be with someone else. He hid it from me and I had to find out from a friend... he just ditched our life together and started a new one with someone else. At least it all makes sense now, but I still can't believe he did that after everything we've been through together. Why does the thought of him being with another women make everything so much worse? I feel so worthless and replaceable. We had a home together and he claimed he was committed and in love and happy with me and he just left and moved on. Now I understand how he seemed to move on so quickly and why it seemed like he didn't care, it's because he had another girl making him feel good about himself so he felt he could treat me as badly as he wanted. Makes me sick :(

Well, if nothing else, it should be a sign to you that this breakup is indeed a good thing for you.

Also, be prepared for him to come back asking your forgiveness if this new relationship doesn't work out. Hopefully, by that time, you will have enough inner strength and resolve to tell him to go pound sand.

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So I just found out today that he left me to be with someone else. He hid it from me and I had to find out from a friend... he just ditched our life together and started a new one with someone else. At least it all makes sense now, but I still can't believe he did that after everything we've been through together. Why does the thought of him being with another women make everything so much worse? I feel so worthless and replaceable. We had a home together and he claimed he was committed and in love and happy with me and he just left and moved on. Now I understand how he seemed to move on so quickly and why it seemed like he didn't care, it's because he had another girl making him feel good about himself so he felt he could treat me as badly as he wanted. Makes me sick :(

I think he started treating you bad when he met someone else because you were of no use to him any longer. Not everyone does that, but some do. You won't expect it and it's shocking. I suspect you won't be the last person he does this to.

I know my husband did that to me. He also had to justify what he did by making me out to be "bad". It was horrible.

Listen, you'll look back and realize you're better off without him. He has no integrity. It's life that one decides to leave a relationship, but how one goes about it is telling.

It's confusing to be treated so well one minute and like garbage the next.

I know you'll find peace, it just takes time.

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Lmao at "good woman." If only you could know some of the things I have seen and heard of supposed "good girls/good women" doing.

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Lmao at "good woman." If only you could know some of the things I have seen and heard of supposed "good girls/good women" doing.

That would also be true for men, right? That they do bad things? Or are you just a raging misogynist who believes that if a man does something bad, that's just because the woman had it coming?

Do you also have disdain for men who have had more than one sexual partner over their lifetime? Do you have a similar word for men as you do for women whom you view to be promiscuous (i.e. your highly mature descriptor "hoe")? Do you feel that men are obligated to tell their wives/girlfriends how many sexual partners they had before marriage? Do you feel that women must come into their marriages as virgins, but not men? Do you hold yourself to the same standards you do women, or do you just feel they are supposed to service you while you behave as you please?

Do tell.

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I'm really sorry you're going through this. I'm in the midst of something similar, though we're married with kids. I'm 98% sure we're just not going to make it through the next year and a half of school. It's been incredibly difficult. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

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That would also be true for men, right? That they do bad things? Or are you just a raging misogynist who believes that if a man does something bad, that's just because the woman had it coming?

Do you also have disdain for men who have had more than one sexual partner over their lifetime? Do you have a similar word for men as you do for women whom you view to be promiscuous (i.e. your highly mature descriptor "hoe")? Do you feel that men are obligated to tell their wives/girlfriends how many sexual partners they had before marriage? Do you feel that women must come into their marriages as virgins, but not men? Do you hold yourself to the same standards you do women, or do you just feel they are supposed to service you while you behave as you please?

Do tell.

He wants a good woman as good as he is.

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Lmao at "good woman." If only you could know some of the things I have seen and heard of supposed "good girls/good women" doing.

Are you a good guy who deserves a good woman?

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Lmao at "good woman." If only you could know some of the things I have seen and heard of supposed "good girls/good women" doing.

You can be correct in your observation with those women you knew/know. Behaviors of people like cheating on their spouses aren't something I worry about. I'm not micromanaging people unless it's part of my responsibility. Your fixation on the behavior of women is an indication of a stagnant lifestyle. Go out and volunteer. Use your skills. Or think all day long how bad women are because I do care what you think of me or other women. :sneaky:

I've seen it all from people who act or think like you. Come back in five years or ten years here. Tell us how perfect your life is.

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Wow, that is some twisted logic, isn't it? Glad you got out. From the outside, it always seems like such a no brainer that these guys are total losers, but education tells me it's of course not so easy for every woman to recognize.

It's real. My ex used to get upset if I stayed long in the restroom. It takes take me awhile to do #2. TMI.

I used to tell him "I have a secret door to places in our bathrooms." He even got jealous of my own sister. I hid for a year from him because of death threats. Evidently, he had a few physical fights with his neighbors after our break up. He went after wrong guys who were his friends. He didn't believe me that his friends were innocents and none of them tried to get in my pants. Well, he was a nutjob, jealousy man.

I wasn't sleeping around and was impossible to go out alone.

I'm glad I left or dead by now. I could be on Dateline.

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Lmao at "good woman." If only you could know some of the things I have seen and heard of supposed "good girls/good women" doing.

get a life. You have some real serious issues. I'd suggest seeking some help for your male superiority complex before you become a nurse.

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So I just found out today that he left me to be with someone else. He hid it from me and I had to find out from a friend... he just ditched our life together and started a new one with someone else. At least it all makes sense now, but I still can't believe he did that after everything we've been through together. Why does the thought of him being with another women make everything so much worse? I feel so worthless and replaceable. We had a home together and he claimed he was committed and in love and happy with me and he just left and moved on. Now I understand how he seemed to move on so quickly and why it seemed like he didn't care, it's because he had another girl making him feel good about himself so he felt he could treat me as badly as he wanted. Makes me sick :(

This type of man thrives on drama. Once the excitement of leaving you dies down, you should fully expect that he'll attemp to recreate the triangle.

My advice is to give him no opportunity to change your mind. Your relationship with him can be prolonged, but never fixed and never good.

Have a heart for the new girlfriend. She's got troubles ahead.

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