First.......((((((((((warm hugs go out to you reese)))))))))) :kiss
Second, even if you are the only one standing, stand up for what you believe is right for yourself and your patients. Know that SOME people thrive on creating havoc for others. They haven't yet outgrown their need to get over "sibling rivalry" as a youth, so they hold onto that emotional imbalance as a "security blanket". Pray for them if you believe in prayer. If you don't pray, then send positive thoughts their way and KNOW that ONE DAY something will happen in their life that will literally force them to "GROW UP"!!!
Third, take inventory of the reasons you went into nursing in the first place..........be honest with yourself about this. Write down your thoughts about this and list your reasons in order of priority, need, heartfelt desires, etc. Take this list and ponder it in a quiet place. Be aware of what you are feeling as you do this...jotting down those feelings. Spend some very quiet quality time doing this in order for it to be beneficial to you. No interruptions...no t.v., no radio, no music, no phones, no anything........just you and your thoughts with pen/pencil and writing pad.
At the end of your "time out for yourself to think session", how do you feel? Still want to be a nurse? If the answer is "No"......change your career to something more befitting to your taste. If the answer is "Yes", go sign up for an Assertive Training Class so you can learn how to productively give of yourself without putting up with BS in the process. Others will pick on you if you allow them to due to your inability to stand alone in your decision making. Every decision we make cost us something. That "something" can be good...or not so good. There's consequences for everything. This is why it is so important to stand on what you believe in and not back down. You have to live with "YOU" every breath you breathe. It's up to you to protect "YOU" because in reality when the shift you work is over...or the job you leave is behind you...."YOU" are all you have to contend with. If you're happy with yourself at the end of a day's journey, then all is well in your soul. If at the end of a day's journey, you are punishing yourself for things you ALLOWED others to inflict on you, then sit down with you and you alone and figure out why you allow others to feed you BS like they do.
Don't be afraid to use your voice! Make what you say count towards something...otherwise when we speak, we are only speaking "chatter" to ourselves. If you are satisfied with how you handle your life, then at the end of the day, pat yourself on the back and say "Reese...well done! You did good today! I'm proud of you!"
Just being human entitles us to "FEEL"...........PERIOD!!! Analyze yourself and why you allow so much abuse into your life. Most times, the abuse we tolerate on our jobs happens to us because somewhere growing up and well into adulthood we have continued to allow that cycle of abuse. You must go deep into your psyche and heartfelt emotions to figure out why you are not as strong and kind to yourself as you expect others to be to you. Are you abusing yourself? Are you allowing yourself to be abused? Why?
The first step to healing oneself of self-abuse which emits the aroma of "hey guys, abuse me" when others look upon you, is to recognize this fact is true. Once able to acknowledge the abuse, we must step up to the plate and clean house "within" before we can expect anyone else to respect us and recognize we are not their "punching bag" for their own insecurities that they walk around carrying with them wherever they go........including to work.
Most times, it is NOT about the "JOB" that we are unhappy. It is about WHY we take what we take in life.
Mostly women are in nursing. Women have been conditioned for years to take and take and take. And we are conditioned to give others (husbands, parents, children, siblings, friends, coworkers) a second third fourth....chance. We may get mad, pissed, scream at the top of our lungs, cut eyes at one another, gossip about each other behind each other's backs, and so forth, but one thing SOME women will continue to do is take it and take it and take it...............
Men fight back! Women cave in, give in, and keep on *****ing about the crap without coming to a positive solution with the issues confronting them.
There is NOTHING wrong in being TOUGH and TENDER at the same time. That is what being ASSERTIVE is all about! You stand your ground in a tough, yet tender professional manner on the job. You never lose sight of who you are professionally on the job, but you let others know that you are NOT their "sacrificial lamb" for their "nurses dining in" ceremony either.