Types of Relatives We Nurses Love - page 2

by cool_nurse

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The irony of the title describes something funny or annoying or whatever and true-to-life (not patient-centered though) encounters with relatives whom at their front we smile, but at their back we just want to put a label on... Read More


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    I find the "annoyance" of families is directly proportional to how far away they live from the sick relative. The farther away they live, the more guilty they feel, the more they have to make up to the relative, the more annoying they are to me.
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    Quote from Nursepreneur
    As an ER nurse of 10 years, I've seen lots of "in denial Family members", when they bring their family with a gangrenous foot, and say they thought it would go away! And also the "you should be on psych meds" family members. Enough said.
    Hi Nursepreneur!

    Yes! There are such relatives too! I had a fair share of them! It takes a lot of patience to be a nurse....
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    Quote from Hygiene Queen
    Sure...
    It'll go away...
    After their foot falls off.
    haha. I laughed hard at this!
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    Quote from Prairienurse1989
    I find the "annoyance" of families is directly proportional to how far away they live from the sick relative. The farther away they live, the more guilty they feel, the more they have to make up to the relative, the more annoying they are to me.
    True. For me it's alright to make up for one's absence. But the part that I hate is too much of everything they demand from the nurse or the resident doctor. Things would work if with balance.
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    Quote from nrsang97
    I get the family members in the medical field MD/CRNA/RN/ etc, who just wont let you do your job. The CRNA who after multiple requests would not stop suctioning her mom constantly on the vent every single time she let out the slightest cough, constantly was suctioning her mouth at the tiniest bit of drool. The MD who is pushing buttons on the vent trying to read the vent settings.

    Relatives who are nurses on our sister unit going through her uncle's chart. I had to call her NM at that point.

    Why did I always get cursed with the MD/RN/CRNA relatives who didn't know how to be visitors?
    Patience is the key! We get to encounter such once in a while. We just have to explain infinitely.
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    MIA relatives haha missing in action. noted!
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    The ones that work with us in gaining co operation from a patient
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    You mean there are other types of relatives besides obnoxious ones? I had a family today who met every category except for the healthcare field relatives...

    I am working on getting this poor old lady on the bedside commode when family comes in. I say "Just a moment," and go back in and close the door. They try to come in THREE MORE TIMES while the patient is having a bowel movement. Then, the patient wanted to be changed into her pajamas and put back in the bed. I couldn't even finish buttoning the poor lady's top before the barge in the door. Oh, and the patient kept saying, "Hang on a second." She quite clearly did NOT want her family in the room while she was pooping and getting naked. They didn't seem to care. When they were finally coming in they gave me an exasperated look and said, "We just want to see you, Momma!"

    Yeah. You want to see all your mom's private parts and watch her poop when she quite clearly doesn't want you to see any of that? Weird.

    Oh, and not five minutes after I leave the room they call me back in because she's "having trouble breathing." I go in there and whip the pulse oximeter on her just to check and her saturation is 95%. She doesn't look to be in distress to me, but she does look like a little old deconditioned lady with a stroke that I hauled on and off the bedside commode whose legs nearly gave out while I was doing it. Maybe they should have a little compassion and let her rest instead of talking her to death immediately after she's done something fairly strenuous (for her).
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    Quote from cool_nurse
    Patience is the key! We get to encounter such once in a while. We just have to explain infinitely.
    I tried the patience route. They didn't get it. I got frustrated.
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    As irritating as family members can be, nothing is more heart breaking to me than a patient with no visitors, ever. I just graduated and am about to start my first job, so I don't have all that much experience dealing with a patient's family. Up to now though, people have been pretty okay. The only "bad" one was an RN whose daddy I was taking care of. She was very irritated that a student had been assigned to help take care of him, and had no problems letting me know every time I walked in the room. I had asked him the day before and he said it was fine by him!


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