coming out

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i have a friend at work who is afraid to "come out" because we work exclusively with women pts.and all...she is afraid of what people will think. she wants some thoughts on the subject from nurses she doesn't know!!!

We have a few gay couples working here -- the expectation is that they keep their personal lives personal -- just like we heterosexual couples are supposed to do! No special rules or anything. People talk about the nurses who date our docs or thechs who are dating our nurses etc.... lesbian or gay or straight won't matter to the gossip mill -- they talk about everybody!:uhoh3:

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Specializes in Utilization Management.

Does she need to come out? I mean, is someone hitting on her or something like that?

I really don't think one's personal life needs to be a topic at work.

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Specializes in Utilization Management.

Does she need to come out? I mean, is someone hitting on her or something like that?

I really don't think one's personal life needs to be a topic at work.

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I agree with the others who said.. Who's business is it what your sexual preferences are...Work/Sex...2 diff things..one has nothing to do with the other imo..I could care less what 'sexual origin' my co-workers are as long as they do their job. It's his/her own business..they can discuss it or not...personal decision.

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I agree with the others who said.. Who's business is it what your sexual preferences are...Work/Sex...2 diff things..one has nothing to do with the other imo..I could care less what 'sexual origin' my co-workers are as long as they do their job. It's his/her own business..they can discuss it or not...personal decision.

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Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

It's no one's business but her own. I don't think she has to "come out" in any dramatic form. I am glad I work in a place where such things are not an issue at all. We are a very accepting and relaxed group in that respect.

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Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

It's no one's business but her own. I don't think she has to "come out" in any dramatic form. I am glad I work in a place where such things are not an issue at all. We are a very accepting and relaxed group in that respect.

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the thing is, to a heterosexual woman, talking about "my husband" when at work is not generally an expression of sexuality, but of emotionality. it bothers me that when a lesbian woman says "my wife" people suddenly thinks she is flaunting her sexuality when she is not. she is showing her emotionality. just like straight women do all the time. GO LESBIANS! but as far as practical advice, i am afraid i have none (i am straight).

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the thing is, to a heterosexual woman, talking about "my husband" when at work is not generally an expression of sexuality, but of emotionality. it bothers me that when a lesbian woman says "my wife" people suddenly thinks she is flaunting her sexuality when she is not. she is showing her emotionality. just like straight women do all the time. GO LESBIANS! but as far as practical advice, i am afraid i have none (i am straight).

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One of the Ob's in the practice my Dr. belonged to is gay. It was obvious to me but my husband was oblivious. Did it matter? no. SHe delivered my daughter with the same care one of the straight doctors would have. Did she tell me she was gay? No. Would I have liked her to? No. It was not what I was concerned with while screaming for an epidural. While your sexuality certainly is a part of who you are, for the most part, it isn't important in the workplace. It is nice to not have to explain your differences to people all the time, but when you are different you may have to. I would say not to worry about "hiding", and when the opportunity comes up to educate her co-workers, do it. As long as she is a good nurse, who she loves would not make a difference to me. It probably does not make a difference to many other people either. Of course, there will always be those it DOES make a difference to, but you can usually smell those folks coming a million miles away. Tell her to be strong. Good luck.

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One of the Ob's in the practice my Dr. belonged to is gay. It was obvious to me but my husband was oblivious. Did it matter? no. SHe delivered my daughter with the same care one of the straight doctors would have. Did she tell me she was gay? No. Would I have liked her to? No. It was not what I was concerned with while screaming for an epidural. While your sexuality certainly is a part of who you are, for the most part, it isn't important in the workplace. It is nice to not have to explain your differences to people all the time, but when you are different you may have to. I would say not to worry about "hiding", and when the opportunity comes up to educate her co-workers, do it. As long as she is a good nurse, who she loves would not make a difference to me. It probably does not make a difference to many other people either. Of course, there will always be those it DOES make a difference to, but you can usually smell those folks coming a million miles away. Tell her to be strong. Good luck.

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those nurses who you say are homophobic probably know or has guessed her orientation

if she chooses to 'come out' this is her business - - - some people think that other people spend their whole time thinking about them, most people are more concerned about their ingrown toenail than they are about what the person next to them does in their off hours

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