Quote from DeLanaHarvickWannabe
So 11 year old girls telling other 11 year old girls that they should kill themselves isn't bullying because it's not physical violence?
That, to me, is violence.
I think the issue where people regardless of what we are talking about..."violence" to many is the physical ACT that makes it identify as such; many people for years had the same issues when Domestic Violence was a subject that needed to be introduced.
The issue with lateral violence, is that for me, there are plenty of people in this business have strong personalities; especially when dealing with complex patients or needing that particular personality to get things done, especially in Critical Care, Stepdown, even in L & D where you never know when a delivery will be complicated.
Being an advocate requires to be EXTREMELY assertive at times.
I recently realized my aloofness and my impatience with people who freeze up and prefer to pass the buck combined with my experience of having to step up when I've seen people sit back and freeze or not know what to do could make the most sensitive person, or one who may have self-doubt, etc. make them feel "lateral violence"; however, I will not modify that part of my personality for the sake of patient safety. Despite that personality aspect, I am very approachable about nursing knowledge, and learning, and a good person to vent to. If one is stuck on my perhaps, "annoying" aspect of my personality that is needed, what should I do??? Risk pt safety for a co worker who should come to me and state how they feel about it?
What I would suggest, is to COMMUNICATE because I will surely have a "come to Jesus moment" with them to enlighten them that it's NEVER personal; I'm grown enough and wear my big girl panties EVERYDAY; but my focus is on the patient; if that is your focus,we never will have an issue.
I think the first step is if you think it's happening; ASSESS the situation; then go through the proper channels; if it's not working; and that is going to depend on leadership as well.
I still suggest counseling.