I am 'friendly'. I laugh and joke around, but I no longer keep friends at work.
We're not hanging out on the weekends. No - I may not go to the Christmas party. Stop asking. I don't discuss my personal business with anyone which is difficult because everyone wants to get in your personal business.
Lots of over-sharing takes place. In my experiences, anyway.
I don't say that it can't be done. I don't say that I've never done had work besties that bled inot real life, but not at my current place of work. Sorry.
They're gossipy. I don't like that. They're busybodies. I don't like that, either. There's always gossip and coworker bashing going on at the nurses station. I don't like being around that. I feel like, if I can't say it to your face? I won't say it behind your back.
That's me. Others...differ.
Running your coworkers into the dirt destroys morale and I know because the very minute I caught folks doing it? I developed immediate reservations and steered clear of some of them. If they talk ugly about this girl (who is actually nice). What do they say about me?
This individual senses 'something' in our shallow interactions. There is 'something'. I didn't have a 'problem' with her until I heard what she said about our coworker.
So, I just don't go into the nurse's station unless I need something.
They've tried to draw me into the bashing of one coworker, too. Yes!
I speak to her. Why not? Hell, I speak to everyone. LOL So, they kind of look at me and poke fun on occasion. 'Oh, that's your best friend' and blah, blah, blah.
Light-hearted jeering. I don't have much issue with this nurse. Though I think it tacky to0 continuously drag the entire staff into your drama, the dislike is known and fairly mutual. At least she's upfront about it. Not going around the other girl's back.
So, I say, "I don't have any friends in this dept. I have professional relationships with everyone. I talk to her because I don't have a problem with her. I'm no closer to her than I am to you...and I'm talking to you, so..."
The jokes continue and I participateright nown it. Get a few laughs. They're funny after all.
I simply say, "Well...meh. I'm not in that. Not my business. I don't spread gossip. I don't peddle info back n forth...mostly 'cause I dont' like to be in the midst of drama and crap...."
The jeering continues.
I laugh and exit the nurse's station. It's like a shark tank in there.
I'm not the only one who does it, too.
I've witnessed them badmouthing each other, then badmouthing a member of the group when a smaller number of them gathers. Seen a bunch. Way I see it?
If you talk about them, you'll talk about me. I read people well. I worked in a rad dept that was cut-throat beyond belief. Coming into nursing? I know what to expect. I know 'toxic' when I see it. When I see any of this two-faced/******/drama queen/Mean Girl behavior, I know that it's in my best interests to keep to myself. Mostly.
I'm naturally reserved but I do have a personality. I just put my head down and do my work. I keep to myself at work. I'm not the only one in my dept who does this.
Ironically, WE (the quiet ones) kind of clique up at work. It's strange. LOL
Apparently, they know better than to get all 'friendly' with our coworkers, too. We don't badmouth our coworkers, but we just intuitively 'know' what's really going on, I think.
If a coworker is quiet and off to themselves? There's a good reason for it, usually. They've probably been burned or they know enough to recognize certain personalities/dept dynamics for what they are...and stay under the radar.