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I'd like to add that in our final class, I passed with 84 and 94 on the two tests. My former classmate informed me she failed the class by a point and had to write letters all the way up the chain of command to beg to be passed (and succeeded). I share this info to show that I went out of my way to prepare myself while in school. I am in no way incompetent. I'm just new on the job.
Thanks for the input in advance!
Is this former classmate who failed and had to write letters the one who's bullying you now? If so, then she is probably feeling deeply insecure and incompetent and taking it out on you. I am in my late 40s and have been an RN for 22 years and I find that most younger nurses are respectful and say things like, "I'm glad you're here to help me since you have a lot of experience," but that a few who feel new and green and insecure will do this with us older gals. I'm not sure if it's because we live in a youth obsessed society where young people with little knowledge or life experience are put on pedestals (think Miley Cyrus, Lady Gaga...etc.) and older people are sloooooowwly put out to pasture with each passing birthday or what, but it is annoying and it definitely isn't right.
I'm sorry that you're going through this. It's hard enough starting out as a new RN without being treated like an idiot to boot, and you sound like you are very competent and conscientious too.
You are probably going to just have to talk to this little twit (sorry!) and tell her, gently at first, something like, "Could you please not question everything that I do? You can see by now that I am doing what I am supposed to be doing, so let's just focus on our own work and be a supportive shoulder to each other, okay?" I don't know if it will work, but at least it might make her back down.