My girlfriend is afraid that I might meet another girl in the nursing program...

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She has some concern, but honestly I don't blame her. I'll be going to school with lots of beautiful nursing students and we will all be working closely together. Also they say your classmates in nursing school become friends for life. This closeness with other girls seems to always threaten the current girl in your life in my experience. Also she said that I probably wont have that much time for her. 1 day per week I'm guessing?? I start nursing school in 1 year from now.

I do not plan on hooking up/dating any of my classmates because 1) I love my girlfriend and she could possibly become my wife 2) I do not want to jeopardize in anyway my schoolwork.

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Haha makes me wonder what I would do if I was ever put in that situation. :D

You would become insane like I am.

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You would become insane like I am.

:D The words "I shouldn't ask" are coming to mind... ^_^

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Tonight is the night that I put on big clown shoes and do The Forbidden Dance of the Irish Yak Herders. That's just plane crazy because there are no yaks in Ireland. I want my meds NOW!

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You need to decide if you want to marry someone with these kind of trust issues. If she is like this now, not having even seen what environment your nursing school is like, what will happen when you start working in a hospital and she is your wife? Hmmmm.

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You need to decide if you want to marry someone with these kind of trust issues. If she is like this now, not having even seen what environment your nursing school is like, what will happen when you start working in a hospital and she is your wife? Hmmmm.

To the OP... I will piggyback on this quote... my ex girlfriend had trust issues like this. I can only say one thing: if she doesn't change and get comfortable with this, run like hell.

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Wow.... I just have to say that I was in a relationship somewhat similar to this before I started NS. My ex (operative word) was concerned that I'd be working with "hot doctors" all the time. I had to remind him that real life in the hospital is NOT like Grey's Anatomy. Honestly, most people in the program (at least in mine) will be too busy becoming a nurse and learning how to deal with life & death issues to even maintain the relationship that they have, much less start a new one.

I agree with a previous poster that many times your NS buddies will be like your family.

Ultimately, it sounds like you and your GF have some serious things to take a look at and explore - why is this even an issue? You're already worried/thinking about cheating and you don't even start NS for another year?

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Well, it's quite clear that your girlfriend either doesn't trust you, self-concious about herself, or has been hurt in the past. If you guys can't come to some type common grounds with the situation then she's gonna give you trouble everyday! Nursing is swarming with women!

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I agree with many of the posts here. I think it would be best to sit down and find out why she feels like that. Keeping communication open can sure be a major plus in a situation like this.

Best of luck man!

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She has some concern, but honestly I don't blame her. I'll be going to school with lots of beautiful nursing students and we will all be working closely together. Also they say your classmates in nursing school become friends for life. This closeness with other girls seems to always threaten the current girl in your life in my experience. Also she said that I probably wont have that much time for her. 1 day per week I'm guessing?? I start nursing school in 1 year from now.

I do not plan on hooking up/dating any of my classmates because 1) I love my girlfriend and she could possibly become my wife 2) I do not want to jeopardize in anyway my schoolwork.

Input?

Keep it simple man. Tell her there's not going to be anyone in the program as beautiful as her. As far as the time commitment goes, be honest but show her you're determined to do your best. Let her know while your time together will suffer for a while, you're doing this to build a better life for the both of you.

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If you want to be a nurse go for it. If you have trouble now with her what will you experience when you are in school. She sounds to be very possessive. If she can't understand your dream and a little thing like going to school with women bothers her this much, what is she going to be like when you get a job and most of your co-workers are women. Sit her down and say this is what I'm going to do for the rest of my life. If you have a problem with that, if you can't trust me, well so long. Don't trade your dreams for hers.

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If you want to be a nurse go for it. If you have trouble now with her what will you experience when you are in school. She sounds to be very possessive. If she can't understand your dream and a little thing like going to school with women bothers her this much, what is she going to be like when you get a job and most of your co-workers are women. Sit her down and say this is what I'm going to do for the rest of my life. If you have a problem with that, if you can't trust me, well so long. Don't trade your dreams for hers.

Bravo, this is a flawless response to this original issue. Well done sir!

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Bravo, this is a flawless response to this original issue. Well done sir!

Thank you. I've been were the OP is and I'm no Cary Grant.

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