OK we get it STUD, you're straight - page 4
by bigrigcowboy 18,447 Views | 98 Comments
Something has been bothering me for quite some time on this forum and I have not known exactly what it was. Well I figured it out and y'all may not like it. So often when reading posts on the Men in Nursing or Male Nursing... Read More
- 5Jan 2, '11 by Destination1If I read one more post in which the man feels he must refer to himself as "Normal", "Married", "not one of them", "Real Man" etc. [not kidding, direct quotes] I am going to scream. You can say it STUD, we get it, you are straight and we're damn glad for you.
Did you scream? lol
Honestly I have never felt the need to prove my sexual orientation to anyone. But I do wonder sometimes when did it become abnormal to be straight? Did you ever consider that the behavior you are seeing in this forum is simply a normal behavior of many males regardless of their profession? We have all seen construction workers, truck drivers, carpenters, golf pros, doctors, lawyers, etc... proclaim their masculinity. And when on earth did telling someone Im married or have kids make me homophobic? Is there such a thing as a straightophob? I'm sure I've meet a few.
- 2Jan 12, '11 by scarecowQuote from That GuyNo I have not come to prefer that at all. I think it is insulting. A female officer to me is still an officer. A female soldier to me is still a soldier. I will not add a gender label to any position simply because it is not the norm.
I agree 100%. I would not want to be referred to as a "murse". It is condescending to the nursing field and unprofessional in the work place.
So a female nurse is a furse?? It just does not work.
- 1Jan 13, '11 by vizzleI am a man going into the nursing field, and I don't care if you think my sexual orientation is homosexual. There is no need to assert myself a married heterosexual. What does it matter what your fellow students, patients, professors think? Does it matter in the end? Are you suddenly going to turn gay if everyone thinks your gay? I think not. LOL the thought of having to assert my straightness is laughable.
To add, I don't care if your gay or straight as a fellow student. Hooray you made a different choice then I did. I do not think your going to come onto to me and try and change me. I won't change you.
- 9Jan 13, '11 by Conqueror+I think the problem starts when a man or woman gay or Straight, feels the need to shove it down your thoat and start going on an on about their preferences and escapades. I think sex is like politics, don't make it your soapbox at work/school and you won't run into this kind of garbage. I also refuse to live in fear of the PC police so if you ask me a direct question you will get an honest answer that you might not like. It isn't my job to walk on eggshells so some hypersensitive whiner doesn't get offended. I love Jesus, unborn babies and guns. I don't bring it up at work though. If you get in my face about it that's a different story. Don't put it out there if you don't wanna hear about it.Last edit by Conqueror+ on Jan 13, '11 : Reason: sp
- 1Jan 13, '11 by muneca13Omg...some of you guys are just so overly sensitive, I always mention my husband but because I'm proud of what I have not because I want anyone to know my sexual preference. Perhaps a guy who states the same feels the same and other prople who are self consious of themselves have a problem with it! They way we put things out ther is just human nature we always refer to people by what we see, hear so on and so forth... Men constantly criticize women but when you guys getting to yapping it your worse thanus girls...haha is that just another stereo type..sorrry boys!Don't worry guys because...
- 0Jan 14, '11 by ItsTheDudeQuote from bigrigcowboyha, healthcare/nursing as one of the most homophobic systems? i don't think so.So often when reading posts on the Men in Nursing or Male Nursing Student sections I feel like I am part of one of the most homophobic systems I have been a part of since I left the US Navy.
- 0Jan 15, '11 by eriksolnQuote from bigrigcowboySomething has been bothering me for quite some time on this forum and I have not known exactly what it was. Well I figured it out and y'all may not like it.
So often when reading posts on the Men in Nursing or Male Nursing Student sections I feel like I am part of one of the most homophobic systems I have been a part of since I left the US Navy.
If I read one more post in which the man feels he must refer to himself as "Normal", "Married", "not one of them", "Real Man" etc. [not kidding, direct quotes] I am going to scream. You can say it STUD, we get it, you are straight and we're damn glad for you. [better you than me]
One question I want to ask you students is just how the hell do you know for sure which of the guys in your class are "abNormal", "unMarried", "one of them", "not a Real Man" etc. have your instructors had everyone disclose their sexual orientation during introductions? I have seen pretty well adjusted men turn up the testosterone so far when in the presence of a known gay man that they loose all sense and become flaming A**HOLES to prove that they are not "one of them". Not a way to become part of the team sparky.
Let me give all you Normal, Married, Real Men a reality check. The cold hard truth is that there are gay men in nursing. Thank goodness nursing has been a profession that really didn't care one way or the other as long as you were a good nurse. Unfortunately the schools and media in an effort to make sure everyone knows all male nurses aren't gay [Are you man enough campaign?] that it feels like we are being pushed back into the closet.
Last piece of advice and I will shut up. DO NOT ASSUME. I assure you when you meet me you will not know that I am gay; I love NASCAR, Rodeo, Horses, Motorcycles, camping, just like a real man. The only difference is that my SO is a man. The one stereotype I will admit to here is I can be one vindictive ***** and I will not be receptive to your good ole boy jokes or you making sure I know you are not "one of them".
So yes there are more and more men entering nursing which is a great thing, but like any change their will be growing pains, we need to identify them, not sweep them under the rug and hope they go away.
This stuff makes me laugh actually. I guess I'm fortunate in that I've become immune to worrying about what others thought my sexuality was. I had no choice. I would be a stark raving lunatic if it did matter to me.
1. I'm a nurse.
2. I despise beer, my fav. drink is an appletini.
3. I LOVE animated movies and enjoy the occasional romantic comedy.
4. I worry about/notice things other guys don't: If a certain picture I would like to buy will compliment my furniture.
Yeah, I get a lot of assumptions about my sexuality. Hey, I'm not afraid to admit it, when it comes to booze and usually with movies.............the women get it right.
Sometimes, when I know another male nurse is convinced of me being "abNORMAL, unMARRIED or ONE of them", I'll talk about a date I've been on recently. I don't disclose that said date was with a female though...................."We went to have sushi, then walked around the bookstore comparing literature tastes, took a trip up to the look out to see a nice view of downtown at night then went back to my place."
Ooooh, you can see them getting so uncomfortable. Then I'll wait a few days and let it slip I was out with a female. I had one guy who didn't believe me. LOL. I just love pushing buttons though.
I hope I never get in trouble for that.