...I'm about to cry - page 2

I have got over the major hurdles...quit my job, moved back in with my father, my 2 year old daughter, selling my house in December, etc. I started my pre-req's for a BSN...I had to take College... Read More

  1. by   AZmom
    If you're living with your father, not working, and going to school......you might see if you qualify for some state aid -- health insurance for your daughter, WIC and/or foodstamps, daycare for your daughter, and possibly $$ for your schooling.

    I'm also confused as to why you "have" to be taking courses in Philosophy and Economics. I can't imagine a school having those as mandatories, especially the Economics course as it has to do with business (I'd think). And Philosophy? I can see you having to take some sort Humanities or logical thinking general ed course, but does it have to be in Philosophy or could you have chosen something more simple?

    If it's not too late, make an appointment with your advisor and see if you can switch some stuff around or even drop something. Hang in there!
  2. by   luvmy3kids
    I hope I don't sound rude or anything.... but why don't you try and find daycare for your daughter yourself, rather than leaving it up to your dad? I would want to personally be the one to meet and talk with someone taking care of my child anyway. Of course, he could help you as far as being a resource and all (finding your way around the area), but I wouldn't depend on him to do it all by himself.

    You are only 37, the clock is not ticking just yet for you!!! There is plenty of time and you can only do what you can handle. If you have to retake a course or two because your load was too big, you will end up taking that much longer anyway.... right???

    I would try and cut back, you are taking on a lot and it can't be good for you.

    Good luck. Keep us updated! You can do it!!
  3. by   blingbling
    many prayers and hugs to you for trying to get to your goal..yes this is so difficult..no answers but i do understand.............
  4. by   sue421
    You can do it!!! Lighten the load a little. It's better to do good in one or two classes than do bad in all of them. never give up, no matter how tough it gets.
  5. by   smattles1of2
    If you need a chemistry tutor, I can help! I have a B.S. in Chemistry. You can email me anytime. I hope you are doing ok...
    Last edit by suebird3 on Sep 14, '06 : Reason: PM in post
  6. by   ZASHAGALKA
    Are you trying to get into an Accelerated BSN program?

    Surely that would take less than 3 yrs. Those programs are only 14 months long and most are just getting started so the waiting lists aren't as intense and I'm sure they take into account the fact that some degrees are older.

    ~faith,
    Timothy.
  7. by   DDRN4me
    (((((mary...not much advice but thought you could use a hug))))))
  8. by   WDWpixieRN
    I agree that you need to take the bull by the horns and find daycare for yourself. Either through your college, or a church or asking others you trust. I AM a 50 year old woman and my 4 & 2 year old grandaughters make me crazy even when I'm wasn't in school. They're too much work at this young age and with him not being used to having a young one around constantly, it's got to be very difficult. It also makes them rather cranky (my father-in-law LOVED my kids but after a day with them even he got testy with older grandchildren), which could be why he seems less-than-supportive.

    It really does sound like you have too much on your plate and I agree that speaking to an advisor would be wise, as well as consulting one where you plan on applying to NS. Economics doesn't make sense...I decided against going to an accelerated program here in town that required ethics, theology, nutrition and other courses that would prolong my application/acceptance and instead opted for an ASN course at a local community college I had attended before and loved.

    Make sure you're making the right choices for you and your daughter as you take this journey. I think you're wise to do it while she's young, but don't make it anymore miserable for yourself than you absolutely have to.

    And good luck!!
  9. by   lisabeth
    I guess you can tell, none of us is going to let you quit. :wink2: You can cry, and that can sometimes help a lot. I know, believe me. It will work out. You have lots of encouragement, and we all know you will make it.
  10. by   maryshome8
    Quote from AZmom
    If you're living with your father, not working, and going to school......you might see if you qualify for some state aid -- health insurance for your daughter, WIC and/or foodstamps, daycare for your daughter, and possibly $$ for your schooling.

    I'm also confused as to why you "have" to be taking courses in Philosophy and Economics. I can't imagine a school having those as mandatories, especially the Economics course as it has to do with business (I'd think). And Philosophy? I can see you having to take some sort Humanities or logical thinking general ed course, but does it have to be in Philosophy or could you have chosen something more simple?

    If it's not too late, make an appointment with your advisor and see if you can switch some stuff around or even drop something. Hang in there!
    yeah....you are right about the Logic and Economics...this school (and I don't want to say the name b/c you never know who is reading the boards) has a brand new BSN program that they started only 2 years ago.

    They added Logic and Economics as pre-reqs for NURSING..I have never seen a nursing program do this...that is in addition to my having to have Spanish for 2 semesters. I already had a BS and usually they don't make you go back and 'match' their pre-reqs, and this one did. there isn't another 4 year school within 2 hours of here.

    The babysitting...i WISH I could get a daycare...I live (now) in one of the poorest cities in the NATION...the daycares here are so filthy that I wouldn't let them board a dog much less take care of a baby (nasty, dirty, smelly)...no church daycares, no other preschools, none at the college..so I'm trying to find a "grandma" that might want to make extra money per month taking care of her only 3 days per week.

    I appreciate the support...but if I bomb this semester, I'm going to look at a CC for an ASN and do the BSN later online...
  11. by   WDWpixieRN
    I'd definately look in to the ASN/ADN program at the CC.

    I, too, already have a BS in MIS, but wasn't looking to move rapidly in to a management postion in nursing....I just want a good stable job where I can feel what I do in my career is truly making a difference, not just lining the investor's pockets while I slave away at salary expected to put in whatever unpaid overtime someone else's poor project planning mandates AND sit in fear everytime the next layoff happens, while they're bringing contractors by the ton for twice what I'm making. I am SO done with that.

    There's so little difference initially between the two degrees, you owe it to yourself and your daughter and your dad to do this the best way that makes sense for your situation currently. While I looked in to programs locally, I aggravated over going the BSN route....my friend who's been an RN for over 20 years told me (since I'm 50) to go the easiet, quickest, and cheapest route. Since I wasn't ready to have this take a toll on my mental or physical health, ASN made the best sense financially and otherwise.

    I truly wish you the best.
  12. by   missee213
    HI,
    IM NEW TO THIS SITE AND THE FIRST THING I HAVE READ WAS YOUR STORY. HONEY, KIK BUTT!!! U CAN DO IT IF YOU WANT IT BAD ENOUGH. LOOK INTO YOUR CHILD FACE AND REMIND YOURSELF "THAT IS WHY YOU ARE DOING THIS". YOU HAVE CONQUERED HALF THE BATTLE JUST BY TRYING. TAKE IT DAY BY DAY AND DON'T THINK ABOUT IT SO MUCH, JUST DO IT. KEEP A POSITIVE STATE OF MIND. IM IN THE SAME POSITION, ONLY I HAVE FOUR KIDS AND HAVEN'T BEEN IN SCHOOL FOR 15 YEARS. I CRY EVERY NIGHT BEFORE I GO TO BED IF I GET TO SLEEP. IT IS SO HARD BUT I REFUSE TO GIVE UP. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!
    REMEMBER, GOD DOESN'T GIVE YOU WHAT YOU CANT HANDLE.

    YOU CAN DO IT!!!
  13. by   LMRN10
    What about Financial Aid? I would think without having a job, you should be eligible for something!! You can do it...don't quit!! It's hard, I know. My daughter is 1 today and what a difference it makes going through school with a child vs without!! But it can be done. Hang in there...you'll make it through!

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