Uncomfortable from Sexual Remarks from Patient - page 2

I just basically want to vent. I work in a LTC facility as a wound care RN. There is one patient in his 60's with chronic wounds to his legs from PVD. He sits in his electric w/c in his room most of... Read More

  1. Visit  anicwalters profile page
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    Quote from DoeRN

    Sorry you feel this way. And I said bud not butt.
    I don't let people disrespect me or my coworkers. We take so much crap off people and we shouldn't allow ourselves to be sexually harassed. And since you didn't address it with that patient it bothered you when you went home. If you let this slide then the patient may think it is ok and go even further with the comments or may act upon them. Anywhere else this behavior would not be tolerated so why should we as nurses be ok with being treated this way?

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    We shouldn't!!! I think it bothered me so bad because I didn't know how to address it directly with this patient. This was the first incident I encountered and definitely learned from it. Guess it's time to grow a backbone!!!
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  3. Visit  DizzyLizzyNurse profile page
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    I had an A&O patient purposely pee on himself and tell me (19 years old) "Now you have to touch it to clean me up" with a disgusting wink. I handed him some towels and a basin and told him to clean up or sit in it. I've walked out with treatments/meds or whatever when a LTC resident would say lewd comments. "That is inappropriate and I will be back after you can treat me respectfully" and walk out. Worked every time and the comments were stopped. Now if it's someone who is confused it's a different story and you need someone there with you if possible.

    If you wouldn't take it from some random dude on the street, don't take it from your patients/residents.
    GrnTea, cienurse, canoehead, and 7 others like this.
  4. Visit  jadelpn profile page
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    I would stop the talk at the subtle remarks, but if any patient asks me if they can "ask me a personal question" I say "Nope, I don't answer personal questions, this is about you, not me". Document and go to your supervisor about it. Any further comments and I would simply say "Inappropriate, I am here to do your dressings, so lets limit the talk to that" and redirect the conversation. I would also see if when you need to do treatments on this person that there's always 2 of you.
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  5. Visit  Esme12 profile page
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    I would make it very clear that if they made those comments anywhere else I'd call the police and reprot them for lewd/sexual behavior and that this type of behavior and talk will.not be tolerated.....persoind end of story
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  6. Visit  BlackMurse1 profile page
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    You should nip it right now before his words turn to actions. From what Ive seen on my floor, I frequently hear female nurses vent and gripe about how uncomfortable it is to deal with a sexual aggressive patient. We had on man with frontotemporal dementia r/t strokes; who always seem to forget that he grabbed several nurses behinds over the past few weeks. First the nurses laughed it off, then they got uncomfortable.
    Then they would ask me to go in with them, I finally said, look, you don't have to deal with this and assert yourself. Patients who make the environment uncomfortable can be told I will come back later once you are calm. If they continue with that behavior then it can be classified as refusal of care ( In NYS) and the nurse doesn't have to provide treatment.
    Just saying, you don't have to put up with this.
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  7. Visit  BlackMurse1 profile page
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    Quote from DizzyLizzyNurse
    I had an A&O patient purposely pee on himself and tell me (19 years old) "Now you have to touch it to clean me up" with a disgusting wink. I handed him some towels and a basin and told him to clean up or sit in it. I've walked out with treatments/meds or whatever when a LTC resident would say lewd comments. "That is inappropriate and I will be back after you can treat me respectfully" and walk out. Worked every time and the comments were stopped. Now if it's someone who is confused it's a different story and you need someone there with you if possible.

    If you wouldn't take it from some random dude on the street, don't take it from your patients/residents.
    WELL DONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    cienurse, puppyrunner, sapphire18, and 1 other like this.
  8. Visit  tinkywinky profile page
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    Luckily, my (male) coworker is with me today and will be going in to do his treatment. And this patient is very A&O. In the future, I will take the t-shirt under the scrub top advice, I had just never considered I was giving a peep show when I bent over. I have to endure comments about my chest every so often (a few moths ago a patient had some pajama bottoms missing and looked at me and said "they might be hiding in her bosom!" the CNAs got a big kick out of that and I wanted to melt into the ground) but usually it doesn't get to be too much of a problem. Thanks for the insight.
  9. Visit  ktwlpn profile page
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    QUOTE<<<I have to endure comments about my chest every so often (a few moths ago a patient had some pajama bottoms missing and looked at me and said "they might be hiding in her bosom!" the CNAs got a big kick out of that and I wanted to melt into the ground) but usually it doesn't get to be too much of a problem. Thanks for the insight. >>> It sounds like you need to educate your staff and the resident.
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  10. Visit  **12XY** profile page
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    Always address sexual remarks immediately and put the brakes on them. Tell them the first time an inappropriate comment leaves their mouth that you do not appreciate it and to please refrain from this or you will have to report the incident and a different nurse will be assigned. With all sexual harrassement you first have to let the perp know that you have said "no" to this, 2nd time you are done with them and management takes over the issue.
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  11. Visit  anotherone profile page
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    I might say something lame like, " that is very inappropriate, stop!" i work in acute care so what i do is get a different assignment for the next day, ignore it and go in the room only when necessary. i have also brought in a male aide if we have one whenever i go in the room . suprisingly that actually does usually help. although one time the pt tgen started making sexual remarks to the aide too. i guess in acute care it is easier to deal with since pts are there less time
  12. Visit  anotherone profile page
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    also. sometimes you just have to tell people off and not in a nice way either
  13. Visit  workingharder profile page
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    You could tell him you need to do a quick testicular exam on him. Bring pliers.
  14. Visit  mariahlily profile page
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    i'm kind of for the testicle-pliers thing, to be honest.
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