Being married to a nurse...

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Last weekend ended on a very odd note for me, especially as a new nurse. I had the pleasure of attempting to admit a very mentally unstable patient, complete with security escort, requiring all items that could be used as a weapon removed from the room, and having to grill my aide sitter about safety precautions - always stay near the door, do not allow the pt to come near you, hit your panic button at any violent agitation, never turn your back or allow the pt to come between you and the door, etc...

After my unsuccessful admission interview and the detailed novel of a progress note that followed my interactions with this pt, I finally got to go home. (Of course, wouldn't you know, the pt came up from the EOD 30 mins before my shift ended :rolleyes: ) I really thought I hadn't taken the pt's particular craziness to mind much at all, but I guess I was wrong as evidenced by events later that night.

My poor husband. Apparently at 3AM, I sat up in bed, shook him violently awake, and started yelling "Code Silver! Get under the bed! Go! I'll get the door, just get under the bed!"

Then the cat jumped up on the bed, and I apparently said "Oooh, a kitty!" and shoved her under the bed. :sorry:

He finally got me all the way awake, made me apologize to my cat, and then got me a drink before we laid back down again. I conked out again almost immediately, but he told me he laid awake for a while thinking about all the stuff I have been exposed to/been at risk of at work. For one of the first times in our lives, he felt a little worried about my choice of profession. I couldn't help but laugh...I guess he truly thought nursing was a busy, stressful, but *safe* profession.

Poor guy though...during clinicals he'd been awakened by me muttering that I needed to check blood sugars, needed K+ results, etc.

Anything like this happen in anyone else's relationships? I feel kinda bad for the guy.

Not married to a nurse, but I do remember when I was going to nursing school and my younger sister came to visit, we had to share a bed, I woke her up with my fingers checking her radial pulse. I was totally asleep, but must have been anxious about clinicals. I do have nurse friends who are married and they always seem to be able to relay their work experiences much better than I can with my nonmedical spouse!!

Specializes in Emergency.

"Paging dr howard, dr fine, dr howard". I also reference dr vinny boombatz.

I have apparently been known to mutter about checking alarms/pumps when it's actually a clock going off.

Specializes in LTC Rehab Med/Surg.

The alarms haunted me for years.

Vent alarms were the worst, but there were just so many.

I awakened in the middle of the night, over and over, to the sound of alarms that weren't there.

Specializes in Transitional Nursing.
made me apologize to my cat

This is the best part!!

When a patient passes away in NC, we have to call COPA to report the death. I called one time and left a call-back number (I guess it was a busy night). 15 minutes later (about 0300 in the morning), I get a call from my husband telling me I need to call somebody named "COPA" because they called the house for me and said it was urgent. I guess it's only fair that I left my home phone number with them, since I have been known to answer my home phone like I'm at work....

Many years ago I was involved in a domestic altercation. Subsequently, I still deal with PTSD at times. About 6 months ago I had a patient who also suffered from PTSD and he flipped out on me. I had visions of him putting my head through a wall as I tried to calm him down and waited for security to get to us.

He eventually calmed down and apologized for his behavior that I knew he couldn't control. As far as I was concerned, the damage was done. It took me about two weeks to recover. I shook with fear every day that I went to work, and I was terrified - even alone at home.

My boyfriend knew my history, and I'd told him about the incident at work. He really did need to know. He was fantastic. He soothed me when I woke up terrified in the middle of the night. He spoke softly to me when he approached me so I wouldn't get startled. I only felt safe when I was with him.

That was was fairly early in our relationship. In retrospect, he couldn't possibly have handled it better. He didn't belittle me or try to convince me to change careers. He gave me back my self-respect.

What can I say? My husband can tell you some horror stories of the things I've said in my sleep. I've been giggling to myself for a while now, then my husband wanted to know what was so funny. So, I read this story to him. He wants to know if we have therapy for spouses abused by their nurse spouse in their sleep! Lol

I work in mother/baby with ALOT of illicit drug abusing mothers. They usually can last about 6-8 hrs without the drugs then the proverbial **** hits the fan. Throwing things ripping out their IV s so on one night I woke my husband by trying to crall under our bed but our bed sits on a platform, he always asks me how my day was when I come home so he knows were to sleep in master bedroom or guest bedroom. Our life works better this way now

Specializes in adult psych, LTC/SNF, child psych.

I've been known to talk about labs and needing to get charting done in my sleep, according to DH. I never remember these things and they've decreased in frequency since I've been in management, but I still say a lot of work related things in my sleep and often wake up screaming things related to work, startled from a dream.

Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
The alarms haunted me for years.

Vent alarms were the worst, but there were just so many.

I awakened in the middle of the night, over and over, to the sound of alarms that weren't there.

Still hear vent alarms in my sleep. :yes:

I haven't had many work dreams that have affected my fiancé; he usually grumbles about needing his "nurse" when he is sick though...

Specializes in Primary Care, OR.

I manage a very chaotic subacute rehab unit. I come home pumped with adrenaline speed walking through the house making notes and directing orders.... Let's just say it takes me a while to come down.

I've accidently given out my home number as call backs. The docs make fun of me constantly.

I tend to go on witch hunts for anything that sounds remotely like a vent alarm, IV alarm, chair alarm etc.

In the beginning my honey used to ask me about my day at work.... That died off fairly quickly. Now he just smiles and says "hi honey nice to see you"

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