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OK we get it STUD, you're straight - page 5

Something has been bothering me for quite some time on this forum and I have not known exactly what it was. Well I figured it out and y'all may not like it. So often when reading posts on the... Read More

  1. Visit  IKnowYouRider profile page
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    Quote from Conqueror+
    I understand your post but by doing this isn't he proclaiming "hey I'm different". If someone else says he's somehow "different" they are a bigot or something. It seems a little confusing. Either you are just like everyone else or you aren't. If you are just like everyone else why make an announcement ?
    Perhaps placing the event in context helps. It was during a cultural diversity day. Also, a person wouldn't be considered a 'bigot' for calling him different, they would be considered a bigot if they referenced him in being unequal in some way.
  2. Visit  Conqueror+ profile page
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    I completely understood the post when I replied
  3. Visit  ImThatGuy profile page
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    I think it would be totally stupid and inappropriate for an instructor to reveal that he's gay by using an academic platform. The same with anything else...chronically depressed, homicidal, doesn't matter. Not his job. Not what students are paying to hear.
    GM2RN, ugoumeh, Conqueror+, and 1 other like this.
  4. Visit  HardworkeRN1234 profile page
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    I think your professor's move gutsy and great. It was diversity day and he's bringing attention to his sexuality because it is different and guess what? Believe it or not gays have it a little tougher. The rates of suicide attempts/ drug abuse/homelessness for gay men are ridiculous. It should get more attention than it does, but it's something nobody likes to talk about.

    But relating to nursing, because that's what this website is about... I dont think anyone cares. And if someone does then they fail.

    FAIL!
  5. Visit  cpl_dvldog profile page
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    Why is it that homosexual men feel the need to let everyone know they are gay by extremely feminate body language or even wearing female scrubs, but are annoyed when a straight man lets it be known he is not?

    There are two truths I have discovered working in hospitals
    1. At first sight male nurses are assumed to be doctors by patients.
    2. At first sight male nurses are assumed to be gay.

    I am NOT a doctor and I am NOT gay.
  6. Visit  PacoUSA profile page
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    Quote from cpl_dvldog
    Why is it that homosexual men feel the need to let everyone know they are gay by extremely feminate body language or even wearing female scrubs, but are annoyed when a straight man lets it be known he is not?

    There are two truths I have discovered working in hospitals
    1. At first sight male nurses are assumed to be doctors by patients.
    2. At first sight male nurses are assumed to be gay.

    I am NOT a doctor and I am NOT gay.
    That's a bit over the top ... not all gay men are as you describe above. I know gay men that abhor the idea of wearing female clothing of any kind and actually enjoy being GASP wait for it ... MEN! Gay men are just as much men as straight men are.
  7. Visit  NorCalKid profile page
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    I haven't really noticed this. OK I'm still doing my pre requisites but this isn't even something that I have thought about or noticed in my classes. Maybe the forum is different(I'm new here) but in the real world here in California IMO it's a non issue. I think the opinions about males in nursing have changed a lot in the last 10 years. Or maybe I am just to the point that I really don't care what anyone thinks. Or maybe growing up in the SF area it's just a total non issue to most.
  8. Visit  cpl_dvldog profile page
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    Quote from Paco69
    That's a bit over the top ... not all gay men are as you describe above. I know gay men that abhor the idea of wearing female clothing of any kind and actually enjoy being GASP wait for it ... MEN! Gay men are just as much men as straight men are.
    Over the top or not, it is a true statement. The ones that "flame" the most are the ones that get the most annoyed by a straight man talking about his girlfriend or wife. When a woman is a prominant part of my life she is normally included in my conversations. I am a huge college football fan and talk about that as well, but I don't think that makes me a homophobe either.

    Yes I am mistaken for a DOCTOR almost on a daily basis.
    Yes I am mistaken for being GAY at least 3-4 times a month, by patients and staff.
  9. Visit  exit96 profile page
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    Quote from Paco69
    A major insecurity about people perceiving me as gay is what prevented me from entering the nursing profession when I was in my early 20s. I made up every other excuse in the world to rationalize why nursing was not for me: I can't stand the sight of blood, I don't want to work long hours ... you name it, I shelled it out. Even though those were not true, it worked to mask the real reason from everyone.

    Now it's @ 20 years later and I kick myself a few times a month for being so stupid. Here I am in my early 40's, mature and secure in everything that I am, entering a profession that by now should have rewarded me with 20 years of incredible experience, career benefits and financial rewards to boot. All because I was scared to be perceived as gay. I sometimes feel like I wasted the last 20 years of my life in a career that was completely wrong for me and did nothing to create the image I wanted to portray to everyone. Now I want the chance to start doing what I was meant to do. If I can motivate at least one young man from steering away from the path I took to become a nurse, it will all be worth it.

    The day I earn my RN will be the day I recapture my life.

    Nicely put! I am 47 and will graduate in December! As I read your post I am now perceiving that there may have been an element of this in WHY I didn't pursue nursing MANY years ago when I knew i wanted to. There were definitely other issues, but this make some sense to and me and strikes a chord...
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    Quote from exit96
    Nicely put! I am 47 and will graduate in December! As I read your post I am now perceiving that there may have been an element of this in WHY I didn't pursue nursing MANY years ago when I knew i wanted to. There were definitely other issues, but this make some sense to and me and strikes a chord...
    WOW!!! I hate when people hack up grammar and such...I re-read my post and it drives me crazy!!!!!!!!
    What I heard in my head was more like this "There were definitely other issues, but this makes some sense to me, and strikes a chord as well... :-) Good night! Exam at 0800
  11. Visit  Product profile page
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    My only response would be to advise you to not let your bad experiences let you form a stereotype that all male nurses are going to dislike you for being gay. Several of the guys in my nursing class are gay. Never really had a problem being around or working about gay men. Now I do consider myself close enough friends with some of them that they get teased about things just like I would tease any other guy. My working theory is if you have my back I have yours.

    I never thought about it until I read your post but it does now strike me as odd that so many of the guys I work with are into riding motorcycles, and are all into super masculine things. Now granted I think SOME of that is because we work in Trauma/ER which lends itself to a certain type of person, male or female. But yeah, maybe there is a level of subconscious that they are trying to show off their masculinity.
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    Furthermore, I dont see how THAT many true homo phobic's could thrive in nursing, I mean a usual day in the ER I have my finger deep in the ass of at least 1-2 men (I'm talking that kind of deep where you feel heat) not to mention the various male junk that needs to be cath'd and inspected. Dunno just seems like it would put those types of ppl at polar opposites with the nursing profession.
  13. Visit  caryrey02 profile page
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    Quote from cpl_dvldog
    Why is it that homosexual men feel the need to let everyone know they are gay by extremely feminate body language or even wearing female scrubs, but are annoyed when a straight man lets it be known he is not?

    There are two truths I have discovered working in hospitals
    1. At first sight male nurses are assumed to be doctors by patients.
    2. At first sight male nurses are assumed to be gay.

    I am NOT a doctor and I am NOT gay.
    The problem goes both ways... by posting this you are generalizing gay nurses (which should just be NURSES the same way str8 nurses are should only be seen ase NURSES) as being feminate and wearing female scrubs.... not the way to express yourself... I am gay, I wear male scrubs, really cool ones with lots of pockets, I conduct myself professionally (thats why I go to the hospital: because I am a health care professional) and I am EXTREMELY proud of being gay, my patients, fellow nurses and employer love the way I am and how I do my job...but I refuse to accept people describing gay individuals the way you just did it... it doesn't make you any better, it doesn't make you any "straighter"...

    We should all go the hospital trying to save our patient's lives and improve their quality of life period...but expect us the gay community to take same sh*t that we dont have to take because that is not written in any contract.
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