I agree that death is not our enemy. However, when it happens suddenly to a person close to you, then it's a shock. Anyway, I have prepared many deceased people for the mortician like many of you. But when I was a patient in the progressive care unit that connected to the ICU, a 9 yo boy was admitted into the ICU itself. He was the only survivor of a head-on crash between a motorcycle and an SUV. Nobody was wearing a seatbelt so everyone got ejected.
The head nurse was very LOUD, and monitored the boy. I think nobody expected him to live. I heard everything the LOUD nurse said before he died, and even when she announced; "He's gone." Then she asked her staff if everyone was okay before they took him down to the morgue. I was up the entire night by what I had heard. It upset me so much. I didn't even want to be a patient in the hospital anymore, so after I was discharged back to the assisted living facility where I lived, I asked my doctor to put me in hospice care. I was sick enough to receive it, but I obviously recovered.
We now have a group of hospitalists at our hospital, and I was recently in there with pneumonia and a UTI, but received such excellent care, I was discharged to recover at home. I have had pneumonia 12 times, and this is the first time the stay was so short. I applaud the efficiency of their care even though I am still recovering at home.