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Hey Everyone, I just graduated from nursing school in May and I am super excited to be a new nurse. Throughout nursing school, I saw myself as either a L&D nurse or a NICU nurse. I precepted in... Read More

  1. Visit  SHGR profile page
    Quote from nursel56
    Just wanted to highlight what you said about "co-workers are super friendly and helpful". You probably don't realize it, but that is not what we hear very often from new nurses. I just wanted to point that out. I hope you show them the appreciation they deserve for treating you that way as a newbie. Yay for the staff on your unit!
    Love it! nursel56, you are so right. Even if it's not a "dream job", there is a lot to be said for great co-workers, good mentoring, and the learning and growth that this kind of unit can facilitate.

    May the OP bring this along with her when she does find her dream job.
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  2. Visit  redhead_NURSE98! profile page
    I know it's distressing, but it is indeed real life. You don't think that BA educated English major got that manager job at a local shoe store chain right out of school because that's her dream job, do you?

    I won't beat a dead horse on learning that good things come to those who wait, but it hasn't been suggested yet, so I'd say get your PALS cert.
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  3. Visit  Jennie.K profile page
    At least you have a job. Be thankful for what you have and learn what you can. When a new job opens, apply for it. You aren't going to love any job if you can't learn to deal with the crappy side too.
    loriangel14, Genu9ine, zb8943, and 1 other like this.
  4. Visit  tokmom profile page
    Quote from PennyWise
    I can relate. I went into Med/Surge by choice. I was listening to the advice given to me by an instructor who believed everyone should have at least one year of M/S. Going straight to ICU/OR/ER/L+D right out of school was "cheapening the profesion" in her eyes. Me, I wanted to be "a great nurse" and not just a warm body, so I followed the advice.

    I regreted it. I ended up spending close to five years on M/S type units and hated every minute of it. There is a very specific personality that likes M/S and I don't have it. I was so burnt out on nursing becaue of it, I went into travel nursing (M/S units only) just to feel like I was doing something different.

    I've escaped the M/S setting and will never go back. I'd be homeless before I kidding. But, I did survive it for five years so its not impossible. Things that will help make it better while you seek/await a more ideal position: 1. Avoid OT, its plentiful on mot M/S units and poisonous, 2. Get into a committee that requires you to be active within it, you'll find yourself appreciating the break from bedside care, 3. Continue your education, even if its just one class at a time (might help you land that more ideal situation and keeps you feeling like you are moving forward) and 4. Humble yourself.

    What I mean by #4 is: Don't give off an air that "this is just temporary for me" while on the unit, give your best everyday (as much because it is what your patient needs as because not doing so will only sabotage future opportunities) and remember, these days, even if its not your ideal position, you are working and don't have to worry about where your next meal will come from.
    You must not have children. I would work in the dept from hell in order to keep food in their bellies and a roof over their head.
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  5. Visit  sauconyrunner profile page
    I'd use this time to take all those classes that you will need to work in L and D. NRP, the class for fetal monitoring, etc. You may also transfer and cry every single day because your co-workers are nasty.

    Just try to remember also it is a JOB. You get paid to do what you do, passionate or not. It is not the patients or your co-workers fault that you don't want to do M/S.

    And you do know I am sure that learning to take care of all those wierd co-morbidities may be helpful when you come up with the Mom with MS (Yes my cousin with MS had 3 babies...) The Mom with severe Asthma, The Mom with Chrons etc.

    You really must be young if you think doing something for possibly 6 months as long term. You have probably 40 years to be a nurse. 1 or even 2 in Med Surg will not kill you. It might even make you better. (I probably should add that I am a Nurse who has never worked M/S, so I don't really have any attachment to MS)
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  6. Visit  DizzyLizzyNurse profile page
    At least you got M/S right away. I had to put in an extra year and a half working at LTC just to get my foot in the door because I wanted hospital experience. Just try to apprieciate your awesome coworkers and all the learning you've been doing. You are certainly getting closer to your dream by having all this nursing experience than you would if you were just sitting at home or working a retail job. I'm bummed that I've had to put my dream of being in L&D on hold, but that's life and there's not much I can do about it. Think of what you were doing 6 months ago. Doesn't seem that long ago does it? The next 6 months will seem the same. And the job will get easier the more you work at it.
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  7. Visit  lovedijah profile page
    Should people be happy to have a job? Yes. Should people pay their dues? I suppose so.

    But to do it at the extent of being miserable? I don't know that this builds character or makes someone a better nurse. Maybe it just makes them angry and bitter. I am so tired of the notion that people need to pay their dues in med surg or any other unit, meanwhile they are miserable and depressed. What benefit is an angry nurse counting down the days until she gets to another unit? You don't have to LOVE med surg, but if you are crying at night and hating your life, cursing the day nursing was born (I'm being dramatic)- walk away. You are not doing anyone a favor. Yourself or patients. Leave.

    Look for another job away from med surg. I wouldn't quit without a job lined up, but I'd definately be looking for a new job.

    Explore other things until your "dream job" opens up. Med surg has been real. It's been fun. But clearly not real fun for you. Maybe you will never LOVE anything but NICU, but maybe other areas are more tolerable until that comes along. You dont have to love your job, but you should be able to tolerate it.
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  8. Visit  OnlybyHisgraceRN profile page
    I always wanted to do Mother Baby and that has always been my dream job. However, I got offered a ICU job and I love it. Is it my passion? No, but I'm learning a ton, so that after I get my year experience I can either stay or have other options.
  9. Visit  Nurse Connie profile page
    I graduated in January and have yet to find a job except for a camp nurse job for a few weeks this summer. My dream is also to work in L&D and eventually become a midwife but I would kill for ANY job as a nurse right now. Be thankful, you are only at the beginning of your career.
  10. Visit  Stephalump profile page
    I'm sorry you're struggling :/. It's hard to find a passion for something and then end up going a totally different direction, for sure.

    Just remember, you went to school to become a nurse, to get a job as a nurse, to pay your bills as a nurse. Notice there wasn't any mention of "L&D Nurse" in that sentence. No one ever guaranteed that. But you ARE accomplishing embarking on your career path! Congrats.

    You're going to have to keep the fire lit from within. Remind yourself what you're working for on your own time. If you wanted to be a film actress, you'd probably have to deal with bit roles, walk on parts, etc. Basically HOURS of work to make other people look good, and that's about it. I'm sure some people get lost in the grind and give up because they lost sight of what they were working for. But people who succeed kept on trucking. So keep on trucking, my friend.
  11. Visit  doro8144 profile page
    Any mom/baby manager is more likely to hire a nurse with some med-surg experience than a new grad with no experience. You are learning skills you will use your whole career. Also, being in a hospital gives you an advantage because they are more likely to hire from internal applicants than outside applicants.

    No nursing job is forever. Very few nurses stay in the same specialty their whole career. So, my advice is to keep doing what you are doing, networking within your hospital and making a good impression with managers and coworkers. Get your ceritfications or whatever, continue your educaiton. When an opening comes up in the department you want to work in, you will be ready, with an advantage over other applicants.
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  12. Visit  TstormRN profile page
    First, I want to say that I am truly sorry for the situation you are in. You went to school to get a career that you love and not even a year in you are miserable and on the verge of already being burnt out. That is so frustrating! I am going to go against the grain of a lot of people and say that I think it is awesome that you know what your passion is in nursing and that you know what type of nursing is going to make you happy and you want to be there as soon as possible! I don't think you should ever give up on that dream or let anyone make you feel that you need to stay in a position that makes you feel the way you do just because you "need to pay your dues" or your a new grad so you won't get your dream job right after school. I think that if you know what your passion is then you need to do everything you can to get there. I graduated last December and I knew I wanted to work ICU-long before I began nursing school. I had so many people telling me similar things that people here are about paying your dues, not getting your dream job right out of school, settling for med/surg because at least its a job. You better believe that I didn't listen to one person that said those things because I knew that I sacraficed a lot for nursing school and I wasn't about to settle for a job that I knew I had no passion for or would make me miserable. I didn't go to nursing school just to get a job, I went to get a career that I would love. And you better believe, six months after graduation and many rejection letters and phone calls later I got my dream job in a CVICU!!!!! That was the first offer of employment that I got but I only applied for positions that were going to be related to my passion. I believe that you should continue working in your unit until you can transfer to the unit you want to be in because although it isn't your passion, it will give you great experience for your dream job. Get any certifications you can that will help, shadow the nurses in the unit you want to work, and DON'T GIVE UP!!!! A lot of people keep telling you to grow up but I don't think knowing what your passion is and trying to pursue it makes you young and naive....I think it makes you motivated!!!! I understand that many people can't get their dream job right after school for one reason or another but I do think that even if you don't does not mean to give up on that dream. It may take a little longer to get where you want to be you will get there if that is really where you want to be! Please don't listen to any negative nellies out there putting a damper on your dream-you know what your passion is and I applaude you for wanting to pursue it!!!!
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  13. Visit  lovenandj, RN profile page
    Quote from Stephalump
    I'm sorry you're struggling :/. It's hard to find a passion for something and then end up going a totally different direction, for sure.

    You're going to have to keep the fire lit from within. Remind yourself what you're working for on your own time.

    I totally can relate to your what you are saying. After working as an aide in L&D in school, I wasn't able to secure a position on the unit, and ended up taking a position in psych 5 mo after I graduated. I was miserable to say the least. (Three years later, I have learned to appreciate psych on its own merits, understanding my own limits -I can't do it full time, or near full time). During that time I continued trying for OB, then even just med/surg (you are lucky to have that chance right away!).

    I finally got a shot at med/surg 2.5 yrs after graduating. THRILLED to say the least, finally I was on my way to getting the acute care experience I needed to make the transition to L&D. Until a month after starting, I quickly realized I did not have the personality for that type of position. So much so that, I was heading towards resigning after about 4 months, and just go back to psych. Then by some miracle I was able to secure a position in L&D (starting in a few weeks), and I had a LEGIT reason to resign.

    Okay, so what am I rambling about (I'm not even sure myself, LOL). 1) keep what you love in your heart, and just tell yourself it will come at some point, that way it WILL come at some point. 2) Med surg is good experience no doubt. Don't give up just yet (I know its hard, and I can't really talk considering I was going to quit!) but perhaps once you've got some more experience behind you, play with your schedule in ways that will prevent the burnout while holding out for what you really want!
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