Blessing in Disguise ?

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Spidey's mom, ADN, BSN, RN

11,302 Posts

Hi Jnette . . .I'm sorry for your loss. I don't think we would be good nurses if this kind of thing didn't touch our hearts. This evening we lost a baby due to uterine rupture. I just got home from the hospital after another nurse and I put him in the nursery after his family had held him for a couple of hours. Clipped a little of his hair to give them. He was a perfect little guy. Came home and had a good sob on the basement stairs.


Tweety, BSN, RN

33,847 Posts

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.

The blessing was that you were there for him.

If we approach our practice that we are not "supposed" to get close to patients, it would be a cold practice. I'm glad you're not like that.

Take care.


258 Posts

Originally posted by 3rdShiftGuy

The blessing was that you were there for him.

If we approach our practice that we are not "supposed" to get close to patients, it would be a cold practice. I'm glad you're not like that.

Take care.

MY thoughts exactly....hugs Jnette

Nurse Ratched, RN

2,149 Posts

Specializes in Geriatrics/Oncology/Psych/College Health.

Likely as he intended it or would have wanted it - I am a firm believer that people pick their times to go and nature takes care of the rest. Glad you could be with this fine gentleman during his trying times, jnette. He sounds like he was one of those gems we have the pleasure of running across in nursing :).

plumrn, BSN, RN

424 Posts

Thanks for being there for him. Sometimes, those of us in healthcare are so busy about our job, we forget the human being before us.

We believe that our job is ours, and any other problem is not for us to worry about- mostly because we are so busy and overworked. Thanks for stepping up to the plate for this man, and sharing your story. It will remind us all to go the extra mile.

And for you Jnette, something my mother always says, "You're earning stars in your crown."

jnette, ASN, EMT-I

4,388 Posts

Specializes in Hemodialysis, Home Health.

Thank you all so much for your kind and thoughtful replies.

I'm feeling better about it today. I will miss his sweet and gentle ways for sure, but I know he's in a far better place. I do believe this is exactly how he wanted to go. Who knows... he DID have his emergency call button handy at all times to wear around his neck.. perhaps he just chose not to use it. He was in his own home, and knew the dreaded nursing home would more than likely be inevitable down the road. Perhaps this was his way of choosing and maintaining control and diginity. I'm proud for him.

After 2 years of enjoying him 3x a week, it's going to be hard... I'll be expecting him to show up every other day at a specific time.. I'll be looking at the clock.. but he won't come. :o

I'm so glad I got to see him one last time last night and tell him how special he was. I left a teardrop on his forehead.

There will be more like him. It's hard not to get attached.. we have some really fine patients who have been there before I ever started there.. 6 years, 3x a week... how can we NOT get attached ? It's always difficult when we lose one, but as our DON gently reminds us.." we can't cure them.. we can only be good to them and treat them with kindness and dignity while they're here under our care.. and help to put a smile on their face or give them a laugh or two."


My heart goes out to you. I'm so very sorry for the pain you felt last night. Infants are incredibly difficult to lose, and I feel for you and the family. Big Hugs to you.


435 Posts


I had been reading your thread about this gentleman. You surely came into his life for a reason, and he into yours. May your fond thoughts and kind words for him give you comfort.

warrior woman

285 Posts

I'm so sorry baby that this happened to you. I know this may seem like small consolation, but I consider you that man's Earth Angel. He has now gone on to a place where he will suffer no pain or infirmity, and will be surrounded by nothing but love and peace. You gave him hope and comfort during the time he was here, and that alone speaks volumes about the caring, and loving nurse you are. I love you my friend. Peace be with you. WW/Theresa.

Hellllllo Nurse, BSN, RN

3 Articles; 3,563 Posts


I have been there. I don't agree w/ people who say we are "not supposed" to get attached. Nurses are human, too.

Perhaps it was a blessing in disguise. Maybe this is a way that the pt could maintain a little control until the end.

As I've told you, I used to work in hospice, and thought I was used to death. But, it still hurts me when our dialysis pts die. I thought I'd be working w/ a less ill group of pts in dialysis, but not really!

We're here for you, Jnette. Just as you were there for your pt!

I'm sure that your care and concern was a great comfort to him. May he rest in peace.

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