- I suggested that we keep the place we are renting now (we both like this town and would probably move back afterwards and buy a place) however he said and I agree it would make no sense to keep this place when a) I'd never be here, b) we have one vehicle and it's the one he'd be using to commute (I'll take public transit) so coming out on weekends would be pointless, and c) i'd need to be there for school 5 days a week vs. him only needing to be here 3 days a week at max, and last d) his job isn't a m-f job so his schedule is something of the sorts 2 on, 3 off, 2 on, 2 off, 3 on, 4 off...etc. so just because I would have weekends off school doesn't mean he'd be off work.
- In my mind it definitely makes more sense to just go the direct route and get it done with, then I wouldn't have to worry about trying to get into another school later to get my BN, and also wouldn't have to worry about going through schooling once we have kids. As it is I'd be 35 when I finished mid 2016 so the clocks ticking but I'm choosing to put my career before having kids so as not to have the added stress of little ones (not to say it's not doable however I just know from plenty I've talked to (i work as a CNA/HCA in a hospital now) say do it before you have kids if you can).
And that's what I brought up that regardless of where we live, or which route I decide to go nursing school is going to be hard, it's going to be stressful, it's not gonna be all fun and games, and that if we both really wanted this for me, and for us, then we'll have to just stay focused, prioritize and manage our time well, and remember to make the most of our time together.
While he says that he supports me, I fear that after time he might get upset or resentful about having to make the commute and the time spent apart.
I've never felt more torn in my entire life.