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Just when you think you have seen it all...........spent my evening with a laboring patient who had 3 male " significant others " coaching her, peering into her separated labia while she was pushing to see what color the baby's hair was. You guessed it........she didn't know which of them was the father. Her mother was there and everyone seemed to think this was normal. Please don't jump on me for being judgemental, I actually liked the girl and gave her the best care I am capable of. I am just floored by the social situations that are so bizarre, we couldn't make them up.......our imaginations wouldn't stretch that far. These poor children, growing up in an ammoral society. Do they have a prayer of being productive citizens ??? Thanks for letting me vent.

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Specializes in labor & delivery.

Ahh... I love when the "dad" comes to the nurses station to ask if we can tell him the day the baby was conceived!!

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Specializes in cardiac.

hahhahahhahahha:bugeyes:

well at least she was covering her every possibility by having all 3 men be there. these days (after watching jerry springer) nothing surprises me anymore. :) funy post!

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Specializes in Community, OB, Nursery.

Hey, at least there were 3 people there willing to take responsibility....

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This is one of major difference I have found between UK and USA how many people including male family members are in supporting labouring mums all there peering at her waiting to see first glimps of baby- dont get me wrong I do not mind who ever they need - I just that my brothers would rather lose a arm than be in the room with me during labour- in fact for the birth of my first son they were at the hospital for my entire labour but I had no I idea that they were there. In the uk its usally just husband or patner and maybe maternal mother orclosefemaily friend inthe birthing room.

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Specializes in OB, Med-Surg.

HA HA HA HA. That is funny. I once had a young mother who had just given birth. I kid you not, two guys met me at her room doorway, held the baby up between the two of them, looked at me and one said, "so who does this baby look like to you, me or him?" I just kind of stood there for a second in shock, afraid to say the wrong thing, and calmly said "well you know, babies all kind of look the same to me" HA HA HA HA HA HA HA. They believed me and didn't bring it up again, but they were both there all day long........:bugeyes::bugeyes:

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Ooooooooo gross! Thinking I should move to the UK. L&D is one place where the fewer the people there the better.

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HA HA HA HA. That is funny. I once had a young mother who had just given birth. I kid you not, two guys met me at her room doorway, held the baby up between the two of them, looked at me and one said, "so who does this baby look like to you, me or him?" I just kind of stood there for a second in shock, afraid to say the wrong thing, and calmly said "well you know, babies all kind of look the same to me" HA HA HA HA HA HA HA. They believed me and didn't bring it up again, but they were both there all day long........:bugeyes::bugeyes:

I'm wondering if the OP's patient was going to hold the kid up next to these three guys so she could pick which one was dad!

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lol that is funny.

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Specializes in midwifery, NICU.

Funny, but sad at the same time. A choice of THREE men??? Poor girl, thats all I can say, oh and poor baby! :icon_roll

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Funny, but sad at the same time. A choice of THREE men??? Poor girl, thats all I can say, oh and poor baby! :icon_roll

I wouldn't go so far as to call them men.

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There was a story elsewhere on this site about an OB patient who had three male visitors every day: her husband in the morning, her boyfriend in the afternoon, and the baby's father in the evening.

And there may be another explanation for what happened; I'll put it in the context of someone I knew many years ago and Googled a while back - and found this particular story in a newspaper archives.

The story was titled "And Baby Makes Five." She was married and shared a house with another married couple; they were pagan and practiced polyfidelity since all four people believed they were all spiritually married to each other. Yes, this did include sex in any conceivable (no pun intended) combination, and my acquaintance had given birth to a boy whose father was the OTHER husband. They did not consider anyone to have cheated since like I said, they all felt married to each other.

I thought, "Okay, fine, and what if one of these couples splits up?" Sure enough, there were other websites about this family, and when the boy was about a year old, the woman I knew moved out and took the baby with her. Since her husband was not the father and she was never married to the biological father who was listed on the birth certificate, she could cut off all visitation and there wasn't much the family courts could do about it.

An agreement regarding visitation rights was eventually reached, and as of when I found all these websites a couple years ago, the other woman still lived with both husbands - one legal, one common law. The boy is now about 10 years old.

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