Freud described these females as having penis envy. They are very angy because they were born with wrong genitalia. Unless these females are willing to seek psychological counseling, they will never change. Some will require medication to help resolve their psychological issues. Killing them with kindness will not work. Confront them for what they are, and assert yourself.
Kill them with kindness, although well meaning, doesn't work.
I couldn't solve the problem myself, so I sought employment settings that had more male nurses so that I wouldn't be left to fend for myself.
It worked. I'm not trying to suggest running away, but getting out of that environment is what worked for me.
More men on the floor, in my experience, no matter what anyone else says, plain and simple, helps keep the peace.
I'm surprised that you are the only male in an ER, because ER seems to attract men.
Like I stated earlier, I couldn't solve the problem myself, I can only tell you not to take it too personally, as hard as that is to do, just understand the underlying reason(s) behind the hostility:
The #1 reason for the anti-man behavior is:
Women who had bad relationships with men in their personal lives and it's a lot easier to blame men in general for their misfortunes than to own up to the fact that they made bad choices in men and in their personal lives in general, i.e. "It's not my fault, it's all these men who have done me wrong..."
They see you and they will take it out on you.
There may also be women who saw male nurses previously get promoted above them and feel ignored for their experience, education, contribution, etc. and see you as one more man to someday get promoted above them even though your qualifications may be inferior to theirs. It happens.
You can't blame someone for being bitter about that, although I'm not trying to excuse the behavior, just trying to understand it.
All I know is, male presence on any floor helps keep the peace, but at the same time, I have to say that I've run into some male instigators who participate in the cat fighting and gossip and fuel the fire for a badly run floor.[/QUOTE]