Best shift for raising young children?
- 0May 30, '13 by cherubhipsterI would love some opinions! I'm talking about starting a family with my husband, and I have been trying to do some research..
What do you think is better for raising young children (infant-5 y/o): FT mon-fri no holidays or weekends OR 12 hour shifts?
Any other thoughts? opinions? How have you maintained a balance between work and family?
- 0May 30, '13 by Sun0408My personal opinion depends on the age of your children. I like nights 7p-7a, I see my children more working this shift 3 times a week vs working days. By the time I get home, the kids would be in bed asleep if I was on days. I work an hour from home plus you never get out "on time". Also my children are older and in school, so when I sleep during the day, they are at school. They are home during the summers but then again, they are older and can manage without me for a few hours while I sleep.
The moms at work that have smaller children generally work days because it is easier, however, a few work nights but they struggle to stay awake til the kids nap or they have family to come over and watch the kids for a few hours..
- 0May 30, '13 by Nurse ABCDepends! If you have great childcare the 12's are nice because you don't work every day and you can be off in the middle of the week for dr appts ,school trips or classroom help, etc. If you don't have someone who can watch your kids for 14 hours/day and need daycare then the M-F works best.
- 1May 30, '13 by Ashley, PICU RN12 hour shifts until they start school, and then M-F no holidays or weekends.
12 hour shifts gives you more time at home with your children when they are young and not in school. It's the difference between putting your child in daycare 2 days per week (assuming you work e/o weekend) and 5 days per week. When the kids are in school during the day the M-F schedule would be better because you would be able to be home every night with the children, spend weekend and holidays with them, and attend most after school activities.
- 0May 30, '13 by NicuGalI always worked more weekends when they were little to be home more during the week. Once they hit junior high I worked 3 12's a week. I was able to go to school programs and be room mom etc since I only worked 3 days. Plus if they were sick it was less days myself or hubby had to call off! If you work 5 days, it is hard to do all that!
- 0May 30, '13 by CaitlynRNBSNI have a 6 month old, actually almost 7 months now. Yikes! time flies...anyway, she was a "surprise" to me and my fiancÚ. Anyway, I want to leave the bedside SO BAD but what I work just works out amazing for us. I have 12 hour shifts, 2-3 days/week (I am a 0.75FTE). I get to spend so much time at home with her, we don't even need daycare. My mom or his mom works their schedule so they are off the days I work. If I worked 5 days/week I wouldn't be able to do this, I would need daycare. My fiancÚ has normal people hours so he is able to take her to grandma's house and pick her up. I feel so good knowing my daughter is getting 1:1 care with Grandma!! I never worry when I am at work.
My fiancÚ is starting a new job this fall, and it pays so well that I probably don't even need to work. So this fall I am going down to 0.6FTE. I may even just take an on-call position. I'll lose my senority but being home with my daughter is so worth it. Trust me, i'd love to work in the clinic and work normal hours but I can't give up the days I have with my daughter. I do what I do for her. IF we have more kids i'd like to wait until all of them are of school age before I go to a Monday-Friday job.
It is different for everyone though. If you are a single mom 12's probably wouldn't work. The only reason I can do this is because I have my fiancÚ and grandparents that help. We looked into daycare while I was on maternity leave, but there were no daycares that would even work with my hours. Pretty much laughed when I was like "I'd drop her off at 6am and pick her up at 7:30 or 7:45pm. Also, i'll need her to sleep at your house over night on these days..." Yea, not happening.