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Did being unattractive hurt your career? - page 8

While I'm not trying to be a troll, I sometimes feel that for me, that may be true. It's not my weight, it's my face mostly. I have had coworkers and pts complain about my face, saying I looked... Read More

  1. Visit  Satori77 profile page
    #65 1
    I'm guessing I have that face too. I'm told I have a nice smile, but I am just not one of those people that can plaster a smile on my face 24/7. And honestly, I wonder about people who do. Now when I pass someone in the hall to say hi, I always smile. But just all the time? No. And I do get the "Are you mad?" "Are you tired?" Type comments all the time. No, it's JUST MY FACE! It is aggravating sometimes. I am a pretty friendly person, shy at first maybe, but I always go out of my way to be nice to people, to be helpful. So when I hear that a friend says they were intimidated by me when they first met me because they thought I looked like a ****, it is a little hurtful. But I can't do anything to change how I look. I still try to be polite, friendly and helpful. Knowing that when people actually get to know me, they realize I am a nice person.

    And honestly, I would rather be that than the person with the phony smile all the time that is nasty behind your back.
    Last edit by Esme12 on Sep 5, '13 : Reason: TOS
  2. Visit  Satori77 profile page
    #66 0
    Quote from HeatherGurl84
    i have trouble with people thinking I am under 18 years old......they always ask me "Are you sure you know what you're doing?" I may appreciate looking younger someday, but just not at the moment
    Yep, I get this all the time too. I think it is more frustrating than the angry face comments. I am almost 36 years old, and many people still think I am a early 20's, or even a teenager! You should hear some of the comments I get when people realize I have a 10 year old daughter. (Were you 12 when you had her? I mean, seriously, how rude!).

    Everyone says I will appreciate it when I am older. And I bet when I am 50 and look 30 (God willing), it will be lovely. But right now, it is hard for people to take me seriously.
  3. Visit  Been there,done that profile page
    #67 4

    Being beautiful didn't help in the slightest, either.
  4. Visit  smartnurse1982 profile page
    #68 0
    Thanks to all who responded.
    I didnt realize this was pretty common.

    I will try to smile more,but its hard,esp working with children that probably wont make it to adulthood.
  5. Visit  smartnurse1982 profile page
    #69 0
    Not sure why the grammar police are on Allnurses.

    im on a tablet,so forgive the typos.
  6. Visit  rntravlon profile page
    #70 3
    I get asked all the time-"are you tired,you look tired"-Now I just say Nah need an eye lift , want to donate?
  7. Visit  RainMom profile page
    #71 1
    When I start getting the "you look tired" comment more frequently, I know it's time for a haircut. My hair is thin & the longer I let it grow, the more drained I look. I also tend to squint; hubby's often asking what I'm *** off about this time when I'm perfectly content.