coming out

kewlnurse · Mar 22, 2001

If she "came out" how could patients possibly know that she is unless she was throwing it in peoples faces, which if thats the case she should stay in, or what ever you call it. I don't go around flaunting my heterosexualness.

newborn 5555 · Mar 22, 2001

thank you for your thought out reply kday!

no my friend would not flaunt her gayness in anyones face. She is obviously not a flamboyant person if she is this hesitant but ya know people talk and no one can control this. I work on a floor where we know a lot of the patients from our schools or from around so it's pretty touchy. Yes we get a lot of lesbian couples and they are supported to their faces but talked about later. I have many gay friends including this one i work with so i can relate to her apprehencivness. She still hasn't said anything...we work with 2 or 3 really homophobic women...not cool. In this day and age i wish people would just live and let live. Thanks for your replies i enjoy reading them. Looking forward to more discussions!!!!

Mermaid4 · Oct 28, 2004

People talk...Tht is just the way it is, but if your friend thinks it is important to let her co workers know and she feels confident in who she is, they won't see her for her sexuality, but for the person she is..

Mermaid4 · Oct 28, 2004

People talk...Tht is just the way it is, but if your friend thinks it is important to let her co workers know and she feels confident in who she is, they won't see her for her sexuality, but for the person she is..

nursemary9, BSN, RN · Oct 28, 2004

Hi

I don't know;I think if I were her, I'd be real careful; It almost doesn't sound like a real accepting atmosphere. I think she should wait yet.

I work in a large city hospital that is located in the heart of the Gay COMMUNITY, & even so, I'd be real careful; I know thatat this time we should be more enlightened, but some people are NOT.

MaryAnn

nursemary9, BSN, RN · Oct 28, 2004

Hi

I don't know;I think if I were her, I'd be real careful; It almost doesn't sound like a real accepting atmosphere. I think she should wait yet.

I work in a large city hospital that is located in the heart of the Gay COMMUNITY, & even so, I'd be real careful; I know thatat this time we should be more enlightened, but some people are NOT.

MaryAnn

Trauma Columnist · Oct 28, 2004

I guess I don't see what business it is of anyones. I work in the conservative Midwest. We have quite a few homosexual couples on staff and as patients. It honestly doesn't matter one way or another. The ability to care for another human being is more important to me than someone's sexuality.

Trauma Columnist · Oct 28, 2004

I guess I don't see what business it is of anyones. I work in the conservative Midwest. We have quite a few homosexual couples on staff and as patients. It honestly doesn't matter one way or another. The ability to care for another human being is more important to me than someone's sexuality.

Quickbeam, BSN, RN · Oct 28, 2004

I always think it is wise to be careful about overdoing personal information in the work place. I'm not gay but my husband and I are childfree by choice. I have learned through very negative experiences that this is information I should keep to myself. I think you need to gauge your surroundings, the work atmosphere and the trust level. "TMI" (too much information) is a common abbreviation for a reason.

Quickbeam, BSN, RN · Oct 28, 2004

I always think it is wise to be careful about overdoing personal information in the work place. I'm not gay but my husband and I are childfree by choice. I have learned through very negative experiences that this is information I should keep to myself. I think you need to gauge your surroundings, the work atmosphere and the trust level. "TMI" (too much information) is a common abbreviation for a reason.

missmercy · Oct 28, 2004

We have a few gay couples working here -- the expectation is that they keep their personal lives personal -- just like we heterosexual couples are supposed to do! No special rules or anything. People talk about the nurses who date our docs or thechs who are dating our nurses etc.... lesbian or gay or straight won't matter to the gossip mill -- they talk about everybody! :uhoh3: