One thing I'd wish I'd known before going to the USA...... - page 5

Hey all you wonderful nurses who have made the journey across the pond, or are nearly there bar the flights! I thought it might be fun/interesting/helpful if you could post something along the lines... Read More

  1. by   suehp
    It takes time to build up friendships like we had back in the UK...I have plenty of friends in work who I do call or they call me but I am used to popping to see friends for a coffee etc - people dont seem to do that as much round here. I am not unhappy about the situation just wish it was a little better but then as I said at the start it takes time................................
  2. by   linzyann
    I have a suggestion for those of you having difficulty making friends here in the U.S. I don't know, of course, what its like to come to a different country and not know many people, but I DO have some experience with not being the most outgoing person and making friends.
    I would suggest if you are religious, becoming involved with a faith group. There are a lot of opportunities to make friends and connect with like minded people in religious groups. Also, if you work with lots of women or men in your demographic, invite them over just to hang out. Sometimes you have to go out on a limb and ask someone to hang out.
  3. by   english_nurse
    Quote from madwife2002
    I take it you not referring to me
    dearie me, what are we going to do with you??????

    linz, faith group??????
    to be honest its not my thing, im not saying ive got no faith (i have) but the group thing doesnt really do it for me
  4. by   geordiegirl2
    Quote from SueIP
    It takes time to build up friendships like we had back in the UK...I have plenty of friends in work who I do call or they call me but I am used to popping to see friends for a coffee etc - people dont seem to do that as much round here. I am not unhappy about the situation just wish it was a little better but then as I said at the start it takes time................................

    I know what you mean, I tend to pop out for a coffee these days rather than pop in, we have been really lucky and have made some really good friends here but initially it was different, we were used to having our friends around.
    Things that helped us were our boys played football and we got very involved in that , now some of our close friends are parents of the footie team, I joined PTA, I was terrified but again I made some good friends through it.
    And lastly we never turned down an invitation, exhausting but good.
  5. by   Pilotboy
    I wish I had known all the liberals that are here; I would have never come here to begin with.
  6. by   Teachchildren123
    I wish I was warned about addictions: shopping addiction that is!!! Not, really, but it is very easy to spend money here, all this solicitation for one product better than the other. Haaa! A constant battle, you may make more money than in Canada but you are expected to spend it!
    I wish I was told how friendly people are, open-minded and willing to work together...
    Make me want to leave... never!:wink2:
  7. by   groundinghubris
    what i would like to know is how can an US nurse go to another country to work? maybe switzerland, canada, or some remote island. being an "older" american I can say it is not the land it use to be.
    i dream of winning lotto to have money to move my family away. or i am just having the 'grass is always greener' syndrome?
  8. by   Silverdragon102
    Quote from groundinghubris
    what i would like to know is how can an US nurse go to another country to work? maybe switzerland, canada, or some remote island. being an "older" american I can say it is not the land it use to be.
    i dream of winning lotto to have money to move my family away. or i am just having the 'grass is always greener' syndrome?
    I would imagine the same as anyone else and apply to the country's nursing body, meet their requirements and find an employer, then go through the immigration process, spend lots of money in the process and then when ready move.

    Maybe sounds a lot easier than it.
  9. by   kenny b
    Quote from weetziebat
    I'll reply for my dh (from Pakistan).

    He dearly wishes he'd known that the 'great' salaries here do not mean you will have more spending money. It is all taken up (and then some) in the high cost of living.

    He also is utterly amazed at how, well unfriendly sounds too strong, but how 'self-involved' Americans tend to be. He comes from a culture where you always have a house full of people. You cook and share with the neighbors, know everyone on your block etc. Here we tend to stay in our homes and keep to ourselves. No one here appreciates folks just dropping in to visit.
    I'm not sure where you are right now. However, there are communities like the one you long for. There is such a wide diversity of people, cultures and communities here that it pays to explore. I know it can be difficult to move and I don't really know your situation. But if you're relatively mobile, you might consider travel nursing. It pays well and affords you the opportunity to explore different communities 8 to 26 weeks at a time until you find one that suits you.

    My wife and I are homeschooling and we don't allow our children to watch TV. We are also horrible parents because we require that they take naps! (shocking!) It's tough because the children in our community are often on the TV and very few take naps. As a result, our children do not yet have regular playmates because activities are typically scheduled right through nap time. We hope to find a community conducive to our lifestyle through travel nursing.

    Rgds,
    Kenny B.
  10. by   english_nurse
    Quote from kenny b
    I'm not sure where you are right now. However, there are communities like the one you long for. There is such a wide diversity of people, cultures and communities here that it pays to explore. I know it can be difficult to move and I don't really know your situation. But if you're relatively mobile, you might consider travel nursing. It pays well and affords you the opportunity to explore different communities 8 to 26 weeks at a time until you find one that suits you.

    My wife and I are homeschooling and we don't allow our children to watch TV. We are also horrible parents because we require that they take naps! (shocking!) It's tough because the children in our community are often on the TV and very few take naps. As a result, our children do not yet have regular playmates because activities are typically scheduled right through nap time. We hope to find a community conducive to our lifestyle through travel nursing.

    Rgds,
    Kenny B.
    hi kenny, i just wondered how old your children are?
  11. by   kenny b
    Quote from kiyatylese
    I always tell my family to bring bread when they fly over here. I Germany we had a bakery on every corner and in a morning you can smell hot, fresh bread from your window....what a memory.
    The German exchange students at my High School brought some of that bread with them and I'll never forget it.
    It looks like there's a huge market for that with the people who miss it.

    Have any of you considered throwing over nursing to fill that need? I'll bet you could make a fortune opening a bakery and shipping bread within the US to all those who miss it.

    Just a thought. I'd place the first 10 orders!
  12. by   kenny b
    Quote from english_nurse
    hi kenny, i just wondered how old your children are?
    Four and five. So we'll probably be finished with naps soon. But there are other lifestyle issues we'll face. It's always nice to be surrounded by people who share your views.

    Rgds,
    Kenny B.
  13. by   english_nurse
    thats a relief, i had visions of your 12 year old having to have afternoon naps!!

    i think i should have had more sleep today

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