Bad things happen...

One thing to keep in mind when you're reading those posts is that you are also just receive one person's side of the story.

One thing to keep in mind when you're reading those posts is that you are also just receive one person's side of the story.

Yeah but at the same time I believe that nurses are supposed to be honest. And... if what they say is true then I believe they are being wronged... and it makes me angry and sad...

~Crystal

Yeah but at the same time I believe that nurses are supposed to be honest. And... if what they say is true then I believe they are being wronged... and it makes me angry and sad...

The problem, though, lies in "perception". A nurse may truly believe that she has been treated badly and wrong, yet another looking at the same circumstance, may feel otherwise.

Each person has their own separate "take" on the same situation based on their own individual circumstances and experiences.

There is an old story (Rashamon?). It shows a rape, and the separate perception of several people involved...the victim, the attacker, the victim's spouse and a bystander. And all of them are markedly different.

The problem, though, lies in "perception". A nurse may truly believe that she has been treated badly and wrong, yet another looking at the same circumstance, may feel otherwise.

I agree. Even that can be seen in the responses in threads.

Yeah but at the same time I believe that nurses are supposed to be honest. And... if what they say is true then I believe they are being wronged... and it makes me angry and sad...

~Crystal

This is true. However, nurses are only human. Human nature can prevail no matter what career a person chooses.

The problem, though, lies in "perception". A nurse may truly believe that she has been treated badly and wrong, yet another looking at the same circumstance, may feel otherwise.

Each person has their own separate "take" on the same situation based on their own individual circumstances and experiences.

There is an old story (Rashamon?). It shows a rape, and the separate perception of several people involved...the victim, the attacker, the victim's spouse and a bystander. And all of them are markedly different.

I guess that's true, but the stories just keep growing and stacking up. ALL of them can't be a stretch of the truth. I guess what I'm saying is to those that have been TRUELY wronged.... I just want them to keep their head up, keep doing a good job, and keep being a great nurse... not to let a bad situation get them down.

~Crystal

There was nothing far fetched or stretched about the man who physically and verbally assaulted me in that hospital last Spring. An assault is an assault......no matter how you look at it........it's a felony!

There was nothing far fetched or stretched about the man who physically and verbally assaulted me in that hospital last Spring. An assault is an assault......no matter how you look at it........it's a felony!

Yes exactly, that's exactly what I'm talking about. You shouldn't have had to go through that. Geez... nurses are people too!

~Crystal

Yes exactly, that's exactly what I'm talking about. You shouldn't have had to go through that. Geez... nurses are people too!

~Crystal

Thanks for undertanding Crystal. I truly do not believe that nurses fabricate hostile work environments. More and more violence is going on inside of hospitals today than ever before in years past. To take these situations lightly is to show disrespect for the healthcare staff (nurses, docs, CNAs, other healthcare workers) who have already endured physical and emotional attacks while on the job. Hospitals better be taking each case seriously UNTIL proven otherwise. What patient wants to be admitted in the hospital with the stress of worrying about assaults going on there? What staff member wants to go to work everyday knowing she/he may suffer an assault at the hands of a hospital visitor or deliberately violent natured patient? I've been through it, and am now uneasy about working in a hospital ever again. It was frightening to have my person violated in that way while.

The problem, though, lies in "perception". A nurse may truly believe that she has been treated badly and wrong, yet another looking at the same circumstance, may feel otherwise.

Each person has their own separate "take" on the same situation based on their own individual circumstances and experiences.

There is an old story (Rashamon?). It shows a rape, and the separate perception of several people involved...the victim, the attacker, the victim's spouse and a bystander. And all of them are markedly different.

The very truth about this discussion board is that it allows for different "points of view" and I think the original poster expresses the frank frustration that nurses today are feeling. When we are in the trenches and touching others, when we ease pain and sooth suffering it can be extremely self serving. We do give so much of ourselves and have sacrificed so much to be in this position. It appears that nurses lately have begun to really eat their own, the strongest survive in this very emotional and competitive environment.

We forget the fact that we are truly angels at heart and would willingly leave our warm beds, the comfort of our hearth and home to drive down a shell shocked road to ease that suffering and work side by side the way we were trained, with the ideals that brought us to that exact point in time.

What I see are cultural diversities that divide us, administrators who outsource our talents, the power of MD's so overwhelmed that they would willingly put our license and life on the line and a media that potrays us as Christina Aguilara in a tight fitting uniform that society has no option but to see us as Scut workers, scabs who cross a picket line, oportunistic back stabbers who are called "refrigerator nurses, I had an instructor in nursing school refer to registry nurses with that disdain" and the reduction in our ancilliary support that further adds to our work load. We are now functioning as Social Worker, Physical Therapist, CNA and Pharmacist and have lsot sight of the function that brings us all to this place, we are NURSES.

Hopefully the day will come when we are no longer CENSORED and our views are not diverted or stifled due to political reasons, when we can freely speak out on behalf of those that we care for, including each other. When nurses can acknoweledge and respect one another for the sacrifices we have made to do this job that so many are reluctant to do, then we can effect change.

Did you know that in many parts of this world GARBAGE COLLECTORS make more that the average nurse??? Where does this end? Are we born to be the ultimate caregiver or is it a life choice? And who is to blame if our decisions have soured our personal futures. Can we take it out publically here with fear of persecution and recrimination? I hope we maintain an open forum here loaded with very special and distinct people who can voice an opinion with those fears as they venture forth into this very noble, very needed choice, to become a nurse.

Thank you Crystal for supporting me and not even knowing it!! I am one who is going through a very depressing situation right now. My license has been temporarily suspended due to a very long and drawn out soap opera of events. I would not even care to continue to go through all this hurt and depression that I have endured if I did not care about being a nurse. I cant help but love the profession and love taking care of people, thats why we are nurses, right? I will meet with my BON on Monday of next week to discuss what allegations have been brought against me and how I can get my license back. I hope everybody can learn from my lesson. I know I have because right now there is no where for me to go but up.

LISA

Thanks for undertanding Crystal. I truly do not believe that nurses fabricate hostile work environments. More and more violence is going on inside of hospitals today than ever before in years past. To take these situations lightly is to show disrespect for the healthcare staff (nurses, docs, CNAs, other healthcare workers) who have already endured physical and emotional attacks while on the job. Hospitals better be taking each case seriously UNTIL proven otherwise. What patient wants to be admitted in the hospital with the stress of worrying about assaults going on there? What staff member wants to go to work everyday knowing she/he may suffer an assault at the hands of a hospital visitor or deliberately violent natured patient? I've been through it, and am now uneasy about working in a hospital ever again. It was frightening to have my person violated in that way while.

So are very right. I know that if I were a patient in the hospital I would not want to be there if the enviroment itself was hostile. It makes not sense, and who wants to WORK in a place like that either. But many nurses sacrifice their feelings for the good of the patients because we've always been taught that patients come first. Well, cheerfuldoer, I hope you find a place were you can be safe because TRUTHFULLY, you deserve it!

~Crystal