Harassment? - page 3
by Angie O'Plasty, RN 2,976 Views | 38 Comments
Once a week, we've been asked to wear white. It's supposed to be voluntary. It's supposed to be a choice. However. I know that one overzealous person has called people at home to "remind" them to wear white. I also know... Read More
- 1Quote from bigsyisSo I have to go out and spend close to $100 for a uniform (don't forget shoes) that's basically a peep show (don't forget the white/beige grannypants underneath), just to go along to get along?I agree. Life is too short to be sweating the small stuff. I am watching a friend battle cancer, and when you put things in perspective, what to wear is just not that big a deal.
That IS a big deal to me.
In fact, it's such a big deal to me that the hospital policy of choice was a huge factor in my decision to work here.
I have to run a gauntlet of comments and disapproving looks about my choice every week. This is not about team-building any more; it's about control.
It offends me to be treated this way and to have my choices so disrespected.
PS I'm really sorry about your friend dealing with cancer. I agree, major illness can certainly put priorities in perspective. This is why I'm so shocked that after three months of this initiative, I'm still being harassed about it. When does the "wear white weekly" thing end? Oh, it doesn't. This is forever.
What chaps my hide is how hard professional nurses had to work in order to get a choice, and now this generation is all about "tradition." Please. I'm not that sentimental about how our profession has evolved over the past 50 years.Last edit by Angie O'Plasty, RN on Aug 15, '07
- 2Aug 15, '07 by TweetyJust ride it out Angie, sooner or later they are going to recognize the one's they can't reach and leave you alone.
Go into what I what I call my "broken record routine" saying "I am choosing not to wear white, please don't continue to ask." Say it again and again and again if you have to.
Then relax about it and don't stress. I think the overzealousness with ease with time. What's probably going to happen is people will slowly begin not wearing white. They will either accept that they won't get 100% compliance, or they will mandate that you wear white without a choice.
Good luck with this.
- 0Before I get busy doing other stuff, I just want to take a minute and thank all of you who gave such thoughtful answers to my dilemma in this thread.
All of you were so much more helpful than my wonderful DH, whose advice was to just call off on white day.
Right. Like they wouldn't notice.
- 0Aug 15, '07 by bigsyisQuote from angie o'plasty, rndid you protest as loudly and vociferously when this was announced as being a team-building project, esp. about the $expense$?so i have to go out and spend close to $100 for a uniform (don't forget shoes) that's basically a peep show (don't forget the white/beige grannypants underneath), just to go along to get along?
that is a big deal to me.
i don't know if you live near a wal-mart or not, but you can get pants, jacket and top for about $36, and white underwear isn't too expensive there. if you are fortunate enough (and policy allows) and there is a dollar general store near you, you can get white "croc-like" shoes there for $6/pr, and they are quite comfortable!
and yes, i know whereof i speak, that is why i asked what the totally big deal was. three weeks after buying seven new sets of spring/summer scrubs (jackets included) earlier this year, our practice announced that we were mandated to wear only navy or red of a certain style. they would give us 3 sets of tops and bottoms and one jacket. unless i wanted to look like a beggar in very short order, guess what? i had to buy seven more sets and jackets so i'd at least have 2 weeks' worth. of course, white shoes (or pastel colors) looked ridiculous w/navy and red. that is when i found the croc-like shoes at dollar general, and they are really comfortable and wear well.
one nurse here risked being fired for insubordination because she only wanted to wear white. the solution was for her to wear a full-lenth white lab coat over her navy scrubs. maybe you all could compromise that way?
- 0OK, first, I wasn't a part of this decision. No one was. This was all one coworker who got support from management.
Second, because of my painful foot problems, I cannot wear Crocs knockoffs. I have a pair that I work in and they are not white.
In fact, I was so happy to not have to wear white when I joined this organization, I had a gleeful "burn the see-through whites" day. I even tossed out my white/beige bras and underwear and bought cute patterned socks. My colored scrubs were cheap and are holding up very well. I also do not look like (and I'm borrowing this from someone else's comment on another thread, but it stuck with me) The Michelin Man, because I'm a way big Plus-Sized woman.
Third, it's supposed to be a choice. Therefore, I should not have to be stressing over this. I should not be bullied into doing something I choose not to do.
I have a white lab coat but it's really not practical for running around on the floor. In fact, since this initiative started, a few people have had to change out of their white uniforms due to spills, leaks, and patients' bodily fluid sprays. A couple of the girls are keeping spares in their lockers for those "special" days.
*sigh* I thought the profession had gotten past all that.
I guess I'll just have to ride it out. But white days are just awful now because the tension is so thick on the unit over this, and as I said, there is no end date to this particular initiative, so I can only hope that it fades with time.Last edit by Angie O'Plasty, RN on Aug 15, '07
- 2Aug 15, '07 by VivaLasViejas GuideNot THIS nurse-manager, that's for darn sure! "Team-building" is nothing more than administration code-speak for "let's treat adults like a batch of four-year-olds and watch 'em squirm".
Angie, I say stick to your guns---it is NOT worth the extra expense, and it is NOT worth the stress. Don't let 'em get you down!