Break up during school

[Nicoleashley]

My boyfriend and I have been together three years and we we have been living together for over a year. He left me out of no where while I was dealing with my own parents divorce. Now I'm dealing with losing my apartment with we got together and losing him. I am extremely heartbroken and I'm falling apart, and I start classes in two weeks. He claims he doesn't want this anymore when not long ago he wanted me in his life forever. Has anyone ever experienced this and does anyone have any tips on getting through this during school... He was my main support system and my best friend. He's been there for me since I started school and we were even planning on getting married. He threw everything away so easily and it's really hard to except. I know a lot of people go through this, but right now it seems impossible to handle this much pain and take these hard classes at the same time.

[Ddestiny, BSN, RN]

OP, I'm sorry to hear you're going through this struggle. When I was in nursing school we were told multiple times, "if it's going to happen, it will happen in nursing school"...."it" meaning anything possibly horrible. Students got divorced, had family members die, one was in a really horrible domestic violence situation... Just terrible things. Last fall I received a patient in the ICU that had had a pretty terrible stroke. Her daughter had just started nursing school a few weeks prior and was feeling so conflicted between spending time with her mother (not in the same town) vs being in class. I felt blessed to get through each bridge program with my marriage, friends and family intact.

Eventually this breakup will no longer hold power of you, and you'll be in possession of a degree that will advance your future. Eyes on the prize, always. It's okay to let yourself be upset and feel this pain, but set time limits. Don't spend your free time alone, fill it with people you love. Let them help lift some of the burden....then get back to studying.

[nursetmw80]

I was in the same boat as you Nicoleashley!

Two months before I graduated, my boyfriend kicked me out of his house. My grades were already suffering because all we did was argue all the time!! I managed to graduated with a 2.5 GPA. He told me that he wasn't happy anymore. I was homeless for a period of time. I only had a part time job and no savings. I couldn't count on my family to put me up at least until I passed the NCLEX and got a full time job. So I ended up staying in a homeless shelter until I got my first nursing job.

It made me realize that I can't count on anyone, not even my family to help me. Now, I'm in a better place in my life and want for nothing. I guess what don't kill us, makes us stronger! Good luck and keep your eyes on the prize, which is graduating and passing the NCLEX!