I wonder if it is possible to successfully get through a nursing program when you are married to someone who makes life difficult?
My husband has been hooked on pills for a few years now. All of the sudden, he goes to the rehab place to get suboxone? and I am supposed to believe everything.is all better now? A week ago we got a final notice on our electricity bill! He has been using the little money we have to buy groceries and pay bills, to buy pills from some guy he knows?! What about our kids who need haircuts and shoes?!!
How am I going to survive through a nursing program with a husband that is careless with the money he brings home, doesn't incorporate food into our budget, and is an addict that might possibly be recovering? He works, but I do all the rest.
I cannot stand him anymore and I feel I would OWE him if I stayed with him through nursing school. But, if I quit now to get a job so I can better provide for my kids and myself, just when I am almost ready to apply, then I don't know when I could go to school. Are there programs for single mothers to get financial support for nursing school?
It's either stay, struggle, and deal with this horrible marriage, or leave, struggle, and give up my dream. How can I focus on nursing school if I am angry all the time?
Has anyone else dealt with this?
To be honest with you, having stability and consistency in your home and personal life are HUGE factors to your success.
If you have drama, resentfullness and bitterness because of a slacking other-half, it will bleed into other areas and basically drain you.
I had to restart RN school and it delayed my graduation date by 5 years....because of a drug addicted boyfriend I was cohabitating with. It was awful. I'm a 4.0 student....but ended up with my student loan money stolen...by him. And F's in that semester. Get away from him until he gets a desire to seek help.
( I emphasized HIS DESIRE because no matter how much we desire our loved one to get clean, it will not work until they are the ones with a sincere desire). And who knows, but if he sees your seriously done with living in his lie, maybe he will get a sincere heartfelt desire. I'm not saying give up on him forever but it might be the answer. My ex is still partying and God gave me a wonderful hubby. I have a completely different life and know what real happiness is. Today I'm planning of going for Nurse Practitioner because I have support at home I need.
Drug addicts seriously can not be honest with themselves. How do we expect them to be the stand up supportive partners we need them to be?
Please act on what you need to do asap. Life has a way of handling bad situations if we dont... it will get worse before it gets better. Hopefully you can find support and make the best possible decision for your family. May God bless you all.
Last edit by HappyWife77 on Jul 7, '14