When I quit or request to be taken off a case, I'm not shedding any tears over my agency being inconvenienced, but I do feel a tremendous amount of guilt for (some) patients. Sure, there are the wacky new assignments you never accept again (Mom running around the house naked talking to ghosts, one family decides to turn off the AC in July, maybe a case feels like a big fat lawsuit waiting to happen, etc), but what about the ones you've had for awhile?
If I'm leaving a case because it's gotten stale or because I feel like I'm being involuntarily sucked into the family dynamics, I usually never tell the family. The agency is informed well beforehand, but I feel like the family would take it as betrayal if they knew I was voluntarily leaving, and possibly retaliate in some way. So, I smile big, wave, and never come back.
I'm torn because I'm having elective surgery (weight loss surgery) and will be out for six weeks. I'm agonizing over how to break the news to my patient's family, and whether I should say anything at all (or simply lie about it being some other surgery). I've been the only nurse staffing their case for almost two years, and given their rural location and complexity of the patient, I know they will have a hard time replacing me. I *have* to do this for myself, my health, and my future, but that doesn't help the crushing sense of guilt I feel for abandoning†my patient (whom I adore like my own niece). The family has received a series of devastating blows in terms of the patient's health over these past few weeks, and I figured I'd drag my butt to the AN forums to commiserate.
What is your MO for quitting a case? Do you tell the family, or do you high-tail it out of there without a word? Do you ever feel guilty for moving on? Anyone have any stories?