You PHI is privileged information. That being said, no one wants their coworker's pawing through there medical history either ...
After 2 decades of various nursing positions I have settled down into a RN telephone triage position at a local organization that has primary care clinics all over town. Although we deal primarily with the underserved indigent population, we also have MD's, NP's, RN's and other non indigent patients.
When I was hired I was faced with the option of choosing a PCP from among our organization for drastically reduced out of pocket costs, as well as being paid to go to any appts if I was off the clock for less than an hour -vs-
The dilemma ...
I'm a private person - I chose away for the simple reason you mentioned: I wished my PHI to remain that way.
It wasn't really a difficult choice - I also chose an outside hospital to deliver my own baby more than 23 years ago. A PACU RN told me after I had mentioned my choice: "Better the devil you know than the devil you don't".
I felt differently and still do. I like to keep my personal life and career separate - some may think it is ridiculous, but that is how I feel and I'm okay with it.
HVP, although not delightful, is not as embarrassing as you would think. It's very common place now and nothing to be embarrassed about. If you are thinking I can say that because I myself am not positive, you would be incorrect. I even bet up to 30% of the L&D staff are positive too.
Let me pose this question to you: if the outbreak was on your mouth would you be nearly as embarrassed?
If the answer is no, consider L&D deals with below the waist, so the staff is greatly desensitized to anything you have in this area. I think you may be surprised that other people judge us less than we believe.
I remember reading about the reality of to what degree other people really notice another person's imperfections (regarding a huge pimple, a bad haircut, how fat our butt looks in an outfit, or some other sensitive thing we are worried others may judge us for publicly):
"The magnitude of how closely other people notice our flaws is likened to a fly sitting on the rump of a horse on the side of the highway as viewed from a passing car going 50 MPH"
(us being the fly - in other words, not very much at all).
I think you probably have already figured this out, but you really have (3) choices:
Go elsewhere (and no one gives your medical history a second thought)
Deliver at your own facility and continue to worry about it (and still no one gives your medical history a second thought)
Deliver at your own facility and don't worry about it (still with no one giving your medical history a second thought)
I hope this helps to make you feel somewhat better. We can't always decide the cards we are dealt in life, but how we perceive and react to them is our choice.
I wish you and the hubby good luck in conceiving, and are blessed with healthy, happy babies in your future.