The whole notion of exclusive breastfeeding, health (mental and physical) of the mother and baby be darned, is as damaging as it is ludicrous. Yes, breast is best, in a general sense, but not for everyone. I had a horrible time breastfeeding, and I teach other women HOW to do it. I thank God for the grounded, sensitive IBCLC who sat me down and said to me that it wasn't worth sacrificing my mental and physical health to exclusively breastfeed. She looked at my bruised, blood blister covered breasts, my exhausted, disheveled appearance, and gave me the "permission" I so desperately needed to supplement my baby's feeds.
Some people act like infant formula is akin to poison, and that is not helpful for ANYBODY. What about adopted babies? Not everybody can or has the time to induce lactation, and the cost of donor milk is prohibitive. What about babies whose mothers die in childbirth? Yes, that STILL HAPPENS. What about women who have had breast reductions and have inadequate supply to meet their babies' needs? What about women who, for whatever reason, simply DON'T WANT TO BREASTFEED?
Some babies are born and breastfeed beautifully, like there was nothing easier in this world. Some babies are born, and they (and their mothers) struggle for every blessed drop. One thing I have learned in the 2 decades I have been helping women breastfeed is that for many people, it DOESN'T come naturally and it IS a struggle.
The shaming needs to stop, period. Mothers have enough pressure on them to do everything right, all the time, and it starts the moment that stick shows 2 lines. Enough. Is the baby loved, fed, clothed, and cared for by a loving and stable family that can meet its medical, physical, and emotional needs? Wonderful. That should be enough.
Yes, breast is best, most of the time. Not always, not for every circumstance. Do what works for you and your family, the judgment of others can take a hike. Healthy, happy, fed babies, regardless of how they are fed, is the ultimate goal here.