unprofessional behavior in RN community - page 4

by miphillli 16,820 Views | 107 Comments

:nurse: I work in a small rural hospital in Nebraska,you would think the nurses here would be as professional as anywhere,or more so,wrong-wrong-wrong...we have some younger 22-30 year olds that use the f word and others I don't... Read More


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    One of the best coping strategies in my opinion is "I see nothing...I know nothing" (Schultz from the 1960s TV show "Hogan's Heros." With regards to gossipping which can be so destructive to employee morale, my motto is that I do not participate in such behavior. Sometimes it is difficult to avoid these situations. I always find myself in situations where my female colleagues (I am a man) come to me to unload their feelings (and gossip) about their co-workers. All I can do in situations like this is listen but not respond.......cause what I say will surely come back to bite me in the *** at a later time.....since the person that comes to me with her gossip will most likely go to other people and repeat what I said!

    I will never have to apologize for something I never said.
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    It's so hard not to get sucked into that. I want to know what's really going on, but I have found that you just don't win by talking about others behind their back. I still struggle with it and sometimes I'm better than others. I used to use this technique with a really viscious gossip (who was a GUY, by the way) at work. When he would share his "insights", I would respond with "gee, that hasn't been what I've observed." or "gee, I don't pay attention to what Joe/Suzie does". You get the idea. It worked with him, he found me a boring conversation partner and stared leaving me alone. Unfortunately, when it's true friends of mine who aren't viscious, when they start sharing secrets I am not as good. But after reading these posts, I am going to work on it.
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    Quote from ayndim
    I wonder if they would talk that way in front of their parents. I am 33 next month and if I cursed in front of my dad he would still try to wash my mouth out with soap. :uhoh21: Hate to sound sexist but there are some words that should not come out of a lady's mouth.
    That is, of course presuming that these people ARE ladies. Just being female doesn't make you a lady anymore than being a male makes us gentlemen.
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    This is in reply to KAT911, thanks for your input,I do,however have to disagree,
    nurses are intelligent people and an intelligent person [ male or female] will be able to "vent" without being foul, again, these words are heard at nurses station
    report room,halls ect. If you want to go in your office,shut the door,and vent in this way,it sure can't hurt anyone,just you.:imbar
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    Quote from miphillli
    This is in reply to KAT911, thanks for your input,I do,however have to disagree,
    nurses are intelligent people and an intelligent person [ male or female] will be able to "vent" without being foul, again, these words are heard at nurses station
    report room,halls ect. If you want to go in your office,shut the door,and vent in this way,it sure can't hurt anyone,just you.:imbar

    Acutally it doesn't hurt a bit! Our profession is full of people from all walks of life with all types of backgrounds and beliefs, it's not up to me to judge someone else's language unless it is expressed improperly in front of patients, families, or visitors. We all know the limits, we can all abide by them. I know some people are terribly offended by "blue" language and I try to not "offend" them. I don't understand how it is so offensive but that is just my opnion and I realize it is not shared by many people. If you want to judge who I am based on my language then base it on all of my language, as well as all of my behavior. I am not linear, I am a full rounded individual with many facets. Be careful who you look down your nose upon, you could miss out on some very important and special relationships. :stone
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    I used to live across the street from an elementary school and the little bas****s...I mean kids, would say words that I had just learned as an adult!

    My wife, a school teacher, told me about a parent-teacher conference where little Johnny had been written up for cussing. When the teacher told the mother, the mom reached over and started slapping little Johnny. "What's the hell's wrong with you, you little f****r! When I get you home, you sorry bas****, I'm going to kick your a**! I told you never to cuss, you little SOB! And we ask why?
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    Quote from zenman
    I used to live across the street from an elementary school and the little bas****s...I mean kids, would say words that I had just learned as an adult!

    My wife, a school teacher, told me about a parent-teacher conference where little Johnny had been written up for cussing. When the teacher told the mother, the mom reached over and started slapping little Johnny. "What's the hell's wrong with you, you little f****r! When I get you home, you sorry bas****, I'm going to kick your a**! I told you never to cuss, you little SOB! And we ask why?
    Unfortunately, this is a pretty common problem, Zen.

    A friend of mine that floated to peds. unit told me about going in to flush an INT (nothing painful here, just a little saline). Kid bit her, punched her in the face, kicked her in the knee, and called her a f*****g b****
    Meanwhile, his parents just stood there and said/did absolutely nothing - as if this was normal, acceptable behavior.

    I guess that's why I like babies - they don't curse me no matter what kind of trash their parents are. But if their parents start in, I call security.
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    Quote from ayndim
    I wonder if they would talk that way in front of their parents. I am 33 next month and if I cursed in front of my dad he would still try to wash my mouth out with soap. :uhoh21: Hate to sound sexist but there are some words that should not come out of a lady's mouth. Still not acceptable for a man to be cursing at work either or in front of the ladies. Gosh am I old-fashioned or what? It wasn't until after I married did I find out my dad ever cursed. And that is only because my husband told me.
    Personally, I think we are kinda young to be old fashioned (33 in Oct) lol, but I agree with you, ANYTIME I hear curse words from a woman, I just cringe. My parents didn't do it in front of me, me nor any of my friends do it, it just isn't acceptable.
    Sure blowing off steam is one thing, but when there is someone out there that may take offense to that way of talking it is just respect to not talk that way, I don't think professionalism is even the word for it, its just plain DISRESPECTFUL
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    [QUOTE=RN4NICU]Unfortunately, this is a pretty common problem, Zen.

    A friend of mine that floated to peds. unit told me about going in to flush an INT (nothing painful here, just a little saline). Kid bit her, punched her in the face, kicked her in the knee, and called her a f*****g b****
    Meanwhile, his parents just stood there and said/did absolutely nothing - as if this was normal, acceptable behavior.

    I guess that's why I like babies - they don't curse me no matter what kind of trash their parents are. But if their parents start in, I call security. [/QUO


    That is just sad..............
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    Quote from zenman
    I used to live across the street from an elementary school and the little bas****s...I mean kids, would say words that I had just learned as an adult!

    My wife, a school teacher, told me about a parent-teacher conference where little Johnny had been written up for cussing. When the teacher told the mother, the mom reached over and started slapping little Johnny. "What's the hell's wrong with you, you little f****r! When I get you home, you sorry bas****, I'm going to kick your a**! I told you never to cuss, you little SOB! And we ask why?
    I'm sure that is just a joke, but that is exactly how it plays out


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