I am psyching myself out... someone smack some sense into me - page 3

by madelynsmom

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So I am starting college as a brand new student. I am a little late to the game- I graduated from high school in 2003. I work full time where I make pretty good money but after having my daughter a year ago, I decided that being... Read More


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    Good day, madelynsmom:

    I turned 50 this past May. At that time, I've been out of school since 1984 (1983 to 1984 was business school; 1981 to 1982 was a year at college). Since then, no term papers, class participation, etc.

    This past June 18th I went to a local community college to work on my prerequisites for a nursing program. While I was nervous, and had to deal with major anxiety (at the end of the first week, I was a mess), God got me over the hurdle, and two more classes were added come July 1st. It was hard work, but thanks to Jesus, I made it through.

    There are many more who came before me who started out much older than 50. If we can do it, you who are younger can also do it.

    Start slow, add on to the load, remember it is ok to drop classes or withdraw from classes if you need to do so. Fine your pace, then keep it.

    You can do it.

    Thank you.
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    Quote from madelynsmom
    Besides, I have the ultimate motivation... my daughter's sweet face.
    I went back to college a few years ago at 34 and haven't looked back yet. It is odd/awkward to be older than most of your classmates, but in the end they are having the same experience (albeit a bit younger) you are and share the same issues and fears. I've even developed some strong friends these last few semesters and we just look past the age issue; I'm just a big kid stuck in a 37 year old body!

    Plus, if I would have gone down this path in my early '20s, I would have never learned anything and most likely just wasted money.

    And, like yourself, my chief motivation is looking into my toddlers eyes. She even helped me in a few of my classes by holding the flash cards (and at times attempting to eat them)!

    Hang in there.. its totally doable and I'm quite sure you'll do awesome!
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    Being scared and nervous can be a good thing. If you channel that energy right, you'll do awesome and prepare yourself. Just don't overwhelm yourself. It's all manageable and do-able. Good luck!
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    Oh also, I found I did so much better in school after I had my son. I HAD to manage my time right and had much more a drive to do well so I could provide a good life him
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    Just my 2 cents but instead of listing all of the reasons why you won't do well, I say just get in there and DO IT. Study, do the work, attend class, get tutors if you need them...but make an action plan to go for it. Go to your teacher's office hours and ask for extra help if you're not sure. I had a math teacher tell us about how she changed careers at 40, my mom went back to school after 20 years at home and got a great job. You can do this!
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    I am almost 27 and completed two associates degrees in 2012. Simply put...superb reading and writing skills will rocket you to academic success. Seriously, you may not realize how much your English skills support you. Term papers...get used to writing them! Buy (seriously...buy it!) A Pocket Style Manual 6th edition by Diana Hacker. It's a small writing companion that will show you how to write exquisite papers and ensure that your grammar and punctuation is flawless. It shows, in depth, how to cite in several academically-accepted writings styles (MLA, APA, etc.). Take 45 minutes of your time and just read through it like a book if you want. It is an excellent english class in itself.

    Discipline is the other pillar of success. The difference between successful students and unsuccessful students is discipline and confidence in your abilities. Other than that, good luck! And remember to have fun!
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    In my classes it was the younger people who were failing out. I just turned 23, and have always chosen the older ladies/other mothers as lab partners. They were the only other ones as serious as I was! I believe that the mothers/fathers are the real competition, because they have to work hard to stay there and they really want it!
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    I went to nursing school at 50. I little harder but you can do it. I would be more worried about finding a job after you finish. You must be aware that it is very difficult and almost impossible for some new nurses to get training and experience after nursing school these days. So go to it with that in mind. Being older certainly does not improve your odds. Some people have gotten jobs, so it's not impossible. Don't spend a load of money thinking it will be easy to get a job and pay it off. Don't believe the "nursing shortage" hype, not for one minute please. You have a full time job. Sorry to play the devil's advocate but somebody has to do it.
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    Finding a "good" tutor is beneficial. The key word is "good". I went to our college's Math lab. The guy there, who was supposed to help with Algebra, preferred to play on his smart phone instead. He was obviously a student who was being paid to run the lab, but I guess he figured out he would be paid the same irregardless of how much help he provided. I honestly passed Algebra by utilizing Mathway.com, Khans University, and YayMath.com. Khans and Yay Math were free. I think if your going to use a tutor, pay someone to work with you one on one, and set aside an hour or two weekly to meet with your tutor. Also, don't allow yourself to get behind. I fell behind in A&P when my mom passed away, managed to get caught up before mid-terms, only to fall behind again due to a glitch in the schools on- line program. I managed to pass with an "A", but it was hard. I also benefited from a curve in the grading system. Good Luck, you can do it :-)
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    Hi I took a 3 year break after I got my BA, and then decided that I wanted to be a nurse. Its scary to go back to school, no matter how long you've been out of it. But I have realized some things as I have gotten older. When you are determined you always try your best. When I first started college fresh out of high school, i was not ready, I did ok my first semester, but 2nd semester I had relationship issues, and being young and dumb, i put those issues before school, so I dropped all my classes. I kept switching schools, because I kept following my bf, but when we broke up, I realized that I had just wasted valuable time. After that I got serious about school. Even more when I got married and had kids. It took me 7 years get my BA while I worked, but I did it. I think this had a lot to do with the fact that I was older, and had my children as a reason to motivate me to finish school. Just study hard, and dont give up. It might be a little hard at first but you can do it, dont doubt yourself. What I always recommend to people that are going back to school is it start their first semester with a light load, so as not to be too overwhelmed. I will be starting nursing school next Monday, so I am super anxious, excited and nervous, and I know its because of what everyone says that its super tough, and also because I know that these classes are going to be totally different to anything I will experience. But again, I know I will do good, as long as I give it my all. Good luck to you, and remember your older than you were fresh out of high school, your wiser, and you can do it!
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