thank you for your thought out reply kday! no my friend would not flaunt her gayness in anyones face. She is obviously not a flamboyant person if she is this hesitant but ya know people talk and no one can control this. I work on a floor where we know a lot of the patients from our schools or from around so it's pretty touchy. Yes we get a lot of lesbian couples and they are supported to their faces but talked about later. I have many gay friends including this one i work with so i can relate to her apprehencivness. She still hasn't said anything...we work with 2 or 3 really homophobic women...not cool. In this day and age i wish people would just live and let live. Thanks for your replies i enjoy reading them. Looking forward to more discussions!!!!