Published Nov 10, 2012
mmelanie20
7 Posts
Hello, my name is Melanie and I am 19, y/o with a 8-month old daughter. I come from a very traditional Filipino family that is full of nurses. I am struggling with choosing my career path. My passion is to get a bachelors degree in Business and become an entrepreneur someday, to hopefully own own restaurant. On the other hand, my family wants me to be a nurse because of the stability and sufficient income, etc. I want to become a nurse to make my family proud of me, as well as support my daughter with everything she needs and wants. I know nursing is in high demand. I all of my prerequisites done for the ADN program except A&P part II and Microbiology. I actually withdrew from my A&P 2 class this semester due to my failing grade. I plan on retaking it next semester along with microbiology. My question is, if I have both A&P 2 and microbiology classes in the same semester, would that be too much for me since I struggled a lot with A&P in the past? Also, nursing is not my passion, but I want to become a nurse so my family is happy and to support my daughter financially well. I need more motivation, it seems. It has been an overwhelming past year for me. I graduated high school class of 2011. At the end of my summer before college started, I found out I was pregnant. 9 months later on St. Patricks Day, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. 3 months after she was born, I moved out of my mom's house and got an apartment with my boyfriend. Now I am here. We struggle at times with money, as he is the only one working and I am just a student. I am lost. Do I chase my dream of majoring in business now? Then I would be in school for 4 more years, as I have only been doing my prereqs for nursing. Or should I get my ADN, which will take 2 yrs, although I don't feel passionate about it as I do for business? I know business is more risky than nursing, due to the economic downfall and whatnot. Please help a teen mom out! Thanks y'all! I truly appreciate it!!! :)
Graduation2016
528 Posts
Don't go into nursing just because your family wants you to or because how much money you will make. If you don't find yourself passionate about it you won't make a good nurse. Nursing requires compassion, lots of passion for the job and you should follow your dreams. Your family already chose theirs, not its your turn to choose what you want to do with YOUR life. Good luck!
Thanks for your advice :)
smatrang001
35 Posts
I see your family's point. Nursing is a more stabile career. I WAS a business major, Finance to be exact, in my senior year. I loved it and got a job with a big corporate company. Then we moved and I couldn't find a job, not to mention a lot of other people I know with business degrees are either jobless or working a job that has nothing to do with their degree. At 19, my family pushed me into nursing, and I thought, NO WAY! I'm 26 now and I'm in nursing school. I wish I would have listened when I was 19 because I would have been done and working right now. I'm just lucky my husband and I have put off having children so I can go back for a nursing degree. I think your family is just trying to push you into a degree they know you can always rely on especially with a baby to support. Give nursing a try. I never thought I'd love it, not even when I got accepted and started learning about nursing. I was even having second guesses at that point but stuck in there because I was using my husbands GI bill and he'd kill me if I changed my mind AGAIN and waste his hard earned bill until I did my first clinicals rotation and felt the appreciation from patients and I developed a sense of compassion I've never even knew I could feel. It really is hard word but the feeling of being able to help someone is worth it. Good luck in your choices.
Thank you for your advice! :) I am using my Dad's Veteran's benefits to go to school, and I have a limited number of hours to use.
hodgieRN
643 Posts
I should tell you that the high demand for nursing has now become a myth. There is an endless supply of nursing grads who are having a very difficult time getting jobs. I think I read that over 40% of grads are unable to find jobs right after school. Some are waiting months. The economy took a dive and many hospitals are on a hiring freeze. Many of the older nurses (who were looking to retire) are now staying with their positions due to their draining 401K's and the need of supporting their spouses who got laid off. Some nurses are having to commute to different areas. If you want to go into nursing, you NEED to make sure that it is something that you really want to do. Getting a job might be harder than you think... at least until the economy picks up, which might be years. Some people think nursing is something they can do b/c their friends do it or it seems like a practical option when you are unsure of what you want to do life. Nursing is not that simple. You have to want to do it. It's not the job you get in order to get a paycheck every two weeks. If your heart isn't in it, it will chew you up and spit you out. What's the point of having a career that doesn't fulfill you?
BostonFNP, APRN
2 Articles; 5,582 Posts
A few tidbits of advice:
1. Do some research about the hiring practices where you would like to work. Some tertiary care centers have stipulations on minimum degrees for applying.
2. If you struggled with AP2 then identify what areas were hard for you and seek out help so you don't withdraw again. Some programs will count attempts as fails so you really don't want to take a class a third time. Micro isn't too hard so it shouldn't be impossible, and it will prepare you for nursing school.
3. Don't do it for your family. You will be miserable. It will be difficult to make the sacrifices needed to make it through the program. Do it for yourself or explore other career options that you have a passion in.
jvanwoman
74 Posts
Strictly sticking to your question: yes I think if you struggle with A and P you should stick with one science class at a time.
cbthompson687
1 Post
I wouldn't take Microbiology and A&P 2 together if you struggled with A&P 2 last time you tried to take it. :) Microbiology was really hard for me to grasp and I wouldn't have dared to attempt it with another science class.
Do what makes you happy. After all it will be you who has to work in the career field that you choose, not your family. Do not let them make choices about your life or you will be the unhappy one in the end.
eroc
218 Posts
Runnig your own bussiness is much harder than people think. Get the nursing degree. I've worked hard labor at a Shipyard, nursing may be more demanding than sitting at a desk, but trust me, running your own bussiness will take your dedication to another level if you want to succeed. Nursing will prep you for the harder work to come if you decide to take it to the next step. And who knows, maybe you can get into the bussiness side of nursing.
Only you know what you can handle, but if you can't handle those two classes together I would expect you to have more problems once you reach your nursing classes.
Runnig your own bussiness is much harder than people think. Get the nursing degree. I've worked hard labor at a Shipyard, nursing may be more demanding than sitting at a desk, but trust me, running your own bussiness will take your dedication to another level if you want to succeed. Nursing will prep you for the harder work to come if you decide to take it to the next step. And who knows, maybe you can get into the bussiness side of nursing.Only you know what you can handle, but if you can't handle those two classes together I would expect you to have more problems once you reach your nursing classes.
Thanks for the advice! :]