Total Disregard for Visiting Hours - page 3

by DYLANB 9,320 Views | 80 Comments

Just curious to hear about other nurses experiences with the total disregard patient families have for visiting hours and hosptial policies. I have been a nurse now for 3 years and have split time between ICU and CVICU. Patient... Read More


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    i work in LTC and families members are still hanging around even @ 9 and 10pm and on top of that talking so loud on there cell phones. i wonder if they know that the residents have to sleep. its sooooo annoying. you cant even get to the pts because the families are hoovering around u like hawks.
    TJ'sMOM, lindarn, and Blackcat99 like this.
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    It may be (or may not be) rough on the nurse, but it takes a heavy toll on the roomate if the room's semi-private. If the room is private and the family's not bothering anyone, demanding of the staff, or interfering with patient care, I don't care if visitors are stacked to the ceiling 24/7.

    Someone, though, has to think about the roommate.
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    If the families are quiet, I don't care. Sometimes the family being there is the difference between the patient not being on their call bell every five minutes. I'm at a Rehab hospital, and many families are given permission to spend the night. The families seem to calm the patients.

    If, however, they agitate the patient, we will enforce the visiting hours rule very strongly.
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    I cannot stand obnoxious visitors!

    I work in psych and I am very grateful that:

    We have limited visiting hours.
    If the family wants more time-- or a different time, they need a decent reason and a doctor's order.
    If it is an elderly gentleman who has trouble getting a ride during regular hours, the doctor is more than happy to write the order, and we are happy to let the gent visit his wife in "off-hours".
    However, if you are just a complete wanker who is physically intact, obnoxious and/or intrusive, and the only reason you want special off-hours is because you think you just need to "hang out" or "keep an eye on things", then heck no!
    I will call the psychiatrist, I will present your request, we will talk about it... and then we will laugh at you.

    We can kick people out.
    I have no problem kicking people out-- never have, never will.
    I have never heard tell about any nurse, tech, counselor, etc. ever being reprimanded for being firm and no-nonsense.
    We will kick you out, discuss your outrageous behavior... and then we will laugh at you.

    I do not think I could ever work in another field.
    While we are very polite and professional, we can (and are expected to) set limits and enforce those limits.
    There is no sugar-coating.
    If you are intrusive, loud, aggressive, insulting, snooping, trying to have sex , etc. etc.... we will kick you out.
    Oh, yeah... and laugh at you.

    And I still want to plant land mines all along the parameter of the nurse's station, because that's where the biggest offenders like to congregate.

    I'm sorry that you other folks can't do what we can, because once we remove the riff-raff, it is actually quite pleasant to be left with quiet and respectful visitors that actually lend something to the therapeutic side of things.
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    If my husband were seriously ill or injured enough to be hospitalized, you would pry his bed rail out of my cold, dead fingers. Having worked in a hospital, I know too much to NOT watch like a hawk.
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    Quote from duskyjewel
    If my husband were seriously ill or injured enough to be hospitalized, you would pry his bed rail out of my cold, dead fingers. Having worked in a hospital, I know too much to NOT watch like a hawk.
    Considering we all know what mistakes can possibly happen, I think most would agree with you, but at least we would (hopefully) not be disruptive to the staff trying to give care.
    But if you are going to keep jumping up and piping in about every little thing, then that is going to make people frazzled and that's not going to help anyone provide good care.
    Last edit by Hygiene Queen on Sep 20, '12
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    Quote from Hygiene Queen
    I cannot stand obnoxious visitors!

    I work in psych and I am very grateful that:

    We have limited visiting hours.
    If the family wants more time-- or a different time, they need a decent reason and a doctor's order.
    If it is an elderly gentleman who has trouble getting a ride during regular hours, the doctor is more than happy to write the order, and we are happy to let the gent visit his wife in "off-hours".
    However, if you are just a complete wanker who is physically intact, obnoxious and/or intrusive, and the only reason you want special off-hours is because you think you just need to "hang out" or "keep an eye on things", then heck no!
    I will call the psychiatrist, I will present your request, we will talk about it... and then we will laugh at you.

    We can kick people out.
    I have no problem kicking people out-- never have, never will.
    I have never heard tell about any nurse, tech, counselor, etc. ever being reprimanded for being firm and no-nonsense.
    We will kick you out, discuss your outrageous behavior... and then we will laugh at you.

    I do not think I could ever work in another field.
    While we are very polite and professional, we can (and are expected to) set limits and enforce those limits.
    There is no sugar-coating.
    If you are intrusive, loud, aggressive, insulting, snooping, trying to have sex , etc. etc.... we will kick you out.
    Oh, yeah... and laugh at you.

    And I still want to plant land mines all along the parameter of the nurse's station, because that's where the biggest offenders like to congregate.

    I'm sorry that you other folks can't do what we can, because once we remove the riff-raff, it is actually quite pleasant to be left with quiet and respectful visitors that actually lend something to the therapeutic side of things.


    Oh yes. 6p-8p M-F and 2-4 and 6-8 on weekends.
    And even better if the pt is on any type of detox protocol. They get no visits unless it is "therapeutic" And even then requires an md order and supervision with the social worker.

    But a sad point to psyche, is some if not most of my unit gets no visitors. 😢
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    Quote from duskyjewel
    If my husband were seriously ill or injured enough to be hospitalized, you would pry his bed rail out of my cold, dead fingers. Having worked in a hospital, I know too much to NOT watch like a hawk.
    I agree, BUT I would be a help not a hindrance and I would never expect the nurse to get or bring me anything and I would certainly limit other family members to keep things quite and not cause problems on the unit or for the staff. I would bring the nurse a decent cup of coffee rather than expect them to get me one!
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    What about the obnoxious family members with a pen and paper who write down EVERYTHING the staff does; hoping for a mistake, so they are able to sue the hospital?
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    Quote from TJ'sMOM
    What about the obnoxious family members with a pen and paper who write down EVERYTHING the staff does; hoping for a mistake, so they are able to sue the hospital?
    When my Mom was in the hospital (in and out for several days at a time over a few months), my sister took notes.
    Long story short, it was an emotional time, and she knew she wouldn't remember what was going on without them, and every new person to come in seemed to ask her what had been done, and what my Mom was on rather than read the chart.


    Quote from DYLANB
    You don't go behind the counter at McDonalds and watch them cook your hamburger or stand over the cashiers shoulder while they process your transaction. Why is this behavior allowed in the hospital setting?
    Uh.... I kinda do watch cashiers pretty close. (especially when I'm buying a lot of items.... I've caught the scanner double-entering items a few times)


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