Dear Nurse Beth,
I am 58 and a new 2-Yr. RN, I am a soft spoken, rule following, dutiful person & RN. I always inquire about my patients stay in the hospital but tend not to pry beyond that. I most often get very good feedback from my Med/Surg patient base, however, I am frequently dismissed from patient care by patient request. I am struggling to stop this from happening. Can you give me any advice?
Dear Dismissed By Patients,
It must be very distressful to frequently be dismissed by patients without knowing why.
It's puzzling, because no one would fire you for being soft-spoken, dutiful and rule-following.
The perception you have of yourself and the perception others have of you is different. This happens when you don't realize your impact on others,
and come across to others in an unintended manner.
The only clue you have given is to say you show an interest in your patients but then don't pry beyond that.
Is it possible that what you believe to be not prying is taken as lack of caring or interest?
Even if you are perceived as uncommunicative, it shouldn’t rise to the level of you being dismissed.
I would ask my manager for insight and help. I would also talk to some trusted friends or family and ask for their feedback.
People who know you and care about you will want to help you discover whatever behavior it is that is holding you back.
Author, "Your Last Nursing Class: How to Land Your First Nursing Job"...and your next!
Last edit by Brian S. on Sep 12, '17
Sep 13, '17
I'm a PCT, As I was taking a patient's blood pressure she asked me "Do you like my nurse". I was surprised by her question but knew I had to answer it professionally so I said yes I like her. The patient then replied " My nurse is very book smart and good at her job but she lackes empathy, she's cold as ice and I think she's in the wrong profession" After I left the patient's room I thought to myself that girl just hit the nail on the head with that comment. The nurse she was referring to was as cold acting to staff that weren't part of her circle of friends and although she is smart she has no social personality. It's hard to determine why your patient's feel the way they do, but it may be how you relate to them. Patient's just want know that you actually do care how about their health issues etc and not a act like a human machine just
doing her job.
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