A question for a friend!!

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My friend have been married for about 4 years and on all of her documents she puts that she is single including her nursing application but now that she's about to graduate she wants to change her last name to her married name. The reason she have been doing that is because she is scared that she will loose her grants and she nor her husband can't afford to come out of pocket for tution. So my question is what can she do to change her last night without being in any kind of trouble? No negative comments please!!

Specializes in Nurse Leader specializing in Labor & Delivery.
I'm curious about something, dannygurl84 (are you 30 years old? You don't seem to be...).

A different post asked about becoming a nurse in early 30s, so I would guess, yes, she is 30-31.

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A different post asked about becoming a nurse in early 30s, so I would guess, yes, she is 30-31.

Ok. Just seemed like the content of the posts indicated a much younger person. Oh, well.

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
If all you are asking about is whether she will get in trouble for changing her name from her maiden name to her married name, no, of course not. We get asked that often-- "If I went to school and got married before I apply for NCLEX, will my transcript that's under my maiden name be accepted?" and such. Plenty of people use their maiden names and then start using a spouse's name at some point for whatever reason-- cf. Hilary Rodham, who practiced law under that name for years after her marriage to Bill Clinton, then started using Hilary Rodham Clinton when he became an elected official and candidate.

So if that's all the question is, then it's no different than getting a new driver's license when you marry and change your name. Transcript offices, boards of nursing, and debtors of many stripes (including credit cards and student loans) know how to change the name on a piece of paper with a name change for marriage or divorce or any other non-fraudulent reason, including "Because I felt like it."

If, however, my cynical colleagues above are correct and she has been concealing the fact of a legal marriage to someone who has a paying job for the purposes of getting financial aid based on her own income alone because reporting his would decrease her eligibility (and sometimes it doesn't, and she should find out so she will sleep better at night), well ... if she does this and is found out and it does matter, she won't have to worry about getting negativity from anyone here. She'll get plenty from people in authority.

:yes:

This should answer the question quite nicely.

OP, whatever you friend decides, she MUST be prepared for the backlash.

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Specializes in critical care, ER,ICU, CVSURG, CCU.

dear my taxes pay some of those grants

deception on official documents , could land her on the OIG list...

she could be sanctioned by the board of nursing.

if being married, and claiming to be single in order for house hold encome.....to appear smaller is a significant ethical mess, that could even prevent her becoming a lis. nurse.

its wrong and illegal.

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I am very angry and disgusted by this post. I surely hope that danygurl84 nor her "friend" is attempting to join the rank and file of the nursing profession. I am wondering as well, what happened to her friend working her butt off too? So if she has a job, freaking get TWO if that what it takes. STOP STEALING FROM US,:no: pass that on to your "Friend" who I actually believe is you. WE DO NOT WANT OR NEED DISHONEST NURSES. Starting out being a dishonest nurses will be a reflection on the type of nurse that she will become. Cheating, cutting corners, and lying to get by.

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First of all get off of my post talking about my friend like that. You or nobody else knows her situation and yes she do work. She not stealing no money from none of yall ok.

Honey, this ain't your Facebook page. And since my husband and I are taxpayers YES SHE IS STEALING MONEY FROM US! What we do is who we are, so if you take the action you have to wear the label.

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. STOP STEALING FROM US,:no: pass that on to your "Friend" who I actually believe is you.

I think so too.

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Just thinking about how I have a kid heading to college soon, and we're figuring out ways to pay for it, after scholarships and grants and loans are exhausted. WE'RE exhausted, but we sure as hell aren't cheating other people's kids out of a chance to go to school by lying about our situation. Not even 30 year old "kids" :sarcastic:

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Specializes in RETIRED Cath Lab/Cardiology/Radiology.

Thread closed for now.

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