Why do some nurses use their titles as a big ego boost?

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Specifically talking in social settings. I understand if you're at work or at a job interview, your title needs to be specified. I have a friend who I've been doing pre-reqs with years back. Our goal was always BSN. We took different paths and now she is an RN and I just finished my LPN. I feel like she rubs it in my face alot with the distinction of LPN. Instead of asking about NCLEX, she'll say, "how was your test for LPN?" "Are you going to continue on to be an LPN?" "Are there any LPN jobs you can find?" She loves that distinction. It's petty, it's catty, it's typical female behavior and I try not to let it get the best out of me but's frustrating sometimes.

I'm sure all of you understand that not every nursing path is the same and is different. Everyone has their own goals and a difference of degree doesn't make you a better nurse. I was included in a conversation of new grads at an ICU (where my mom happens to be one of the older ones that DO take care of the young). One nurse was in her 30's and said, "Why should I get a master's? It's all preference, honestly. In the real world, people can care less about how many degrees you have. At the end of the day, you're a nurse. your co-workers judge you on how you work with everyone else...how you are with your own patients and how you are with your fellow co-workers. No one could care less about a masters"

This is what I go by and this is what drives me. If it's anything I learned in psch of mental health nursing, there's a thing called "defense mechanisms" haha (if you all remember). Sometimes people who compete are compensating for something else.... I'm not going to go there. I think it's cool when people have goals and continue on with education - more power! But it shouldn't be used to boost their own ego...

Don't know why everyone's acting brand new and acting like they don't see what the OP is trying to say.

Why couldn't the friend say how was your nursing test? Or did you find a job yet? Why throw the LPN in there. Seems silly to me. I think the OP knows what she is.

I know some people on social networks put RN or BSN behind their name on facebook or Instagram. I'm like why? Lol

Agreed. Y'all missed the point.

OUCH!!!! I dont believe that even if it's true. I'm going to believe that they use that title to pacify those patients who must have a "Doctor" Yall know those patients who dont know the difference between an LPN/RN.....all they know is that they want the one they deem to be the 'expert'. Maybe that's a technique they were taught in the Master's program *shrug* Yeah, call me naive but I'm going to run with that explanation. That just seems more logical than to believe they went to school and paid all that money to become 'experts' at something they loathe.

They call themselves "practitioners" or "clinicians". They have a distinct loathing of nurses.

Agreed. Y'all missed the point.

The point is relative to how you perceive it...

Specializes in ER.

I went back to school at age 44 and became a nurse practitioner. I refer to myself as a nurse practitioner. When patients call me "doctor" I correct them. I have never met another nurse practitioner who loathes nurses....does not happen where I work.

I think you should be proud of what you do, no matter what your education. There will always be a jerk that belittles you. I recently went to an orthopedic surgeon for a shoulder injury, he asked me what I did for a living after describing the specific muscles/tendons I though I injured (SLAP tear). When I said I was a nurse practitioner, he said, "so, your a nurse", and smirked. I let it slide.

We have a couple LPN's where I work, who can work circles around most of the RNs. A couple of them went back to get their RN and I did not notice some amazing jump in their skills or even knowledge. They were good nurses to begin with.

When people act all cocky I remind myself: what you are is screaming so loud I cannot hear a word you are saying. I have said this to folks who are cocky braggarts, who put others down, and it shuts them up quick!

Go back to school if you want to, and if not, ignore those who try to put you down. Not worth the energy!

At the end of the day, you're a nurse. your co-workers judge you on how you work with everyone else...how you are with your own patients and how you are with your fellow co-workers. No one could care less about a masters"

This is what I go by and this is what drives me. If it's anything I learned in psch of mental health nursing, there's a thing called "defense mechanisms" haha (if you all remember). ...

You might want to review your psych notes about "defense mechanisms". You have just used one as well... it's called COMPENSATION - "psychologically counterbalancing perceived weaknesses by emphasizing strength in other arenas."

Specializes in Adult Internal Medicine.

How does using your title belittle you? Are you proud of it? Didn't you work for it?

Be proud of what you are and what you accomplished.

Don't be discouraged by people pointing out differences when there are clear differences. There is a different exam. There is a different scope of practice.

Maybe you are being sensitive. Maybe she really wants to know how the LPN stuff is going. maybe she is being a good friend and trying to engage in your life. Maybe you are hung up on the title and don't like when people distinguish between the LPN and RN because you haven't pursued the RN and feel insecure about it.

This could be one or two different things, or a mix of them:

1) OP is overly sensitive to title differences.

2) OP's friend is kind of a jerk and OP knows it and is sick of the way this woman takes time to constantly belittle others to raise her own achievements higher.

Either way, it's not worth a lot of speculating on and fighting about. OP, if you want to change it, you can change it. Either call her out on it or stop being her friend. I don't put up with friends who do this sort of crap. Nobody can make me feel like I'm a lesser person unless I let them, and instead of feeling that way, I just get annoyed -- all it does is show the kind of individual that person is. Don't let it define the type of individual you are. That kind of "friendship" is poison, so get out of it, and grow some thicker skin. I know it's annoying when people do this sort of thing, but you have to let it hit one shoulder and roll right off the other. Be confident in who you are and just laugh at other people who try to make everything so serious. Move right along! If you're letting it get to you outside of whatever space you interact with her in, you're already letting it affect you too much.

Specializes in Medical-Surgical, Supervisory, HEDIS, IT.
What, exactly, is wrong with 'boosting one's own ego'?

And what is wrong with making a distinction between an RN and an LPN? There is a distinction (I have been both). So what? How is that de-valuing you? It is what it is.

And when I earned my MSN- I was very proud of the work and effort I put forth to earn that degree. It DID make me a better nurse. Better than I was, not better than anyone else currently is. Why is this wrong?

I completely agree Mary. I am currently an LPN and will be completing my ADN in less than 2 weeks and plan to continue on, but hey, if you put in the time for schooling and everything, you do get to ego-boost somewhat

So it's wrong for her to point out your differences, but it's ok for you to completely negate any work she's done that you haven't done (because it's all the same, she's apparently just stupid for putting in any extra work.)

Got to love life and people. Every single one of us will take away what we want from any discussion and then do what I am able to do, reflect the difference of opinion to make their points valid.

Since the second and third parties comments are hidden within the Original Poster's remarks, I will say, think less of what others feel about you and think more of how you feel about yourself.

Carry on....

Specializes in Emergency, Telemetry, Transplant.
They call themselves "practitioners" or "clinicians". They have a distinct loathing of nurses.

Either you have very limited experience working with nurse practitioners or you work with some very rotten ones.

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