Going over me to go home

[Amethya]

I have this student that comes to me EVERYDAY telling me he feels bad, (He's told me he doesn't got to sleep on time). He has no temp and it's been like this since the beginning of the school year. What I found out is that lately he's been just going over me with the front desk secretary and just calling his grandmother and going home. He tells them he saw me and that's it. The secretary then comes to tell me off why I didn't let him go home, but in all honesty he's fine! I have called his parents before and they told me the same thing, he's fine send him back to class. I'm not sure how to fix this, I get this a lot that the front desk lets them call their parents and they go home without seeing me and it's like, then why am I even here? I don't want to confront them about this but it's getting frustrating.

[MrNurse(x2), ADN]

The issue I see here is one that we have at my school, access to phones, be they cell or school. We are not consistent in allowing students access to the school phones. This is multipronged with anxiety being the biggest variable in allowing students access. We have a handful of students with anxiety who may call home, despite an official "no phone call" policy. These students will call home and pressure their parents to come pick them up and rescue them from their anxiety inducing locale. Not really what counselors want happening, per our dialog with them. I would prefer to not allow these calls. The office should not be allowing students to make calls.

[JenTheSchoolRN, BSN, RN]

The issue I see here is one that we have at my school, access to phones, be they cell or school. We are not consistent in allowing students access to the school phones. This is multipronged with anxiety being the biggest variable in allowing students access. We have a handful of students with anxiety who may call home, despite an official "no phone call" policy. These students will call home and pressure their parents to come pick them up and rescue them from their anxiety inducing locale. Not really what counselors want happening, per our dialog with them. I would prefer to not allow these calls. The office should not be allowing students to make calls.

I have some students with anxiety that know if they really need to make a "check-in" call home, they can ask to visit me in my office and we make the call together (usually after I give them a moment to take a few deep breaths, compose themselves). The rule is they cannot ask to go home if they talk to Mom/Dad. Sometimes they do go home after a detailed conversation between me, the parent, and the student, but most of the time they don't and are able to complete the school day.

And with this plan, I have seen improvement as kids transition from MS to HS; they need less of these phone calls :).

[Farawyn]

^^This^^

As long as you are documenting that you have seen and assessed the student and they are well enough for school, the front office can't say you are "denying him service". They are sending him home without cause, so it should be an unexcused

You need to give yourself a hug and a lot more credit than you do. Maybe I am reading your tone wrong, but by immediately putting yourself down by bringing up it's only your first year and bringing up that you "mess up on things", you are putting yourself in a position for people to walk over you. Neither one of those things matter in this situation, the only thing that matters is that front office is excusing a student who is medically fine and who's parents want him in school.

This is why you need an RN to oversee things, A.

[Amethya]

This is why you need an RN to oversee things, A.

I understand your concern Farawyn, but it's out of my hands. Let's not start this again, please...

[NurseCard, ADN]

I understand your concern Farawyn, but it's out of my hands. Let's not start this again, please...

**confused**

[WineRN]

**confused**

This is something that has been discussed in another thread (https://allnurses.com/school-nurses/i-feel-like-1096946.html) and there really isn't anything more to say about it.

[tining, BSN, RN]

This is something that has been discussed in another thread (https://allnurses.com/school-nurses/i-feel-like-1096946.html) and there really isn't anything more to say about it.

Several threads.

[Farawyn]

Don't shoot!

I'll stop.

Sorry, A.

[JustbeRN]

maybe a Guidance Counselor consult? make sure you are not missing something.. Maybe more than just tired..

[Amethya]

It's okay! I'm not mad and I won't shoot. lol. I know everyone's concern and I appreciate it.